Help me get over this ridiculous crush!

[Needtogetbackinthesack]

I'm newly divorced, haven't had sex since I conceived my 3 yo and I feel it's time to get back out there.

There's a guy I see every morning when dropping my kids off, he works in an office I walk by and his smile makes me weak at the knees. It's got so bad that I can't sleep at night for thinking about him but I'm generally too nervous to even make eye contact as I walk by. He does smile on the odd brave occasion, but he smiles at everyone who walks by.

His office isn't the kind where people off the street could walk in - no customers etc. I literally know nothing else about him, can't see if he's wearing a wedding ring etc. He also sees me walk by with my herd of out of control kids, hardly an attractive prospect. But I can't help but think about him.

How do people deal with such crushes when you're in your mid thirties? I think I need to get out there and meet a real life human and forget about him don't I? But that smile... 😍😆🙈

oh sorry I thought you meant it wasn't in your contacts - I shall drink more coffee and keep quiet

I would totally have phoned back if the number was available. I'm trying - and failing - to distract myself with loud music and some work. Sigh. And we all thought this would have been over hours ago...

I know what you mean needto. But there could be any number of explanations: he's snowed under; he gets a lot of post and is behind with opening it; he's trying to choose the right wording; he doesn't want to appear 'too keen'. Still keeping everything crossed for you.

Am trying to sort out the hair. Anything's got to be better than floursecent ginge, right?

I quite like a wacky hair do so I'd probably embrace it haha! How's the salvaging going??

And thank you for the reasons/reassurance... but I'm not feeling hopeful! (Still smiling like a loon at the whole scenario, not sad, but I just get a gut feeling it's a no!)

On to the next one haha

Also - this office is tiny, there's no way he gets loads of post. He is always chatting or eating and leaves at 4.55 every day - I don't think he's snowed under. So I reckon he's either horrified or working up to a no...

OP don't be so negative! He could have thought better of his call and not to try again because he might see you in person at the end of the day and wants to talk to you face to face?

I've just had another missed call from a withheld number - I literally walked away from my phone for 5 mins 🙄

Put it on loud OP. Any message left?
It could be his lunch break... So hope its him 🤞

It was on loud but I had the music on and went to make lunch in the kitchen, I'm such an idiot. No message. I reckon a phone call is a bad sign tbh...

OP I was thinking the opposite - that a phone call is a good sign? It's easier to say no in a text.... if it's him calling he is probably hoping for a flirty chat :)

Agree with Badtaste.. 2 calls now too!

Ooh, it's all happening. If the number's not witheld, call it back, needto, if it's a mobile - not if it looks like an office no!

@RuffleCrow it just says no caller ID. I just feel like he thinks texting a no is rude but calling and explaining why is more polite!? And if he's hoping for flirty then good luck, my 2yo is here making all sorts of chaotic noises in the background 😂

Keep your phone on you this afternoon!

Are you doing your usual school run today OP?

Ah, sorry. You could be right but don't give up hope. It ain't over til it's over, as Lenny Kravitz would say.

Oh my goodness I'm actually nervous for you!

Superglue your phone to your face!

Yes I'm doing the usual school run today - but there's no way I'm parking in my usual spot so he can see me today 🙈 I'm not brave enough to face this yet!!

Come on, needto , it could be worse. You could be the proud owner of weird witchy black/purple/orange hair that makes you look 10 years older. Which is apparently what passes for brown hair dye these days .

Am doing witchy makeup to give me that 'yes, this was the look i was going for' attitude. I am just worried 'my' guy might not be able to keep his hands off me when he sees it, tbh. Smokin'

@RuffleCrow thank you for making me laugh through this! If I was a man walking by and saw a multicoloured witch there's every possibility I'd put a note through their office door declaring my attraction so fingers crossed 🙈😂

I'm quite stressed about various things today and this thread is keeping me laughing. And some proper throwback to my youth music - currently on my chemical Romance 🎶🤪

Glad it made you laugh. We multi-coloured witches are notoriously hard to resist, (dark magic), so I understand.

I've got gorgeous emo hair, you've got the emo music - this thread has taken an unexpected turn

Haha I'm trying to remind myself of all the words to all the 90s classics ready for the Jo Whiley 90s party in a few weeks. The 90s were my emo hey day - I even bought my first eyeliner in years the other day. I've moved onto linkin park now, via some of the crappy 90s dance "hits" - literally living the dream 🙈

I don't think he'd phone twice to reject you.

I think if he was going to reject you and you missed the first call he'd text and apologise.

If he's in a shared office, then he has probably tried to find a time when his colleagues aren't listening in. Like first thing, before they get in, or lunchtime when they're out getting sandwiches.

Another one keeping fingers crossed for you here!