Dating thread 177. Drinking Prosecco on our own trying to arrange a christmas snog

[Marlboroandmalbec34]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Devil I am getting cystitis just thinking about your sex life 😂
Also thigh cramps!

What happens if your wanger doesn’t fit into the condom costume

It wasn’t until Aprox 3 weeks ago at the age of nearly 41 I realised it was possible to have sex more than once in a night 🤦‍♀️

urgh have had an old iron pop up on WA. I quite liked him, not sure why tho. think I'm being love bombed or whatever u call it but hes coming over, kinda would just like to know what he has to say 😫

At the age of 56 I discovered early morning sex - so so wonderful, but XH and most other guys had Never suggested it so I didn’t know I liked it 😂. Reading these stories, Generally I think I’ve been very lucky with the six men - all in their 50s - that I’ve slept with in the last two years. Without exception they’ve been energetic, affectionate, primarily concerned for my pleasure. Plus kinky of course, to a greater or lesser extent!

crazycat have you met him before in person? Is it safe having him come to your house?

@Tigerdater yes have met him quite a few times and been to his.

Haha @SimonJT

He was quite good at the sex bit, all of it. And up for all sorts. Just couldn't cope with the mess afterwards. Or intimacy I guess

@Menora I wasn't able to sit down much the following day and yes my thighs were ruined too 😂 I really miss that feeling now! He stayed over when he had work the following day and I knackered him out so much that he was falling asleep in the work van, his mate was asking him what I'd done 😂😂😂

The only time I had cystitis after sex was when I shagged that neighbour of mine, the one who unmatched me after arranging an evening or 'food, drink and sex' Probably best I didn't have the repeat tbh. He wasn't that great, hurt quite a lot tbh and pissing blood the following day was grim.

Phew!

What I meant to add to the stuff about men being good at sex in their 50s is that ED or the fear of erectile disfunction sadly plagues proceedings. Poor Mr Mad is soooo good in bed but he worries himself sick after a health scare a few months ago, and it’s a vicious circle for him. Ageing sucks.

God I love having wobbly legs the next day.

The best is when you get out of bed/sofa straight after and nearly fall over you’re so wobbly.

We’re off for xmas now, lovely four hour train journey with four changes, woo! I wonder if anyone else on the train has a childs bike in a suitcase...

Have a lovely xmas everyone, don’t get too drunk, do listen to your stomach when it’s had enough and don’t miss Gavin and Stacey!

So I tried joining this chat at start of year but don't think I was really ready.
Moving into 2020 I want a love life.
2019 has been interesting. Spoke to lots, went on one date and really think he was amazing but it was wrong time for us both.
One man was 10 years younger than he said he was and had a mr grey complex but couldn't perform.
One man was socially awkward so dated were in his house but he was great in bed. I just didn't see a future out in public.
Last man I've been talking too was just always busy so I've cut the contact.
Moving into 2020 I'm just not sure how to get what I want. OLD is offering men who want to chat, most turn dirty quickly which is boring me now.
I think I need to start going out and meeting people again. Need to prepare my youngest (8) that mummy may get a boyfriend. Ex doesn't have kids overnight etc so need to figure how this will all work.
I do have one man who is lovely but my friends have ruled him out for some good reasons but he's funny and kind just has issues.

Thanks for reading. Any advice is appreciated. Been separated 15 months now after being married 16 years.

@SimonJT I wonder if anyone on the train has a full body condom in their suitcase?!

Four changes in four hours, are you doing it right simon?😂 have a great time

@unambiguousbeard haha, hope not!

@TigerDater It’s always a nightmare journey, thirty minute taxi ride at the end as well. I only did it last weekend as well, glutton for punishment. MiniSJT is asleep, so he’ll be a nightmare and won’t go to bed tonight, woo

Sounds fun simon hope you and mini have a great Xmas.

I think I have been quite lucky sex wise since becoming single but I do find everyone seems to want performance sex. I miss sleepy sex you don’t have to shave your legs for 😂

Hope you have a lovely Xmas @SimonJT 🎄

@Marlboroandmalbec34 my FWB had a taste for trashy underwear and stockings, was exhausting 😂

Welcome Bonkerz

@shitwithsugaron that's really struck a chord with me. I think we've both had similar 2019's

shitwithsugaron I think the last few days have been an eye opener for you, self discovery is very important.
You cant change the past but you can change your future and it sounds like you are on the right path already.

You are an amazing, strong woman and you will meet someone amazing soon, no drama and stress free.
Never settle for less.

I'm glad and relieved truthfully to see you considering your needs @shitwithsugaron Its good to share on here to process your thoughts.

And stop apologising! 😘