Dating thread 177. Drinking Prosecco on our own trying to arrange a christmas snog

[Marlboroandmalbec34]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

No old irons popping up Here either. I found myself a bit upset thinking about Mr S spending the day with his family and not giving me a second thought. But we are done and dusted so time to put that all to bed. If we were together I'd have been concerned about his family situation. Last year he sent me a pic from his family home with his wedding ring clearly in display. So at least I'm out of all that.

Mr B has asked me to be his gf. I'm nearly 50...! So will see what happens here.

Hope you are all ok and have nice boxing days planned. However and whoever you spend them with. Today is board game day!

I have a fixed retainer as well as removable ones.

I used to have acne as a teen/early 20s but my skin is nice now, at least there's that 😂 also manage to stay slim whilst eating lots but that's about it- I hate most other things about me.

I've been really paranoid about my boobs too and would love a boob job- breastfeeding deflated them completely. But if I spend money on anything it will be my orthodontic 'issues'.

Was definitely more paranoid about being topless around FWB given his age, wanted to keep my bra on but he convinced me to take it off and he said I was beautiful. Ugh I'm missing him again today.

Weight has given me nice boobs. I didn’t like them when I was slim as they looked deflated

I'm definitely at the stage of choosing body vs face. I choose face! I'm tall enough to pull off slightly overweight, but losing enough to get into normal bmi gives me deflated boobs and crepe-y neck. Pass.

I had braces when younger so my teeth are good. However I seem to have lost my nice smile and I don't know how to or why. Face just doesn't seem to shape like it used to.

Need to lose a massive amount of weight and find my core again. I have turned into an apple when used to be a hour glass.

I look Young for my age and I think that’s from being chubby 😂 the face is less wrinkled. I need to loose a little weight to hit the point of flatter stomach but still boobs , bum and enough chub not to be wrinkled 😂😂😂

It's definitely worth investing in yourself if you can afford it. Mr BC thinks I'm stunning which I think is hysterically funny (I'm a small middle aged blonde mother of two!!!) but there are some 'tweakments' I'd consider.

Not sure why I’m getting old irons messaging, I’m telling myself “it’s because I’m memorable” or “good in bed” 🤣

I’m a size 12 but would love to be back down to a 10, after Christmas dinner yesterday I feel like a 14, I’m only 5”3 so can’t carry off too much weight. I gym every day but have had a week off and it’s making me feel even bigger, I’m going back tomorrow in hope to burn off at least a slice of turkey. I’m going vegan for January in hope it encourages me to eat better and lose a dress size. I like exercise but prefer sexercise 😂

My face is ok. I’ve got no wrinkles, acne is better and I am better at make up. I have nice eyes apparently. Hair also good

Boobs - good
Lower half - horrendous. Stretch marks, ingrown hairs, cellulite, cankles. Urgh

I'm a 10 and happy with my body although there is a large amount of sag plus cellulite but you can't see that in clothes. Plus I spend an inordinate amount of time half naked because of my hobby (that sounds exciting doesn't it...) which gives you a total lack of giving a shit. I've also got a huge conk. Yes that's conk not the other thing 😁 which I don't care about. I've never cared much about my appearance tbh. The one thing that matters to me is having a flat stomach. And clearly it currently isn't nor will be for at least a month.

No stretch marks cos hyper mobile but cellulite everywhere. And loads of wrinkles. And jowls. And loose neck. But then I'm in my 50s....

I have 2 twisted lower canines. A crown on my front tooth as I cracked it in a bike accident as a kid. Went to have an assessment for braces recently. Considering it but they said it would be long and complicated because I had trauma to the root of the crown (may need to be an implant). I've never struggled to get dates but it does do my head in

I also get botox and have had my tear troughs filled (naturally have quite deepest area under there) made me feel 100x better after and unlike other fillers it lasts a long time

*deep set

Ah @BatshitCrazyWoman you sound like my physical twin, am also small, blonde, middle aged mum of two. Everyone tells me I look younger than I am but I think it's cos I am small and dress like a teenager (jeans, trainers, gym kit - zero style!) as I have aged in the last couple of years.

I lost 2 stone a couple of years ago and go to the gym every day (though not this week as have chest infection). It has aged me in the face but I also feel more confident and as I am short I can't carry any extra pounds well so have chosen body over face I think. I am very toned rather than super skinny and have brilliant abs but I work really hard at it (also the gym helps my quite massive stress issues) ... however I have a bit of cellulite and a c-section overhang after two emergency sections which nobody has ever seen except my ex and which I am worried will nauseate future partners.

Not that there are any partners in the offing, paused the apps for Christmas, blocked a couple of needy irons, gorgeous Mr Beard has disappeared (ooh rhymes!) So just Mr Media (2) who WhatsApp ed me quite a bit yesterday. This would normally annoy me on Christmas Day when I am with my kids but his messages are hilarious and not clingy - he just makes me laugh. I don't think I fancy him though and wish I did. But then it keeps my c-section scars safe from human eyes I guess . To be fair he doesn't flirt or say leery stuff so maybe he doesn't fancy me either. I want us to be mates!

You have inspired me to go and dig out my teeth whitening kit with all this dental chat ...

I don't have any major body hang-ups actually. I could nitpick to kingdom come but what would be the point? I'm a living breathing human being, not a photoshopped picture. So I wear what's comfortable, eat healthy-ish and live my life.

I get told I look younger too. I’m 39 and no one believes rhe age of my kids!

I’ve gone for a look which is embracing some chunkiness and not hiding it, because baggy clothes make it worse. Tights usually look good on me with a skirt, even a short one. I can kind of pull it off. Trousers can make me look dumpy

Face licker messaged me this morning laughing at what a bad mood I was in last night. Then we have joked that we are going to put each other back in our ‘gay best friend’ cupboard - neither are gay obviously 😂 but we fight, bitch, get deep and laugh but never have a physical RS and never will!

I mean I am fat now. Fat 😂
But actually care less... I was really unhappy when I was skinny. I look back at the photos and I was an unhappy person. I don’t associate being skinny with being happy anymore!

I don’t care that I’m chubby and men never do 🤷🏼‍♀️. I’d just like to loose a little weight to fit in clothes I have. I’m a stress eater rather than a stress not eater

I'm 31 but probably look 25, could probably pass for a bit younger. Am also small and blonde.

All my hangups don't seem to affect me getting dates (although lately has been a dry spell). But it's for me, I'd love to feel better about myself.

Having said there are things I'd consider I've only had my teeth whitened (about 13 years ago and have 'topped up' twice since then) and had my boobs done about 11 years ago. I workout (YouTube) about 5 times a week but don't really have weight issues (size 8 to 10). That's it - I still don't feel the need for anything else but as I'm 55 I'm sure something will crop up! I know I look younger than I am - I've got a youthful outlook on life I think.

Doesn’t affect me either but then I think I am more confident than I used to be. I spent so long letting other people put me down that I have probably become a bit of a bitch to men 😂

I’m not ignoring Mr Moving as is inappropriate and unfair to do so as he has no idea what I am thinking. He sent me a photo of his DC unwrapping their presents and I replied ‘ahh cute x’ to which he replied ‘is their dad cute too eh’
I feel like sending back a fishing rod emoji