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I am SO CROSS right now

130 replies

MrsBobBlackadder · 20/12/2019 17:56

I’m so tired of being married to a manchild.

We’re due to go away tomorrow to family for a week. I said to my husband earlier today that I would ring our pet sitting (well, pet visiting) company just to double check the arrangements that he had made a month or two (at his suggestion) ago. All good.

As it happened i got dragged into various meetings at work and couldn’t call them, so I asked him to which he (begrudgingly) did. I heard nothing back so called him just now; apparently there has been a problem - they had no record of our booking (ie he fucked it up) and they actually now cannot visit our animals on either Christmas or Boxing Day.

I am absolutely livid with him and am so pissed off that he has put us in this situation. His line is that our animals (cats) will be fine; but it’s me that will end up having to provide instructions for the pet sitters on Christmas Eve so that our animals are fed and happy. There’s no way that I can leave them so long - I’m going to have to drive back on Boxing Day morning now to check they’re okay (assuming he’s actually managed to put me on the car insurance like he said he would - I doubt it). He just says ‘oh they’ll be fine’ and tells me that I’m basically ridiculous for ‘worrying so much’.

I hate him so much right now. Wtf would have happened if I hadn’t asked him to call them?! He’s trying to call me but I am so angry. This is just the latest in a long line of things he’s ‘forgotten’ to do. And he’s just said that I’m being an arse 🤬

Sorry, this isn’t really a question, more a vent 😩

OP posts:
5LeafClover · 21/12/2019 14:33

Sounds like he's in the habit of prioritising himself, talking over you and minimizing your concerns. I would be wary of being reliant on him to drive you home/give you a lift to the station/ let you have the car because of the cats on boxing day.

MargotMoon · 04/01/2020 17:30

How are you doing OP? Hope you managed to get through Xmas without shoving the tinsel down his throat...

Fluffycloudland77 · 04/01/2020 17:37

Divorce him before you murder him for being a total bellend excuse for a man.

heyday · 04/01/2020 21:30

Are the cats mainly yours or are they definitely jointly owned pets? I only ask because he just does not seem to care very much about them and is maybe not that bothered because he doesn't feel any responsibility for them. Thank goodness you checked otherwise they would have almost certainly have died or at the least been very ill.

RamblinRosie · 05/01/2020 01:20

So, he has no consideration for the animals you love, what does that say about how he thinks about you?

If you were ill, would he leave you to starve because he wasn’t being paid? He probably would!

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