Dating thread 177. Drinking Prosecco on our own trying to arrange a christmas snog

[Marlboroandmalbec34]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@saltysally How do you find out what you both like sexually on a first date?!
God, I think I'm so naive 😂

Yes I’m intrigued too. I think you can know you fancy someone and would want to sleep with them in a short time. But I’m not sure what you mean by interests

I asked the relevant question 😉 The good thing about Fab is that everyone is upfront about what they are looking for. Have deleted his details.

Date to night cancelled (or postponed he says) as trains now messed up and hes had a drink this afternoon so cant drive. Well that's his excuse. He assures me hes gutted and does want to rearrange but we'll see ....

Hi @shitwithsugaron - Hinge is like Bumble but with a better design (no white on yellow text) and women don’t have to message first or have a time limit. You can link via Facebook but I didn’t. It’s pretty quick, throw on a few images, answer some Bumble style questions from a wide choice of options (two truths and a lie, you should message me if etc) add your age and distance preference and you’re off. I got nicer matches the first couple of days, think the algorithm waits before serving up the Phil Mitchells 😂. If someone likes you, you get a notification and you can choose to message/match them or get rid. It’s not as busy as Tinder - a few people have said there aren’t many men on there but I live in a big city so do ok. It’s worth a go, it doesn’t feel intrusive or annoying like POF and it is free ...

PS well done on deleting those photos - huge step!

I’ve been for a long hike with the kids today and am worn out as still quite ill. Mr Media 2 is still hanging in there 😂

@PerfectPretender - excited for you tomorrow 😉❤️

I'm meant to be seeing Mr Curls tonight (who I'm convinced is my Mr Right) but I'm currently having my post Christmas single parent breakdown 😭 I just haven't been able to cope with my kids today, how on earth we are meant to be everything to these little ones who need so much from us is beyond me right now. I've felt so detached all day, I have nothing left to give. They were in bed by 6 with a movie on and I'm in the bath trying to cry to get it out before I see Mr C!

@Neverexpected2 Is this the guy who took a ridiculously long time to find out when his train was?
I think you can do better. Have you checked the trains online? Easy way to find out if he's telling the truth.

Thanks, @UtterSocks! 🤞🤞

We haven't spoken much today, I'm sure he's just doing last minute stuff before his flight (he leaves at 9pm our time and lands tomorrow morning) but I have time to severely regret my Christmas indulgences and have packed roomy trousers urgh. I didn't plan this well!

Thanks simon I'm tempted to give it a go with my retainers before I go down the veneers/dental option. Just a couple of shades lighter would be marvellous. Do you get the gel from amazon?
MrY is looking after me as I've been struck down with a terrible virus. He is a very good nurse! Good luck to those on dates/with new irons. For everyone else, 🐷🍫🥂

@Neverexpected2 it all sounds like a bit of a get out. Could he have suggested to meet somewhere else where trains are working

Ugh. Am feeling all soppy and wanting a relationshippy. Someone please tell me it's a bad idea to send an old iron a happy Christmas message even though he was looking at my LinkedIn profile last week.

• It is still too soon for me to date.
• He is still 90 minutes away
• He still doesn't want to do long distance
• He is still potentially suffering from depression (which is a deal breaker for me)

And saltysally you'll have to tell us what the question is!

Door #4. Nononono

Um....wha'?

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking When you say depression is a deal breaker, do you mean untreated? A lot of people have mental health issues and I'd hate to think someone would hold it against me if I had depression but was on medication/some sort of treatment.

jane1978 I dont know, hes a a bit of a distance away (although moving closer in new year). Not going to let it get me down though. I never expect much of old anyway. Heading out into town with a friend now so evening isnt a write off

Very intrigued about the sexual compatability 🤔.

@Peanutbuttermouth has he ever given you reason to think he's lying now?

MrIT STILL hasn't let me know when but says he deffo still wants to meet. I'm nervous somethings off now.

sunshine after 15 years of tiptoeing around my ex's severe depression, despite treatment, I honestly don't think I can't do it again. I really don't

I'm supposed to be going on a date on Monday with Iron 2, Mr You but he cancelled the last one due to illness so I'm a bit wary if he's just flaky and may cancel this too. If he does it will be a straight delete.

Iron 2 Mr German asked today if I was free tomorrow. I said I had plans in the evening but was free earlier if that suited. He insinuated going to his (which I did once before) but I said it didn't suit due to my evening plans and suggested early dinner or drinks in the city instead. He's replied but not responded to my suggestion.

Where oh where are the irons who actually want a relationship?!

I like a man who can be dominant in the bedroom. Not all the time but they need to be assertive. Mr Red wanted to be submissive.

New iron is Mr Delts. Have already asked the question and he passed I love the idea upfront nature of fab...

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking That's understandable. I think depression/mental health issues are far too common now though and as a lot of single men of a certain age have usually been through significant life experiences, I think there's a lot of men (and women of course) on OLD who suffer.

For a dating newbie... How many irons do you all have at the same time? 😳
I married my bf from school, so this is new territory for me

salty. Ah yes. That wouldn't work for me either. Bum

@CheesecakeAddict it’s really what you have time for and are comfortable with.