Dating thread 179 - am I doing it right?

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Looked for the new thread but couldn't find it...

@shit how many times have you seen him? is it Mrlist? or was that someone else's sorry!

Actually maybe I am imaging this a bit, he did ask me if I had to get back sunday, and I do, I said I would check. Maybe this is a good opportunity for me to say I can't stop sunday too but is he free next week.

@Sunshineandflipflops yes partner is definitely more. Lover isn't quite right. Boyfriend says it. It's just a bit juvenile!

@bangheadhere40 yes I think regular nights is a lot after 3 dates. I had assumed you had seen each other more. Relax and enjoy it. And let him do a bit of the chasing!

@shitwithsugaron Have you heard anything more from Mr B and does Mr List know you recently broke up with someone?

I don't think I discussed regular nights until after we DTD, and after about 6 dates in about 10 or so weeks. I'm usually only free EOW, and sometimes only on Saturday night.

Making regular plans or scheduling yourself around someone else's plans is quite a big commitment.

Trying to catch up with the thread.

I need to bite the bullet and go on a date this weekend, hopefully i will be meeting a iron who have been talking too on and off for ages, I will call him Mr Parrot. Not sure if he’s relationship material as he works long hours and doesn’t have much free time but we shall see, he doesn’t have and dc’s so no other commitments.

Been feeling a bit sorry for myself, Mr Skinny vanished off POF so assumed he had found someone (how can someone so boring find someone and not me?), I know I’m being silly and I need to stop looking for him on the apps, he was rubbish in bed anyway.

I need to try harder to go on some dates but lack of confidence is beating me at the moment and I just feel like no one will want me.

Just had a message from someone on POF, lovely message until the last line which read “I’m also VWE if that’s any interest to you”, took me a while to work out what VWE meant 😂

What is VWE?

oh hahahaha I think I know, jesus!

@Lovemusic33 go on the date with Mr Parrot just to get back out there.

bang I had to google what it was as I wasn’t sure 🤣, I think I will meet Mr Parrot and use it as a practice run to get back into dating.

Mr Beard has vanished on me, I think he got fed up of me not making time for a 2nd date, he’s not answering my messages so he’s either ghosting me or he’s dead 😂.

I think I have pissed a few people off by being flakey and not arranging dates quick enough.

@lovemusic, I hope you didn't get some rude images on your screen!

Yes defo get out there, just see it as a practice run.

Out of interest, how fast is "fast enough"? Some people seem to expect a lot of communication from their irons, but others not so much?

Does everyone message every day?

@shitwithsugaron that's a great update! So glad you are moving on from Mr B and Mr List sounds lovely.

@Lovemusic33 Go on...what is VWE...? I am still quite naive!

I must have a dirty mind, getting it straight away.

@UncorrectedDoormat I find some irons message once or twice, with Mr Smile there is normally 3 ish conversations on whatsapp a day.

I just got a reply from Mr Bank who I told no, I said I didn't think we were a match. he said it was shame as he really liked me but he wishes me the best. Much better for me to be honest with him.

I didn’t mean really you say you’ll always meet them on Fridays for example it’s more of a idea when they are ‘free’ but that doesn’t always mean free for you it could be friends, activities etc. Like mr gray only has his kids weekends (all weekend) so he’s ‘free’ all week and I’m ‘free’ wed or mon alternating weeks. It doesn’t mean we always meet these days it’s just a starting point if that makes sense rather than each week asking when are you free you can say I can meet wed can you. But I don’t ever ask a sat or sun as he’s not 🤷🏼‍♀️

@UncorrectedDoormat not every day we don’t mesage weekends very much at all when he has his kids we Agreed this and I don’t message in week betweeen end of school and kids bed time. I just find it a bit odd when kids are about due to mesage content 🤦‍♀️

Mr BC calls himself my 'man' lol.

With DTD, every relationship of any length (from nearly 30 years of marriage to a year and a half) I've had apart from Mr BC has started with DTD on the first date ..
First date with Mr BC was a Fab meet where you don't normally DTD ....

Ahhh...of course...Very Well Endowed...

I had someone on Pof first message ask if I like golden showers 🤮.

I had one asking if I had some time free that evening to go and have sex with him and his friend!