Dating thread 177. Drinking Prosecco on our own trying to arrange a christmas snog

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Not moving lips! Who have these men been snogging all these years! I once snogged a fit bloke who kind of licked my face whilst honking my boobs. It was the weirdest moment

@Menora that is so weird, I'm guessing that was the last time you kissed him 😂

Oooohhhh and now I'm thinking about kissing FWB and how lush it felt, how good at it he was, and everything else. He was 22 and had a lot more skill than a lot of these older guys it seems 😂

Newly single for 1st time in 16 years! On Bumble and hinge. Been on 2 weeks lots of good chat and 2 dates. Both dates I liked the guys, lots of messaging prior. Dates were good, first guy sent 5 messages afterwards raving about how much he enjoyed it and that itd be the first date in many for us & how he couldn't wait for date 2. Then ghosted me. Second guy was kissing me all night, great chat and invited me to dinner the following day. Next morning ghosted. I don't know what I'm doing wrong! X

@Frazzledmum37 you're not doing anything wrong, it's just OLD, full of flaky twats, especially this time of year

@Frazzledmum37 sounds like the actual dates were good at least?! I’m getting used to the ghosting. Welcome to the thread.

@Menora your snog description made me laugh out loud! Honking your boob 🤣

Last year when I split from my husband I had loads of casual sex, most of it really bad.
I never told them they were bad and just said I was busy when they wanted to meet again.

I thought it was my issue as it's hard for me to orgasm and I thought I was being picky.

This year I've been more honest, I didnt outright say they were crap, just gave some pointers in the hope they might improve for the next woman they have sex with.

I've been lucky that I found an FB who was very attentive in bed even when it took me ages to orgasm, that arrangement ended last month after 15 months after he got feelings.

I have a new FB now, 3 months and counting and he is just amazing in bed.
Totally in tune with what I like, I orgasm so quickly and the sex just gets better and better.
Recently we've had long afternoons of sex and its just so intense and amazing.

So, after all that I'm in agreement that no one should settle for less than they deserve - let 2020 be the year we embrace good sex and actually tell men what we want.

The boob honker was very sexy until that point. I also did see his penis and it was very very small. I felt bad for him so never told him any of this!

Amen to that, Sorting.

This is why I love this thread - we can have an honest discussion about sex and share experiences, good and bad.

My first relationship after my marriage ended was with someone who was very, very good in bed. He told me his biggest turn on was giving pleasure to a woman. Unfortunately I discovered that he like to dish out the pleasure to as many women as possible. So that didn't last long.

I had a very uninspiring weekend with MrFO. First time we've spent more than a few hours together and I was looking forward to a few days of mind blowing sex but instead he turned up Fri eve with a bad cold.
So there was no sex, no kissing and not much else.

I also learnt the story of his most recent ex. And how she is still causing him problems. Which could in turn cause me some problems because our circle of friends overlap.

I'm feeling like a bit of horrible person today because I asked him to leave early yesterday. I couldn't stand the coughing and sniffing any longer. And even though I like him, I'm trying to work out if he is worth the potential trouble that his ex could cause.

I like this thread as you can be honest without being sleazy and it doesn’t feel grim! It’s just honest!

Yuk to snot. Not sexy

Anyone had luck with speed dating?

I’d love to try speed dating but outside big cities it seems to be confined to under 35s. Admittedly some people of my age don’t move very speedily 😂 !

Great thread ladies! I wish I'd read this 4 weeks ago!

Joined an OLD site late one evening and the very next morning had a lovely message from a guy. We hit it off. We organised to meet and I bailed (not really sure why). He instantly took me off WhatsApp (our exchange over it had been pleasant) so I text messaged him the next day and he explained why, and I apologised for bailing on him. Wasn't his fault at all.

We arranged to meet again recently and there was an instant attraction. He kissed me half way through the evening. We didn't stop talking. I did refuse a lift home. Just some rules I have to keep safe.

Since then we have been messaging every day. He messages early every morning. Then when we can throughout the day but not much in the evenings (which I found odd. I know he isn't in a relationship but did wonder if he was dating).

Had plans to meet again. He really appeared keen.

We had a chat on Friday about any other people we had in our lives. We were both honest and he said he was meeting an ex the next day just as friends (she had cheated on him. Only together a couple of months). He hoped that wouldn't put me off. He had only been out on one other date and whilst he thought she was extremely attractive there was no connection.

Messaged all day Friday into the early evening (we were both going out). Now poof! Haven't heard a word since.

I've blocked him today as I wont to chase. I put it down to maybe him seeing his ex and they have either got it back on or his heads in a mess, but I didn't get a message before he went to meet her. He has been online.

Its just odd and I think I over invested way too early!

Thoughts ladies? Have I been too harsh and blocked too early?!

Any words of wisdom appreciated.

Oh god exH couldn't kiss. He just sucked my tongue. I gave up kissing him years before we gave up sex. He was useless. Small dick, I mean really small. And he didn't make up for it. He was rubbish at oral. I had to totally be in charge and seek out my orgasm with him, ie find a way to come myself. I look at his GF and think, why? He's fat, grumpy, miserable, small dick and crap shag. I'm now delighted when men take control. Although Why oh why do men think it's good to go on for as long as possible? Mr U was guilty of this. Although he did look at me and engage with me and do things I liked. But we both had to have a shower immediately afterwards. Like immediately. So the post coital sweaty cuddle never happened.

Why did you have to have a shower immediately unambiguous? I’m intrigued.

loveabit I think you did the right thing. He’s been online and not messaged, having been on a date. I would have read the same into it as you. And also that he’s rude.

Potential contamination by bodily fluids @TigerDater . Yes. I know.

@Loveabitofrain does he have kids he has on a weekend ? Some men won’t message when they have their kids. So I don’t usually hear from my (not sure what to call a 5 date person) at the weekend but we’ll text a lot during week.

@unambiguousbeard. I think a shower won’t help 😂.

Mr Gray is good at the sex 😂. And I’ll have 2-3 (or more) O during . But sometimes it feels a bit the same and routine , but I guess I shouldn’t complain about that

@jane1978xx good thinking but he didn't have his kids no. Just find it weird, normally got a good gut feeling for this sort of thing.

unsmbiguous words fail me, I just don’t get it at all! ‘Contamination’? It’s the best bit!

@ oh dear. That is very weird. And off putting.

I'm up for 2020 being the year of good sex. I'd been single for years so it's only just over a year ago I had sex for the first time in quite a while. One very vanilla and not really interested in my pleasure, one who threw me around and made me feel like were on a porn set, one with death grip (but did make me finish) and one who wants to please but often falls short of the mark...

Well that's my word. But yes all those dirty bodily fluids.... he's a complicated creature. Ah god when you write it down/tell people you realise what you secretly knew was odd really is odd!

I am a one massive massive huge O person
Then I can’t have any more in the same session 😂

I slept with Mr G on our first date, he's a good kisser what can I say. 😂

He sent me the sweetest message as I was travelling home, and told me it was the best night of his life. I didn't take him seriously at the time, but he meant it. Things between us have just gotten better since. We have amazing chemistry but a huge part of that for me is that he's just a wonderful human being who I feel privileged to know. He also once said that nothing in bed counted til I was done. I practically pounced on him when he said that.

Me too @Menora it's quite annoying. Always been that way. Once I'm done I have quite a small window before irritation sets in. Having said that with the right person I do simultaneous so it kind of works sometimes. Once I know them. I think I said this before but I couldn't come with Mr U, very very weird, never happened before, just couldn't tip over. It made for really good if over lengthy sex.