Dating thread 177. Drinking Prosecco on our own trying to arrange a christmas snog

[Marlboroandmalbec34]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@saltysally
It’s more a mind game thing I think than anything else. He’s bad news for me. We are supposed to be ‘friends’ and have been for many years. He’s only put it on me once and it was awful! Then he freaked out and we went back to friends. We are emotionally fairly close in that we know a lot about each other but there is a line and we both know we don’t want to cross it

Aaaghhhh it's all hit me today. ExH gets to go and play happy families with my kids and his GF I stay home alone and clear up the mess then visit my sick and bonkers family. I'm tired of carrying everything. I just want a bloody hug. An extended one. I just want someone to curl up with!

How many people have had “merry Christmas” messages from old irons? I have had a few but not from the ones I would have like to have received them from. I’m kind of looking back at the last year and all the irons I have had (the good and the bad), I miss Mr SA, he was funny and amazing in bed but a rubbish boyfriend. Mr Mountain just messaged me and Mr Young has been trying to get me to meet him for some Christmas fun. I’m hoping the new year will bring me some new irons and hopefully someone who understands me. Haven’t heard from Mr Beard since yesterday morning and we are meant to be meeting tomorrow.

unsmbiguous here’s an extended hug but sorry, I’m not curling up with you! Will help? The Baileys has all gone I’m afraid not envy.

@Lovemusic33 I never seem to get old irons popping up...obviously I'm easy to forget!

That's fine though, they are old irons for a reason. I am soaking in a hot bath to try and clear my nose/chest. If Mr Ad can still fancy me in this state then I think I have a keeper 😂

Thankfully no old irons popping up apart from one earlier this month. I think I must pick extra stubborn ones who don't look back to what-could-have-been, or something, because I'm pretty sure my accent makes me memorable at least. Maybe I depend on that too much and it's the personality that puts them off. 😂😂 I don't care either way.

Saturday morning peeps! I meet him at the airport on Saturday morning!!!!

But until then I need to clean my post-christmas kitchen

I had a couple of old irons pop up yesterday! Always do on Christmas day. 2020 is going to be the year of block and delete, no more dating apps and focusing on getting what I want (Mr Curls!)

I'm even more tragic than Bridget. Spending Boxing Day morning taking new profile pics 😂

My old irons never pop back up. A few are blocked but the rest never... 😅

@shitwithsugaron go for it! I had Invisalign clear aligners a couple of years ago and it was the best thing I did. Not cheap but worth it. No-one else thought me teeth were that bad either but it's all I noticed in photos.

@shitwithsugaron go for it. I'm getting my eyebrows micro bladed in the new year. They've all fallen out because of my thyroid and I'm sick of drawing them on. Badly. My teeth are also wonky but that's the least of it!

All my old irons are blocked and I’m not on any sites now 🤷🏼‍♀️. Not sure why I decided ‘date night’ would be a great idea tonight at the day you are the fattest of the whole year and most hungover 🤦‍♀️

Yeah I'm currently bloated and exhausted. Trying to get off my arse and get out. My plan to go back to bed for a huge weep never materialised.

@shitwithsugaron, @Sunshineandflipflops lacking confidence in your appearance is horrible isn't it. I've had big issues with myself - I also had Invisalign several years ago as an adult but really my teeth as a child/teen were bad enough to warrant it then and I should have had more extensive treatment than just standard braces. Still annoyed that I wasn't properly advised as an adult. I'm considering now whether to do something about it but it's not cheap at all and it would take a couple of years to do. Is 31-32 too old to bother?

Nobody else seems to notice but it affects me an awful lot. People tell me I'm stunning and I don't know why. I don't even want to be stunning, just normal would be good. Completely aligned teeth basically.

I’m
Not crying today or I’ll be adding puffy eyes into the mix😂. Going to have another pint of water and shave my legs etc 🤦‍♀️. And I’m remembered things I promised as presents when I was drunk and I really can’t be bothered now 😂😂 (althou obviously I’m not obligated to do anything but I was way more keen xmas eve)

@TheDevilsPedicure I was 38 when I had Invisalign!

I've also had my eyebrows microbladed and have been really pleased with them.

@Sunshineandflipflops I was 22 when I had it but despite wearing the retainers as advised by teeth have shifted slightly- wish I'd had fixed retainers. I also have other issues that need more than standard braces but it's not cheap and would mean going through a lot and take 2-3 years. I'm not sure what to do about it all tbh, gets me down.

Hi all, just checking in. Hugs to those struggling at the moment and hats off to those that have had to endure exs over the festive period for the sake of the kids. Extra hugs to those without their kids at the moment.

My kids were picked up by ex yesterday dinnertime and wont be back till the weekend. My daughter kept said she didn't want to go although didnt put up a fight as such so I told her she'd have a fab time and be back before she knew it. She messaged me last night and today to say shes missing me and cant wait to see me - does it ever get any easier 🤷‍♀️

So in relation to dating, as I have a few childfree nights over these 2 weeks (and I was bored) I unsnoozed my bumble and matched straight away with a new iron. Got chatting and he asked me out so we've arranged to meet tomorrow night. Anyway, yesterday, once kids went, I was out most of day between family and friends to keep myself busy so was shattered (and looking rough no doubt) when I got back so got straight into pjs and settled in for Easterenders. Then a video call came through from new iron 😮 I only ever do video calls with the kids so I just stared at my phone in horror - then thought what the hell and answered it 🤣 had a lovely half hour chat and he seems normal. He also hasn't ghosted me overnight 😉🤣 so I'll keep you posted if date goes ahead

Hey all. I'm back.
I took a couple of months off the dating scene as I realised I wasn't ready and wanted to take some time for me. I'm now back and have a date lined up for Saturday. 😊

I had my teeth whitened last year I did feel better

I would like microblading but it’s so expensive! I have ok eyebrows I am dark and they are thick but they don’t grow how I would like and I don’t have much of an arch so I do fill them in

I’m fat though 😂
I’ve also had acne for years which is better than it was

Shitwithsugar I'm debating adult braces too. Nobody has commented on my teeth but I have one tooth that is twisted because there isnt enough space and I should have continued with braces as a child and I didnt so I'm conscious of it and rarely smile on photos with my mouth open 🤦‍♀️ have some savings so thinking about seeing if there is anything that can be done now

I also do wonder whether I should though as my "fang" has always been part of me and one of my quirks 🤷‍♀️