DP acting extremely strange...

[Ishiede]

Over the last few days, I keep catching him crying. He says he is having nightmares a lot, and when I ask what is wrong he says it’s a long story. He is also treating me like I am the enemy and being quite nasty towards me for absolutely no reason. He doesn’t like his job and finances are tough at the moment. I just can’t work out what the problem is. Living with him is unbearable at the moment. I having done anything to give him a reason to be so cruel and nasty towards me. He won’t talk to me and is very bad tempered. What should I do?

Thanks for he update. Sound good that you’re getting a plan together to leave.

Glad you're ok!

You don't need to wait until September you can leave now and have the kids settled before the youngest starts school. Good luck

OP, I'd be worried at the crying and carrying on is because he/you are so deep in debt that the bonus isnt going to cover it. Otherwise why would he be in so much of a state if salvation is just round the corner.

Dig like a fucking mole. You really need to know what joint debts he's run up.

Lying on the bed crying sounds serious-especially if he’s doing it a lot. Is he heavily in debt?

I would ask him outright.

How much debt is he in and why?

Did you see his letters? You sound like you're getting in a more strong mindset to get out of this.

Oh and @AnyFucker another worthwhile and courteous post from you I see

You do really need to know what debts there are as your likely unwittingly responsible for some of these too.
Wow he sounds like an arse, your contribution to the family is full time childcare.
Hope you can get to the bottom of it x