Scared - what to do

[scared2020]

I can't say everything but basically my DH has become extremely angry with me shouting, swearing, thrown my shoes outside the back door , kicked cardboard boxes down the hall.
He just called me a ' piece of fu**ing shit '.
He's had a couple of glasses of red wine earlier on.

Phone the police as soon as you can, OP. This is abusive and you don't have to put up with it.

Can you text a friend to come and get you?

If you are worried about your safety or if there are children in the house phone 999.

Call 999

Get out quickly

I feel so scared and paralysed what to do. He seems to be asleep now upstairs.

Op are you safe now?

Do you have a friend you can call?

I hope you're ok, scared2020, right now I would be as unconfrontational as possible- like don't get cross back at him and try and de-escalate things, try and calm him down, if you can (you shouldn't have to - but short term- you need to keep safe)

If you feel you need to get out of the house, don't let him realize- so he can't try and stop you or get more violent. Maybe try and think how you can get out of the house if you need to, is there a neighbour who could help?,maybe get your phone and some money in your pocket, without him noticing

If you feel at all worried - call 999,

try and make sure he isn't in between you and either the front of back door

Is there anyone like a friend or relative you could ask to come and pick you up, so you could go to their house- or could you get a taxi to them- don't worry about waking someone up

this is threatening behavior, - I feel worried , that him throwing your stuff about , could quickly escalate to him phisically attacking you, if you feel at all that this is possible- please phone the police,

sorry this isn't very well written, I'm up late , abit poorly-

i hope you are ok op,please be careful, longer term you need to really think about this relationship, you shouldn't feel scared in your own home x

I read your update, be careful because just in case he isn't or is pretending, also alcohol can make people sleep badly and it can make people wake up feeling bad tempered , so try not to wake him up .

Has he acted like this before? Do you have children in the house, or anyone else, or is it just you and him there?

I hope you are ok , op

I do feel scared. But he is asleep in room above me . Think would hear footsteps. My youngest son here just turned 18 is asleep.

www.womensaid.org.uk might have some helpful advice

He was angry as I took down a sort of door contraption that he had put up today. Can't explain fully. He ran down stairs before going to sleep and took a big screwdriver out if the toolbox and took it up stairs with him. Not sure if he was thinking of putting the door device thing back or what.

I'm glad you'd be able to hear him, hopefully and that you haven't got little children in the house, would your son be able to be helpful and stay calm etc , if anything else happened?

Oh, that's not good sounding, at all, because he has effectively got a weapon. Has he been violent before?

He was extremely angry about me taking down the door device. I don't know why he took the tool up I thought he was maybe going to insist on putting the door thing back but he didn't . It was on his bedside table. I asked him why he had it and he said ' just fu** off '

I've been ill all week now aiming to get back into work Monday and I'm up all night.

It's like at the time in the moment I was just watching him and then when I came downstairs I wasn't sure whether to call police. It's crazy.

is there anywhere you could go, overnight , that you could fix up and quietly, then wake your son up to come with you, like if you could text some one.

If it was me I would want to be out of there for tonight, if I could do it safety. If you don't manage to go somewhere tonight, I would consider staying awake, until it's early daytime, at least. Then going somewhere, like a friend or relatives,

If you contact someone by txet or something though, it might be good to put your phone on silent and watch it so it doesn't wake him up.

I messaged my friend but she's asleep.

Why did you take down door device?

Poor, you poorly as well, how horrible,

it is bothering me that he took a screwdriver upstairs, please be careful, even if he hasn't actually been violent to you before, because, throwing things about and swearing is the sort of behaviour that can be building up to attacking someone,

can you hear if he is asleep, at all?

Actually am a bit scared now that's too much information. Can you report my last post can't see how to on my app.

I'm freaked out about the screwdriver. He was so aggressive and so angry.