I can't believe it

[herewegoagain123456]

Knew time poster but just need some help!!

So I have just woken up at my boyfriends house, he turned over to check the time on his phone and was taking a while....so my senses started tingling!

He got up to clean his teeth so I thought I would check.....low and behold a message from an unknown number with a broken heart sent!

He originally tried to say he doesn't know anything about it and then admitted she's from bumble but only got her number Thursday and still claims nothing has happened and doesn't no why she would send a broken heart 😢

There's more to this right?

I can't stop crying....I'm gutted as this isn't the first time so he was on his last thread anyway

Maybe you don't miss him, but the idea of what the relationship could have been had he not been a liar and a cheat.

It's scary being alone so that could be a factor in missing him. But he, as a person, is pond scum. Keep being strong and read all the comments back when you feel your resolve weakening.

Actually yes I think it's the idea of being in a relationship as I have always been in one and yes every decision I made was revolved round him!
So I am excited actually to start doing stuff for me again!

Yea actually when you put it like that I did ignore it! Of course she wasn't lieing! Idiot!

Being single for at least a year could change your life.

God I hope so!

That will be my aim then!

Been reading a lot on narcissists recently and trauma bonding! All sounds very familiar!

Turning 30 this year....life starts at 30 right? 😂

The very fact you felt the need to check his phone tells you everything you need to know. Him then lying about it just compounds it.

Onwards and upwards.

Life starts whenever you decide to start again!

For me, it was at 29, 36, and 49. I'm now 53 and love the person I've created (me!) And if it weren't for all the twats and toxic relationships I had before, I wouldn't be where I am now.

Well done, OP!! Enjoy recreating yourself!

I meant re-inventing.

Help I don't know what to do...

He's just turned up at my house! Started argueing and he got angry so I have had to run out my house to escape him!

Who do I ring?

Police. 999.

Seriously call them. Nip this right in the bud.

Yes 999.

Defo police. He thinks you'll go back to him as you've done so in the past. Make it known you mean it this time

999 - right now!!!!!
Is there a police station nearby?

Police.

What a twat.

I promise OP, it does get better

He stalked after your last break up - didn't you hear the warning bells then? Or did you think it was romantic. Please call the police.

Yes, the story about the ex turning up and slapping him, then them disappearing together didn't really say stable, well rounded individual. Sounds like they're cut from the same cloth.

I'm on the phone to 101 now...on hold!

This is the worst he's been!

Didn't want to have to do this but he's left me no choice

I don't think it's 101 you want, OP.

Oh dear. Minimising again. You were chased out of your house in fear. If it were a stranger you wouldn't be on hold to 101 you would be on 999.

Call the right number. Stop minimising.

Okay I did it!

I rang 999

I feel So dramatic

Just got home and luckily he's not here but I did have a note posted through my letterbox begging for help!

What did the note say??

Begging for help to do what?