Dating thread 177. Drinking Prosecco on our own trying to arrange a christmas snog

[Marlboroandmalbec34]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@shit, terrified of getting rejected again as I did with Mr Straight.

@shit, good luck x

Argh what do I wear with a black leather skirt to a dressy pub in a Sunday that won't make me look like I charge by the hour?

Good luck @shitwithsugaron we are all in your corner

wandering yes to the polo, or a plain white/cream shirt and simple jewellery?

Good luck to you as well @Sunshineandflipflops

Usually I’d say in 4/5 messages (each) . lbut sometimes that’s a casual I’ll buy you a drink rather than date planning . Or if you like them ask them 🤷🏼‍♀️. Who sent the first message

Have fun on dates everyone. I’m tying to tidy my house while
My daughter wrecks it. D-head ex h has only had her one weekend night in Dec so he can go out all the time 🤦‍♀️

Thanks for the advice, having a slight panic! Gone for silk cream blouse and natural coloured cardigan so I look less woman of the night

We have been messaging for 2 evenings and nothing has been mentioned about meeting up. Okay I will ask when I chat next, this whole drama with me straight that's dragged on for way too long without meeting must stop. I just thought it would be better if he asked.

Mr straight

I sent the first message Jane, but he has since

I will refer to the new one as Mr Aerospace, and will put myself out there, horrible though. Being rejected by the other one ( who still keeps me hanging on) is knocking me for six.

Why have you not deleted and blocked Mr Straight banghead? It could be said that it’s you keeping you hanging on, not him

Thinking of you today @shitwithsugaron, you're an incredible woman 🌻🌷.

I'm sure things will be absolutely fine @Sunshineandflipflops, MrAd sounds great.

My Christmas has got off to a great start - DD's pet rat passed away this morning just before she was due to go to her dad's for the day, so we've had lots of tears and an impromptu funeral to organise.

I've got until 3.30pm to get the last of the presents wrapped, bags packed and car loaded, then pick her up en route as we're heading to MrC's for a week of over eating, over drinking, long lazy lie ins, watching shite on the TV, the odd bracing walk if I can be arsed and I can't wait.

My divorce papers are with the court, STBXH seems to be playing ball at the moment, but that could change with the wind. 🤷‍♀️

2019 has been a funny old year really. Got dumped by MrAbs in March, had a lot of fun for a month which I will look back on in my senior years and smile (remember my ode to MrPlumber? 😂), then met MrC in April after seeing him lots on POF but discounting him for being younger than me and having no kids. We eventually matched on Tinder when I was having a drunk swiping session on my Cornwall mini break and we've not stopped talking since.

Thanks to you lot for being bloody amazing, holding my hand though the ups and downs, passing me grips when required and telling me to give my head a fucking wobble when necessary. Love you all ❤

@tiger, we have just been intermittently chatting, he has loads going on. I know I like him more than he does me, so yes I am keeping myself hanging on. Trying to cut it way down though ☹

I keep telling myself I'm going to leave it and I do. Then he will just re appear. I am leading myself on though I'm aware of that, but can't pull the plug yet. I'm going to ask the new one out later and keep messaging others

Bang head- just block him and delete, nothing is going to come of it, you’ve been messaging for weeks now and it’s not doing you any favours- you’ve never met him, you owe him nothing. It’s stopping you from potentially meeting someone else because you’re holding out hope Mr Straight will suddenly say he’s going to meet you

I was you with a FB for months, we had the same conversation- me wanting more, him saying he did too but nothing materialised. In the end I had to cut him off because I was in limbo waiting for something that was never going to happen. You’ll feel so much better if you just cut your losses with Mr Straight

He has said he wants to meet me after xmas though,but hasn't firmed up a date, hence why I'm in limbo.

So I have to make the effort with others, and just see if anything comes of it. I don't contact him at all first now.