The Happy Singleton- Part Two

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Ta-dah! Welcome to all our happily (sometimes, admittedly, less so!) single peeps! All welcome, whether your recently singled or a long-term singleton.

We've got this solo thing sorted (-ish!)

@misty9 do your thang!

hey can I please join you lovely lot?. I recently found out that ‘d’p has been cheating on me throughout the 2 years we’ve been together. I’m pregnant and he’s decided he still wants to be in this babies life but I’m finding it so difficult to see him and act normal. Especially because he’s now with the OW

@Rebmethewrongway I am so sorry to hear you've has a rough time. I hope you can accept and believe that not only is none of this your doing, but that you will come out the other side stronger. Welcome to our gaggle of amazing women.

@exhauated101 welcome to you too! And you are super woman. Any man would be lucky to have such a powerhouse. Short answer though is that they need to be worthy of your time, given how precious and valuable it is!

@shitwithsugaron good luck today! You'll be amazing. If it doesn't happen though, it wasn't meant to be x

Sorry to hear that @Rebmethewrongway that's just awful. I know what it feels like (though my ex and I didn't have kids) and wanted to reiterate what @Mildlymiffed said, this wasn't your fault, its down to a failing of his. Sending you lots of strength

Omg I've just been scammed and feel so shaken up luckily I think I've stopped it in time but it's a horrible feeling and leaves you feeling so vulnerable. I could cry right now but I need to go and get the kids. It was a phone scam via computer virus protection. I can't believe I was so stupid to let someone have remote access to my laptop!

Sorry @Rebmethewrongway what a bloody horrible thing to happen to you he doesn't deserve you and you sound lovely

Welcome to those new folk that have found their way here - it’s a nice safe haven for singles. You can rant/moan/ponder/whitter to your hearts desire.

Oh crikey @Misty9 are you sure you’re ok? Sounds pretty horrible.

Shaken but okay I think. It's scary how easily it happens in a plausible context luckily exh is a computer geek and it was him who I called and he told me to turn off my WiFi immediately. He has his uses I suppose!

I'm gonna call my best friend this evening to offload. Things like this really highlight how alone you can feel with no one to talk to at home

How did it go @shitwithsugaron ?

@Sharon (as you shall now be known) sounds like a very positive result - I’m sure you made an excellent impression (I always follow my key rules: no spitting, no swearing, no skirt accidentally tucked into knickers or toilet roll stuck to my shoe). Never failed.

Can I ask a question regarding FWB? Several people have mentioned having one. Where on earth do you find them? FWB.com???

I’m asking for a friend.. obviously

Can I hop on please? I’ve been separated from Exp for 3 months now and still struggling. We broke up after I found out he had been seeing prostitutes and doing drugs. I’ve told him he can’t see the children until he sorts himself out, and so far he has made zero attempt to do that.

Welcome all newbies. Lovely to have you on here.

@shitwithsugaron glad today went really well.

Oh god @Misty9 hope you are ok. It's so easy to get caught up in those. Because they design everything so well.

On the FWB I agree with shitwith fab swinger is good for that. It is an awful minefield but you can put rules in place to help. My FWB's have either come from different places. One was from Instagram, got talking to a guy and he lasted 10 months or so and the other from bumble. I just said that's what I was after on there for a bit. Worked well I prob got more matches than I do when I hadn't stated it.

I actually find I get "hit on" more through twitter and Instagram than I do on dating sites (when I'm on there)

I feel a bit silly but tbh I'm not okay I feel really vulnerable and alone. I'm sure I'll feel better tomorrow but right now I wish I had someone to just hold me.

Oh @Misty9 - here’s a big hug, and a pat on the back for getting through a shitty situation on your own. But you did it!!!! Which means you’re resilient. And it could happen to any one of us. Can you call your friend? Lots more sympathy here for you chuck

@Misty9 I'm sorry you've had a shit day. I know what you mean about feeling alone. Again, this evening not feeling 100%- so feel a bit low too. Gah. Going to get jimjams on and crawl into bed, and watch sex education! Hoping a giggle will cheer me up. I get ds back tomorrow. Decided he can be my happy place. We can have movie evening 🙂. If we're feeling brighter over the weekend going to head up to ikea and buy a couple of bookcases!

Oh @Misty9 I'm sorry you are feeling like this. But like @Upyerbum70 says you handled it the best way you could. You should be proud, what happened to you, could happen to anyone. So please don't blame yourself.

That sounds like a good evening @mildlymiffed planned. Hopefully comedy will help and that movie night tomorrow sounds perfect.

I really need to get my mojo back with decorating. I started and finished the kitchen. But most of the house still needs doing. And I really can't be bothered after work. I have all these plans to start another room. But I Finish work, walk the dog, potter about then sit down and I don't want to get back up. Really need to get it started. I'm doing the gym in my lunch break each day. So I'm feeling even more tired when I get home. Any tips on motivation finding... send them my way ladies

@Upyerbum70 isn’t pof full of people looking for FWB?.

@Misty9 I’m sorry sorry you’re feeling that way lovely❤️❤️

@lifegoes I had so much decorating to do when I first got my house but I’m almost done now!. DD is moving into DS’s room soon so I need to sort that out. Other than that I’m okay with my house, my kitchen and diner are a bright yellow with old tiles on the floor but I quite like it so that doesn’t need to be done anytime soon

I’m feeling okay today. I messaged ExP to ask how he was doing and he has completely blanked it. I’m really struggling with guilt, but he ended up making us all in debt and I had people come to my house trying to get him to pay them back. So I have to keep reminding myself I had to think about myself and my children, not him

Oh ladies! Sending many hugs!

@Misty9 don't feel stupid, this scam shit works because they are good at it and extremely convincing :( definitely not your fault and you sound like you dealt with it well once you clocked it. Utter cockwombles. Do you have hot water bottles? I sometimes put one in a pillow and lean against it in bed, not a hug substitute but somehow very very soothing.

New ladies, welcome!

I'm approaching the third anniversary of Dad's death this weekend so am accepting my body and brain's need for minimal exertion, ambushes of tears and early nights. Isn't grief fun?! Fortunately it's quite a quiet week and tomorrow I just have a couple of galleries to finish off and deliver to clients and one meeting, phew.

Haven't been in bed this early for months but hoping will reap the benefits in the morning?!

@Misty9 a big hug from me too. You’re only human. And those scumbags are well versed, it could have been any of us. If it was me, what would you say?

@mildlymiffed enjoy movie night :) how old is your DS?
@undersoveraessedai I’m sorry. Be kind to yourself.

Good grief, there is an app for FWB?!!! My word! My little world does not compute 😂

@lifegoes I’m a great believer in the 4 o’clock coffee. Preferably with a slice of cake. That gives me enough energy to tackle the house when I get in. Like you, I have a dog. I also have a teenager who thinks it’s my duty to clean. And I like my classes at the gym in the evening.

A huge welcome to all the newbies :)

It’s bedtime for me :)

How long did it take you @nosleepp you must be so happy it's all done. I'm in awe of you. I had quite a bit of work done before Christmas and decided to start decorating every room. I got a few done but then Christmas and birthdays happened. So it was put on hold. It's now just tackling each room.

That's good advice @BuddhaAtSea I could def to coffee and cake at any time haha. I also have a son he's 21 but still lives at home. He gets in from work and whilst he's great and will cook and wash his clothes etc. He's just a man and I find myself similar to you. I end up tidying up after him 🙄 I have no idea why he feels the need to drop his dirty clothes NEXT to the washing basket. Or use every product in the bathroom and leave them all over. Walks over his clothes on the stairs. (Sorry off on a rant there ha)

But I'm going to try that actually. A bit of pick me up and aim to do 2 hours a night. That will help I think.