DP acting extremely strange...

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Over the last few days, I keep catching him crying. He says he is having nightmares a lot, and when I ask what is wrong he says it’s a long story. He is also treating me like I am the enemy and being quite nasty towards me for absolutely no reason. He doesn’t like his job and finances are tough at the moment. I just can’t work out what the problem is. Living with him is unbearable at the moment. I having done anything to give him a reason to be so cruel and nasty towards me. He won’t talk to me and is very bad tempered. What should I do?

"Finances he controls and when I ask to look at them, he says when I start contributing to the house I can."

What does he think raising his children is.

Stay strong and stay safe OP.

I hope you are ok OP..

Hope you're safe x

I'm very glad you have a plan to get out of this.
It sounds utterly exhausting!!!
Tell him to fuck off and get on with your life without this fun-sucker in it!

Hi everyone. I decided not to talk to him and do some snooping. I remembered him acting very suspiciously about letters coming through the mail. I was opening my own mail and he jumped down my throat asking if it was his. Never done that before. When he goes out I’m going to look through the letters in his study to see what I can find. He was so awful yesterday I didn’t want to create a confrontation. We aren’t talking this morning which is fine by me.

I would suspect debt.

Not sharing financial info under the guise of "you don't contribute" and paranoid about the post.

I think PPs are probably right that it's about debt. Good luck with the snooping.

Good luck OP I hope you get some answers

Debt or maybe he's knocked someone up.

I think whatever you find in the letters (if anything), you need to accelerate your plans to get out of the relationship. This is really unhealthy for you and the kids. And if he's got form for being a sleazy creep, you're better off without.

He's also financially abusive and I would guess that there is either some debt or an OW somewhere. He's hiding something from you.

Good luck.

Hope you can get answers soon OP. Good luck. (And don’t forget to take photos of whatever you find, he will soon get rid of it.)

Fucking hell......

www.womenshealth.gov/relationships-and-safety/domestic-violence/leaving-abusive-relationship

This is a link that gives you a list of documents that you should find and put in a safe space

www.entitledto.co.uk

This is a link to the benefits calculator

Leave this toxic cuntweasel, you can be and will be so much happier

good luck digging OP..

Are you ok? Did you find anything?

Good luck

Hope your doing ok OP xx

Good luck in finding what you need x

Hi OP it maybe an affair and he wants you to throw him out to appease his guilt.

I hope you found something in the mail. Either way I would be looking at getting out ASAP.

he doesn't like his job and finances are tight at the moment There is your problem! Has he said this? If so, support him! Look at options. Get him to talk or try and get him to talk to someone.

Hes worried and stressed about something. If he got funny about you opening mail then id suspect its money related

Or expecting a court date?

Good luck OP

Thank you. It’s definately work related and money. He was lying on the bed crying this morning at the thought of going to work. He has a bonus coming end of this month so that will clear any money issues we have.
I know I can’t move anywhere until September. I’m going to see a solicitor next week to understand where I stand and what documents I need to start gathering.
He has also stopped drinking so living together hasn’t been so bad but I know it’s over. I just want my own peaceful space. Just want to focus on getting a place and my son ready for school.