I can't believe it

[herewegoagain123456]

Knew time poster but just need some help!!

So I have just woken up at my boyfriends house, he turned over to check the time on his phone and was taking a while....so my senses started tingling!

He got up to clean his teeth so I thought I would check.....low and behold a message from an unknown number with a broken heart sent!

He originally tried to say he doesn't know anything about it and then admitted she's from bumble but only got her number Thursday and still claims nothing has happened and doesn't no why she would send a broken heart 😢

There's more to this right?

I can't stop crying....I'm gutted as this isn't the first time so he was on his last thread anyway

Even if he's telling the truth, that's still good enough reason to break up, especially if he's done it before. You don't need this. Nobody deserves this sort of treatment.

Sending hugs xx

This is not going to be a happy relationship for you. I’d get out now.

Not the first time? Stop talking to him about it and just leave. Find your self respect. You engaging with his nonsense explanations is not you having self-respect.

Stop talking, ignore absolutely every word he says, flounce with a dramatic hair flick, a slammed door, block and delete.

So your boyfriend is on dating websites, taking womens numbers and talking to them, whilst he's right next to you, in the hope to meet up with them?

C'mon, OP, he's a dog! You know you can't stay with him.

I know...he just promised he wouldn't do it again and stupidly I trusted him!

After a massive row this morning, him getting angry and punching the steering wheel because I wouldn't listen, he finally dropped me home and then I deleted and blocked him on everything!

I don't need that twat!

Just so sad that I trusted him again 🤦🏻‍♀️

Punching the steering wheel?

Fuck OP, I had this shit years ago with my first DP. Gets caught out , gets angry.

Do not waste another SECOND on this prick....please. stay away, find a lovely new man, hes an absolute arsehole and he will hurt you again and again if you let him x

Punching the steering wheel because you won't agree to do as you are told. Pffft. What a dickhead.

Keep him blocked. You’ve dodged a bullet.

Come on - OP. He’s a lying cheating chancer if a scumbag. He’s laying you, he’s probably playing her - and probably countless others.

He's angry because you're not the type of woman to believe his bullshit. He's a liar and a cheat, OP. You said yourself he was on his last chance and he blew it.

You've dogems a bullet there OP.

Absolutely do not unblock!!

Well done!

And when you feel weak and want to see him, come here and get the support of thousands of women!!

The broken heart symbol was probably from someone who wants his attention(love) and has been told by your BF that he don't want her because he is with you.
Yep, You are better apart. You can not trust him!

He doesn't like being caught out huh... scumbag

Thankyou for all your replies!

Yes he does have a temper on him! Not the first time he's punched things or thrown things close to my head when I wouldn't listen to his lies!

I'm not going to unblock him...last chance well and truly over!

I keep wanting to unblock him tho and just shout at him but I know he will worm his way back in! I can't let that happen this time!

What do I do about his stuff at mine and mine at his? Just forget about it? It's only a few items of clothes?

Collect up his stuff, put it in a box. Drop it at his place of work/parents/friends, preferably when he’s not there. Do not contact him about it.

Box his stuff up straight away and drop it off somewhere for him. Shows your serious.

Dont keep it, or use it as an excuse to get in touch

Remember if you do let him back in, HE WILL DO IT AGAIN, be strong, find someone decent and stop wasting your time with a dickhead

X

You’ve dodged a bullet as they say.

Make some plans with friends to cheer yourself up and keep busy

Do not unblock him!!!. Love your own self for a change.

Put his clothes in a bin bag and take them to his mother's.

Have a think too about what you learnt about relationships when you were growing up. Do consider enrolling yourself onto the Freedom Programme run by Womens Aid; doing this will help you recognise "The Loser" types far earlier in relationships as well so you can avoid them.

This article may also be helpful to you:-
www.drjoecarver.com/clients/49355/File/IdentifyingLosers.html

How long were you together?

Even better put his stuff in a bag and give it to someone else to drop off at his work/flat/mum/bff/sidechick

The trick to good relationships is being quick to dump. We all meet men who turn out to be dicks. Dumping quick is the magic trick.

That way you have stories to tell on MN of OMG let me tell you about this guy I went on a few dates with not I always have the most awful long term relationships

Okay good idea!

I'll put it in a bag and drop it of the gym owner as he is a mutual friend of ours!

We were together 3 years!

I have just had a text of an unknown number...saying "I want you sooo bad, I will make this right"
So it's obviously him 🤦🏻‍♀️

You dodged a massive bullet there, op.

I hope so!

I have tried so many times to leave him! So hopefully this time I can stick to my decision and not let him persuade me otherwise

Please stay away you deserve better. X