The Happy Singleton- Part Two

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Ta-dah! Welcome to all our happily (sometimes, admittedly, less so!) single peeps! All welcome, whether your recently singled or a long-term singleton.

We've got this solo thing sorted (-ish!)

@misty9 do your thang!

Because of the non essential travel advice and the potential of us getting stuck here our travel company is bringing us home. It's a shame. I was looking forward to Kyoto. But to be honest. If this is the worst thing to happen to my family during this crisis. We've got away lightly. Xxx

Just about got over the jet lag coming here. Now I'm off home. But I will ge back. Very impressed with japan.

Hello people,

How is everyone doing? My toddlers have picked up a vomiting bug and looks like I might be getting it too. Not ideal in this situation as all I want to do is sleep but they are all over me. Thankfully it seems to just be a 48hr one for them. Sods law and I'd batch cooked a lot which can't now be frozen so it's a choice of eating and potentially being sick or binning. I have s real problem with waste!

Dreading potential lockdowns due to my light claustrophobia so may go stay with family for company if it actually happens.

Hi everyone. Haven't posted as been busy with CV isolation. Ex and I made the decision to pull DD from school last night. He has MS and I have a shite immune system, and my mum and her other half who help out with childcare when my fibro is too bad, are near their 70s. DD was really worried about catching the CV and infecting us. Hearing school had run out of soap in the loos was the final straw. I had a temp yesterday so phoned and told school we were all self isolating for 14 days. We have decided to isolate all together to help each other, and I am popping home each day to feed the cat.

I hope everyone else is sorted out if we are locked down. It won't be fun but it's a damn sight better than being dead I suppose.

So glad your sister is ok Mulberry. And huge (distanced!) hugs to everyone else xxx

Hope you feel better soon @SirChing. We all have a vomiting/poo bug but today one of mine said she had a sore throat. ARGHHH. No temp though. I'm looking forward to normality when this is all over, has really put lots of things in perspective.

@Eesha thanks. Hope your little ones are feeling better today. I agree re normality and perspective. I wish it would go back to how it was. Four months off school - possibly! 😱 we will all be basket cases by the end of it!

Autumn that is s o weird. We flew out of Tokyo Tuesday night. Came back via Dubai. Totally agree 're the loo roll. Wish I'd filled up my rucksack with it now. Hope you got back ok.

This made me really laugh in these troubled times:

www.facebook.com/iain.mackers.3975/videos/343820033246774/

Hi 👋👋👋 I'm me to this thread.

Newly single (kinda) on off relationship with DS father the past year but this is the first time we have done NC and it's been 2 weeks so far (or a little over that). I did and do sometimes find it difficult as I desperately wanted to remain friends in the hope that we could co parent our DS (never gonna happen as he is an alcoholic and had been mentally abusive for so long) so currently we are going through solicitors for contact as he's really not fit to have him alone. Hoping contact centre but just hoping he cares enough to commit to it... Solicitors are taking forever though so nothing has progressed.

Since out NC he has frantically been using his social media as a dating portal with any girl he has contact with on 'tinder' adding straight to his social media..... They are all around 10 years younger than him. Makes me a little sick knowing his behaviours. Not saying he's not aloud to date but the whole serial sleazy desperate thing give me the dry boak for the kind of person my DS is gonna have as a father. If anything I would rather he met a nice girl and changed for her so my DS had a normalish situation to be around. I don't think he will hold anyone down though as he's too messed up and refuses to get help so the cracks will show eventually.

Anyone else similar? The time my DS is loosing with him worried me as he's still a baby and I'm worried it will be harder to create a bond between them by the time contact centre can be arranged and I'm also worried the ex will stop caring about seeing him and not bother (ofcourse' this will be my fault for 'stopping him seeing his DS' as I've been reminded frequently).

It's all a headache but I'm happy to be single just how and just breathe and try to work on me rather than drag some poor guy into my shot storm life right now. 🤭

hi can i join, it’s almost a year on from my breakup. he cheated on me, kicked me out the family home bcuz i wasn’t on the mortgage. me and my boys had to move out and they can’t stay at his cuz they don’t have bedrooms cuz he made their rooms into his ow’s kids rooms.

Hi, can I join? Newly separated after five year relationship. It was my decision and the right thing to do, but it's still hard at times. I live alone, but dc is home from uni, which is really nice. I'm also hoping to get a rescue dog, waiting for a home check now.

Hi @sunshinemachine that is brutal regarding the boys and him not even keeping their bedrooms. Really how horrid!! Do they still visit him? They must feel pretty bad with that? How you getting on being single otherwise?

Hi @Ijustneed mines is a farely new break up too, well it was back and fore for a year... I moved out a year ago and got my own place but we just recently stopped contact, it's difficult but it'll pass. That's nice you have your boy home from uni, just at the right time.

Thanks @LillyJean1 we didn't live together, but the relationship has been rocky for a long time. I know it's the right thing to do, I just feel empty at times, it's very new that we've no contact. It's difficult when we can't even go out to meet people to distract ourselves too. I'm so glad dc is here, safe with me and we can keep each other company. I hope the sad feelings will pass for us both.

@LillyJean1 he takes them out to the park but he isn’t consistent wiv that. my eldest gets upset but my youngest is 2 little 2 understand. other than that i’m doing okay :)

Good evening all. Sorry not read the full thread. Hope you’re all coping with social distancing. My guess are with their dad this week (he was soooooo reluctant) so I Steve Mother’s dsd on my own. Bit weird. My neighbour brought me a lovely pudding at teatime which actually made me cry- she knew I was by myself.

I’ve lost one income - as I’m sure lots of people have - but I’m very fortunate to have another. Anyway - I have found a good way to keep spirits up . Loud music - mostly Stone Roses/ABBA - in the kitchen and a lot of dancing around. Burns a few calories. Even made a couple of funny vids and sent to (close) friends. Hoping they’ll reciprocate. Day 2 of being on my own. Even the cat is bored of me.

Back to work tomorrow. Heaven only knows what that will bring. Wishing you all good strong mental and physical health. Let the sun shine on our faces.

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Afternoon all. Hope everyone is keeping as safe and well as possible in these weird as fuck times.

Welcome to everyone new

@LillyJean1 Your ex sounds like a prize knobhead. If he is unable to parent your DS safely due to his alcoholism, then a contact centre is necessary. He is CHOOSING that option by drinking. You are prioritising your DSs welfare are your ex isn't. You are doing the right thing. Huge kudos to you for both leaving him and sticking to your guns.

@sunshinemachine Your ex sounds like a nasty bastard too. What fucker prioritises the kids of their new partner over their own? He has shown himself to be unworthy of being a parent. Arsehole.

These men will be hated by their kids when they grow up. I thank the Lord that my mum booted out my alcoholic waster father when I was 10 months old, and stopped him seeing me altogether when I was 6 as it was upsetting me seeing him irregularly. He is dead now (from alcoholism) and all I feel towards him is pity for being such a sad bastard, and in awe of my mum for making the hard but right choices.

I have no doubt your kids will feel the same. Truly

@Ijustneed that sounds really difficult too. Sometimes it isn't them who we miss but they still leave a huge hole behind that they used to fill. So even if splitting is the right thing, it's bloody weird. Glad your DC is with you.

Hi @Upyerbum70! That sucks about being in your own. So glad you have a lovely neighbour and are keeping your mates amused with dancing. You know you have to send it to your neighbour now, right? As cake = friends. If you want to post it here too, we won't laugh.....much 😂😂😂 Here is cake as payment

I am self isolating due to CV symptoms. Not as bad as I thought it would be. My sexy neighbour who has it also appears to still be alive. Which is good as I can still ogle him then.

Life here is a bit tricky as ex is still going into work. He isnt having DD at the weekends until he has worked from home for 14 days. I can't risk her getting it and bringing it to me or her grandma's who we are isolating with (though I have come home alone to isolate away from them due to my lurgy). Ex isn't happy but understands.

Ex was even less happy when I pointed out that if he is still meeting up with his girlfriend for shags, that DD won't be going to him, due to the risk of him catching it from her. So he has broken the news to her that they can't see each other Until this is over.

My (prospective) other half lived in Hong Kong through SARS and was laying eggs with worry about us being exposed to this CV via my ex. I am not seeing him until all this is over (which could be months, but his mum is vulnerable and we don't want to take chances) so my ex can do his bit too.

Am I still allowed on here when, strictly speaking, I am no longer single? I am physically, but my heart appears to have been stolen.

thank you @SirChing x

Thank you @SirChing such a difficult time for everyone right now isn't it? Especially families who are apart because you never know what they are truly doing and if they are being careful with this but your right to ask him not to be as socially active with his GF as it's households only. I am glad I'm not on contact with my ex at the minute as he is the type to ignore all the news and do as he pleases. He thinks he's invincible. Everything is on pause it's tough I can't imagine especially for new relationships too.

How's everyone else coping?

Hey loves, how are you all getting on? I have been thinking of you lots but the last couple of weeks have been a whirlwind - somehow it's the end of the world (ish) and I am still busy?!

Sadly busy mostly with trying to shore up my business which lost all clients in the space of three days when all of this happened, and fielding calls from other devastated business owners :( Doing my best to keep my spirits up, mostly by posting selfies of me in a unicorn onesie (and seriously considering going for my daily exercise while wearing it, just to make some of my neighbours smile!)

I am relieved to be isolated alone, though missing being able to see Mum and my friends, and worried for Mum being on her own - but living together isn't practical unless one of us is ill, as we are each other's main support.

Sending hugs and and to anyone who needs it - I'm not so hot at checking MN but am in the Facebook group and always happy to chat if anyone is feeling lost.

@SirChing don't you dare vanish, heart stolen or no heart stolen!! You are definitely allowed to stay x

Hi, weird how this thread has ground to a half whilst more of us are at home! I've been working from home for just over a week now and its okay. I live alone so I am bothering friends and family more often...

Sending best wishes to everyone out there. Hope you're feeling okay @SirChing?

Hi everyone. Still alive here at Covid Towers! Me and the car are isolating. Well I am. She is getting about to all the neighbours and begging for treats. Little tart!

Out of isolation on Tuesday thank God. Cant wait to see DD again who is safely at my mum's house away from my lurgy.

I have mostly been ignoring the mess of my house, and lolling around in bed. Chatting to friends online. Chatting to new fella. And consoling old FWB whose mum appears to be dying.

Hope everyone here is ok? I think schools being out means people are spending more time kid-wrangling. And people are obviously worried out of their minds about their businesses and vulnerable family members etc.

Hope everyone gets all the financial support they are eligible for. It sucks to be skint.

On the plus side, it's bliss to be isolating without a bloke being a pain in the arse and moaning. Or wanting constant attention. If I was still married, I would still be isolating alone - in a cell having killed my ex!

Hope everyone's mental health is ok? And that no-one has Bat Plague

I'm feeling a bit lost I've got the dc at the moment but have shouted more these past two days than in the last two months... I'm struggling to motivate myself and I've concluded that working and childcare are definitely not possible at the same time...! They will go back to their dad's on sat night until weds and then I'll be completely alone again. Its just one extreme or the other. I'm so grumpy and tired!

Oh @Misty9 huge hugs. Dont worry too much about work. Everyone's productivity is down at the moment. There is a reason why noone takes their kids to work with them! Holding yourself to pre Plague standards is not being fair to yourself.

And if everyone on my street is any indication, all the parents are losing their shit with the kids. They won't remember and will be fine. As long as they are fed, alive and cleanish at the end of the day, then all is well.

Time for everyone to really lower their standards in all ways. And to be kind to themselves

Just realised my typo earlier. It's my cat who is a tart, not my car. She mostly stays where I left her. The cat......doesnt!