Dating thread 177. Drinking Prosecco on our own trying to arrange a christmas snog

[Marlboroandmalbec34]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Yeah unbelievably @NoMoreWeepingAndWanking despite never once looking back in the 2 1/2 years since I made exH move out I'm almost - that's almost- wondering why we split. I have no desire to touch him but we're not arguing and he's not sneering at me. I think it's actually a reflection of how far we've come. I no longer hate him. I think we can be friends. We'll see what I'm posting by tomorrow evening though...

And may I say, Thread Folks, how truly grateful I am to you all for always being there, offering generally sound advice and making single life and single parenting that much bit more bearable. Life would be that bit harder without you all

Hopping on to say merry Christmas to all you lovelies for tomorrow!for me I will be at work and don't get the dc back until Boxing Day so will be celebrating Christmas a day late (although do have Christmas dinner with bf and his family when I finish work so can't complain too much!).looking forward to watching Gavin and Stacey too!
menora your iron sounds exhausting - I'd cut him loose
simon hope your mammoth train journey went ok - happy Xmas to you and mini st. Loved your latex willy suit lol!
Hugs,drinks and flowers to all those who are struggling.chin up and here's to a good 2020 with lots of amazing sex with worthy people!

Hope everyone's Christmas eve is going ok. I've decided tonight that this is the last Christmas I'm spending alone. I've had 3 lovely single years and I needed that freedom but next Christmas I'll be coupled up again! New year's resolution.

Merry Christmas lovely ladies. Thank you for the support you have all provided. Onwards and upwards for us all x

Xmas is one day of the year and it may be sad or hard but we can do it.

Merry Christmas everyone x

Merry Christmas everyone. I hope you all have a lovely day, whatever you are doing and whoever you are with. We come to my mums for Christmas and have done since my marriage ended. I feel very fortunate. This will be my 13th Christmas as a single parent and singleton!

Merry Christmas one an all you lovely lot!hoping you all have a lovely Christmas.off to work in a min.

Merry Christmas everyone 🎄

I'm definitely feeling very much left on the shelf this morning. By new year I'll be Bridget, weighing myself daily after pigging out all Xmas at least my mum won't dress me in a carpet.

Thinking especially of you if you're having a rough time. Soon it'll be the new year, I don't usually think about it much but I'm going to make some resolutions this time.

Has he been?

Merry Christmas everyone. Whether today is a loved up day or a day of feeling nothing or anywhere in between, I hope it's a peaceful one.

He's been @SimonJT

Happy Xmas everyone. Loins girded first those who need. Xxxxxxx

He's been and the kids are delighted. It's lovely watching them.

I got a stab of sadness just after they'd opened their presents. FWB popped up in my mind and then they started going on about Gavin and Stacey on tv and I don't actually know if I can watch it later and thats making me sad too as I bloody love it.

And breeeeeeathe

Merry Christmas everyone. Thank you for all your support. And for sharing your stories, good and bad.
I hope 2020 brings lots of happiness and amazing sex.

I'm on my own today. It's been just me here since Sunday. But it hasn't really hit me until I woke up, realised it was Christmas day and I haven't even got a single present to open.
As someone said, it's just one day. The sun is shining, so I'm going for a walk. Christmas is postponed until Saturday, when my daughter comes home.

EchoElephant sorry to hear you are on your own, I hope you can make the day what you want it to be.
My ideal Xmas is me on my own with my dogs eating and doing what I want.

Enjoy your walk.

Lots of love Echo xx that was me last year. It's a day - eat what you like and be extra kind to yourself.

My Xmas Day will be interesting....

Split from my husband last April so last year was first Xmas as seperated. He ended up sectioned (he overdosed because he couldn't bear to live without me) and was discharged a few days before Xmas.
DD (then 15) had no idea he was sectioned and thought he was in hospital with a chest infection so I had all that pretence for weeks.
I hosted, he came round looking like death warmed up, he watched TV while I cooked and the kids (also have a 22 year old) played on their computers.
All very awkward and stressful for me, he stayed about 3 hours.
I was so glad when he went home.

Forward to this year and he wants to host,our DD (now 16) wants us all together so I agree because that's what mums do.
Only problem is that his mental health is still really poor and his concentration is crap so I'm cooking one of my own home reared chickens at mine and making stuffing and then driving to his with DS (DD is with her dad in the week) and preparing all the veg and cooking it.
So really I'm doing it all again like every other year that we were married.

Our divorce is nearly finalised so it's the elephant in the room and ex cant help making snide comments about me having a boyfriend ( which I dont)

Its 1 day (well tomorrow as well but it's a big family get together) and I can survive it and if it makes our DD happy it's all good in my book.
But I reserve the right to come on here and moan!!!

Merry Christmas all of you. Just about to wake up my teenage DC and start the day... Hugs to those of you who are finding today hard. It really is just one day. @EchoElephant you will have a fab Christmas on Saturday with your DD. Spoil yourself today xxx Love to everyone

Thanks. I'll be fine on my own. I've done it before.
Just feeling a bit hurt that Mr FO didn't get me a present. I gave him what I thought was a nice present. He's just sent me a message saying 'Merry Christmas x'.
That's it. No thanks, for the present or asking what I'll be doing today.
If I don't hear any more from him then I'll be reassessing this relationship in the new year.

Anyway, cheers everyone! I'll be having a nice steak with some good wine, all to myself later

EchoElephant what the heck?
I hope he comes good, cant believe how nonchalant he is.

Enjoy your steak and wine

Sorry your on your own Echo, I’m sure many of us will be on and off here today to chat. My dd’s have opened presents and are now doing their own things (glued to consoles and building Lego). I will be spending the day in my PJ’s stuffing my face with pigs in blankets.

Thinking of you @EchoElephant x

Ex arrived at 8am, we did presents and breakfast and he stayed until about 9.30.

How do I reply to his message he just sent saying thanks for today, he has really been struggling this year...?

What I want to say is "oh, poor you, I've been struggling for two years since you had an affair and broke our family up". Not the day for it though.

Merry Christmas all. Spending my last Christmas with husband and kids, I'll be moving out in a month or so

Sent the ex a Merry Christmas message, and got one back a minute later.

Feel worse now. But at least I know we are still on speaking terms.

I need to start planning some dates, had a few offers, but can't do anything until first week in January. I hope I'll get over the ex faster that way