Dating thread 177. Drinking Prosecco on our own trying to arrange a christmas snog

[Marlboroandmalbec34]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Oh gosh he's quite hard work @Menora! I'd probably end it for that comment alone!

Send the emoji.

I’m so mean I just sent back

Hehe fishing 🎣? 😂

I'm happy with who I am too. Yes the outside needs a bit of work but I don't let it stop me at all. Life is too short.

I've noticed the only men who may care are those which are slightly overweight themselves. It's silly but each to their own and no loss to me.

I'm typically attracted to athletic men as I'm normally in good physical shape and will be again.

Those who are slightly overweight

@Menora is their dad cute too? 🤮 my fanny would be like the Sahara at those kind of comments. He's very full on isn't he....

I fear that my taste in men has got more narrow and I'm often looking for FWB physical attributes when swiping.

So gorgeous face with good bone structure and full lips, minimum 5'9 with fit toned body but fairly lean- not body builder type and I loved his hair which was a softer version of a peaky blinders cut, thicker and messier on top.

I don't know how I ever matched him 😂 out of my league for sure

He’s replied

‘I’m trying to pull you ’

Badly, I feel 😂

I don’t have a type exactly. I do like dark haired men. I like close beards and nice eyes. I’m not really fussy about height or weight but skinny/slim men are less attractive to me but I will date them. I don’t like feeling I might break them 😂

I definitely seem to have a type now. I don't like skinny guys or guys who are carrying a bit of extra weight tbh. I'm too fussy I admit. I like a nice full thick head of hair (stbxh was losing his).

I'm badly overweight and think this is the reason why I look younger lol. Guys dont seem to mind, so neither do I. I do wish I could wear nicer clothes tho.

DD was at her dads last night and still today. spent last night receiving abusive and suicidal texts from him over what she'd received for xmas.

Mr Builder came over last night with a small gift and a portion of the steak pie he had made for his xmas dinner so that I can have it later in the week 😁.

I have many types, I’m not keen on overweight men (don’t mind a bit overweight but not huge), I like a beard but has to be nicely kept, I often end up with skinny men, not sure why as I don’t really find them anymore attractive, would prefer a average looking man, average size and a bit rough around the edges, not keen on men that spend longer in the bathroom than me. Personality is probably more important but obviously there needs to be some kind of physical attraction.

@Lovemusic33 personality is of course the most important thing. It's hard on the apps though isn't it, although I guess personality can come across in pics and what people write in their bio.

Not sure I have a type, my ex was very handsome and fit but also abusive so I am well aware appearances can be deceiving. My current FWB isn't as attractive by far but extremely fun and relaxed and this makes the attraction much more. I tend to go for kind looking men, big smile, friendly looking.

If I'm brutally honest I only swiped on Mr G because he's American too. Luck of the draw, clearly.

Pretty sure he only swiped on me because of my tattoos. Ah well.

TheDevils yes, it’s tricky, I try and read peoples faces in their profile photo, I like to think I can pick out the genuine, friendly faces. You get an idea about them from what they have written but it could all be a load of rubbish 🤣

I feel a bit sorry for Mr Moving but Apparently his DC are not even staying over and they have only spent 11-4pm with him today
So guess what? He wants me to come round today!
I’ve replied no, I have had zero time to myself in days and I’ve still got to pick up DD2 and then drive 30 miles to drop off DD1 for her holiday. I have work tomorrow. He may take this badly. If he does then I think it’s clear that he prioritises his own needs over mine in every way. I don’t know in what world he got the impression I would want to spend Boxing Day with a date of 5 weeks and not my own kids

@Lovemusic33 I also don't mind if they've not written anything if the pics are ok and maybe give an idea.

FWB had pics that summed him up. Close up selfie probably taken with a mate nearby as looked like he was smiling a bit. One of him walking along doing a hobby of his, with his lovely hair all scruffed up, and another of him and his mates in their pjs surrounded by cans 😂 I mean knowing him now the pics said a lot about him. But they made me smile.

Loads of scowling selfies are an instant left. As are wedding pics, half naked pics. The funny ones are the topless mirror selfies when they really don't have the abs for it. Am not criticising for lack of abs at all but why post it?! I saw one guy before who genuinely looked like and was the same size of Smithy in Gavin and Stacey and he has done a shirtless one but done in a humourous way which is acceptable in my book 😂

I feel like I never end up with attractive men. My last serious RS he was really quite unattractive but he seemed nice and we got along. He had bad breath too

On the braces thing, I had invisalign a few years ago (and had them whitened), mine weren’t significantly wonky to require more traditional braces like train tracks. They are now very straight, but I do make sure I wear my retainer every night in bed. It’s also a handy tray for bleaching my teeth.

I think there are a few similar systems to invisalign, but solving the outward problem e.g wonky teeth won’t solve the inner problem of a lack of confidence.

I’m very guilty of having a very specific type, very slim, blue or green eyes, plump lips and pale brown or blonde hair. There’s nothing wrong with a bit of vanity, but once you actually get to know someone their personality has a huge impact on how you perceive their physical ‘beauty’. It would be nice if you could get to know someone first before seeing what they look like, as it’s the personality that lasts, not the looks.

Just got back from my date with Mr GQ.
It was genuinely lovely. He made me laugh a lot. Unlike a lot of first dates which can be pretty awkward, it wasn’t.

We discussed how he’s almost 16 years older than me so it doesn’t bother me too much anymore.

We’ve planned for a second date tommorow

Menora I dated a guy with bad breath 🤢, he was the one who decided to turn up at my house and force himself on me when I was poorly.
I had a flick through the apps earlier and can’t seem to find any friendly looking faces, just looks like a load of piss heads that love themselves, or potato heads 😬

Sounds great, @Dawsoncreek!

Let us know how he reacts, @Menora. My DD's bday is tomorrow, and Mr G specifically planned his trip so he wouldn't be here. No question I would want to miss it obviously, but there wasn't even a hint of choosing him over her, which is as it should be of course.

Great news @dawsoncreek
You seem to be having some excellent beginner's luck! V pleased for you.

@Dawsoncreek glad your date went well- great you've already got another planned 👍

thanks guys!
Love Omg Did you say anything to him?