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The Happy Singleton- Part Two

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mildlymiffed · 01/03/2020 22:47

Ta-dah! Welcome to all our happily (sometimes, admittedly, less so!) single peeps! All welcome, whether your recently singled or a long-term singleton.

We've got this solo thing sorted (-ish!)

@misty9 do your thang!

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Accidentalaccountant · 04/03/2020 06:51

Blimy so many messages. Budda roughly what do you do? I am on a week off so having a week of self care. Hair, dentist, counsellor etc.
I am also 50 this year and in a moment of fuck it have booked 5 holidays and am test driving a new car today🚗🚗🚗
Have a good day all. X

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Itsallpointless · 04/03/2020 07:53

Morning..I'm just checking in and haven't read any messages yet, a very long work day yesterdaySad

Have a good halfway through the week dayGrin

Upyerbum70 · 04/03/2020 10:22

@Accidentalaccountant we are the same age - sounds like you have a fabulous year planned. Go you. Send us all postcards 😆

@Itsallpointless sorry your day was long and hard yesterday. Only 3 more to go . I won’t rub it in that I have today and tomorrow off . But then I have to work the weekend .

@shitwithsugaron nope that particular turn of phrase never reached our house - though plenty of other questionable phrases did , all of which my DM denies flat out.

I’m supposed to be ‘doing stuff’ ruddy but only got as far as a load of washing and lots of cups of tea. Need a rocket up my bum. This thread is ideal for procrastinators.

milkshakesavedme · 04/03/2020 10:47

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mildlymiffed · 04/03/2020 13:43

Ooooooh... what did the last poster say? Were they naughty?! I missed it!

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lifegoes · 04/03/2020 15:23

Hey @shitwithsugaron I'm really good thank you. You ok after everything?

I did wonder too @mildlymiffed 🤔

Upyerbum70 · 04/03/2020 15:42

Must admit , I wondered too,but I do have an overactive imagination

Eesha · 04/03/2020 15:44

Maybe an advert? Meet the man of your dreams if you buy this magic oil etc Smile

Upyerbum70 · 04/03/2020 15:58

Oh... is that all... yawn

Upyerbum70 · 04/03/2020 15:58

Lampshade of my dreams? Now you’re talking

Rainydayss · 04/03/2020 16:47

Just catching up with this thread. Recent developments to my amicable split with the husband last year. Turns out his new girlfriend isn't exactly now and was very much on the scene for the past 5 years! A combination of gut instant and social media stalking confirmed.
What a complete knobcheese!

lifegoes · 04/03/2020 17:05

Oh @Rainydayss I'm sorry to hear that. It's amazing how our gut instinct tells us so much. Yet sometimes we try to convince ourselves it's just paranoia or we are wrong. The truth always comes out though. Hope you are ok

Rainydayss · 04/03/2020 17:37

Thanks, Ill be ok. Life lesson is definitely listen to gut - Ill never doubt it again!
Just debating chucking his stuff that he hasn't removed from the house on the drive and doing a rain dance!

lifegoes · 04/03/2020 17:45

Yeah @Rainydayss but we are all guilty of ignoring it from time to time. Mainly because we don't want to look foolish if we are wrong. I wish I'd listened to mine a few times.

I set them on fire tbh. 😂😂

Upyerbum70 · 04/03/2020 17:46

I vote for putting his stuff on the drive.

Rainydayss · 04/03/2020 17:55

He'd definitely once of those men you'd say 'he'd never do that, he's so loyal etc'.....I pity anyone who claims that about their DH now

undercoveraessedai · 04/03/2020 17:57

@SirChing aww what a lovely thing to say! Also just catching up on thread 1 and yes I am up for a meetup! Am East Anglia too (Essex/Suffolk) ☺️

SirChing · 04/03/2020 18:37

@Rainydayss Oh that's an awful thing to find out. Do you feel worse for knowing or glad you can trust your instincts and furious he made you doubt them? It's so bloody crap of him. 5 years! Sheesh!

You did nothing wrong by believing him. Trust is huge in a marriage and if you HADNT believed him and he hadn't been shagging about, that would have been dreadful too.

This is ALL on him. I think we doubt our instincts because we can't believe that people would act in a way that goes against everything we thought they were AND which they profess to be.

Trusting someone you love is a good thing to do in all relationships. If the other person breaks that, they are the idiots who have done something wrong. It never makes the deceived partner a fool, though its a cruel twist of fate that they often feel like one. Keep your head up high knowing that you treated him how a partner should be treated. He failed to do the same.

Flowers Any plans to put chilli powder and itching powder in all his remaining belongings? Or maybe some cress seeds and a light sprinkling of water before you give them back? Prawn in a pocket?

We can give you a good alibi. If it escalates and you need to hide his body, let us know and we can get our spades sharpened. I have a cellar with a fairly loose floor........WinkGrin

@undercoveraessedai it's true! And yippee for a meet up (possibly revised location of my cellar with spades and @Rainydayss ex......)

SirChing · 04/03/2020 18:39

Gutted I missed whatever the message was that was deleted.......intriguing!

undercoveraessedai · 04/03/2020 18:43

Prawn in a pocket made me actual gigglesnort...

Let's do it, I have some heavy duty spades kicking around somewhere Grin

(hashtag single solidarity?!)

Rainydayss · 04/03/2020 18:56

love that Sirching.
Prawn in the pocket all the way, although reluctant to waste a perfectly good prawn.
I've just found out this week, yet last week he had the cheek to introduce the DCs to her as the new girlfriend. Then I found out the truth of the betrayal and I launched into a rant about how that woman has no morals or integrity and not the type of person I want around them.

A meet up would be great! I'm midlands but happy to travel

Eesha · 04/03/2020 19:11

@Rainydayss what a crap thing. I also wouldn't be happy with her meeting the kids though not sure what you can do about that one. Some people have no shame (like Boris s mistress etc!)

SirChing · 04/03/2020 19:23

Then I found out the truth of the betrayal and I launched into a rant about how that woman has no morals or integrity and not the type of person I want around them

Oh God, I didn't think about that aspect of things. On the plus side, he is clearly going to do what he wants anyway, but by keeping your powder dry, your kids will think you are the personification of class when they learn the truth in time.

Seems like both she and him aren't blessed with values. He's worse though because he is the one who made the vows. Arsehole.

I didn't mean a FRESH prawn. I meant one that you had perhaps cultivated in the airing cupboard in Tupperware for a few days. THAT prawn in a pocket (if you can hold it still enough to get it in there.....or it may walk in by itself by that point).

What would REALLY piss off your ex AND his not so new shagpiece, would be if you pretended to not give a single fuck what they get up to. And just look pityingly at her every time you see her. It will drive her nuts abd piss him off. Yet you aren't doing anything wrong. God, I am starting to worry about myself! Grin

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