Do men prefer submissive and obedient women?

[Swlondon123]

My current boyfriend's longest relationship was 6 years with a woman who worshipped the ground he walked on. I am more assertive and argumentative and I think it's more difficult for me to sustain a realtionship than other women.

I wish I was more obedient as although feminism and equality have become the norm nature is still sexist and men prefer to have a leading role in a relationship. Do you agree with this?

I wish I could bite my tongue, but I am too damn opinionated for my own good which I think is causing realtionship failures on my part.

Is the best way to sustain a realtionship through submissiveness and obedience? Can I please have some thoughts on this matter?

yes bite your tongue and trust your man’s leadership. Feminine women attract masculine men. To be feminine means to also respect the fact that a man should have the final say in decision making.. in fact it makes your life easier too. Yes I’m old fashioned but that’s why I’m married to a strong man

Actually I have a question about this. What if he’s got something wrong or being a bit of a dick? Do you just sigh and giggle?

Well - having committed the cardinal sin of searching, it would appear Anessia is in a sexless marriage with a porn addict, so hardly something to aspire to.

Fortunately most of us don't live in the 1950s, and won't put up this this shit.

No way.

I’m In an equal partnership , and could never have had a family in any other circumstance.
I’m not particularly feisty, i like harmony and I don’t like arguing. Although I’m more than happy to discuss differences and negotiate. But I want my opinions, needs and emotions to be taken seriously. And naturally I give this in return.

There are areas where DH is more dominant/ active than me and vice versa. Like everyone we have our strengths and weaknesses.
Im only prepared to be in a partnership with someone who has my back, and I would countenance any power games or displays of power. It’s all about respect.

Wouldn’t countenance ffs

In my experience, the majority of men want this, yes. They may SAY they want a strong woman but their reaction when they actually meet one proves otherwise.

@nibdedibble Great post, I think I would agree with you.

I would agree. 'The wrong kind of man'. I'm a stay at home dad - and I would be more stay at home but the kids are growing and don't need me so much - damn them for their teenage maturity!
My wife is the main breadwinner and deals with 90% of the financial stuff because I honestly haven't a clue.

I'm a woman and my husband cooks all my meals 🤷🏻‍♀️

He'd have a nervous breakdown if I became submissive and dependant on him.

Are we married?

Back in the 1950s, I believe there was this thing called Gin. Gin and Valium.

Back in the Real World, you really need to raise the bar slightly higher. Just above 'Abusive Pondlife' would be a start.

Sounds like you're missing your previous 'obedient' boyfriend and don't like not being in control.

Dear God no.

I'd die of boredom if DW was like that and, frankly, would never have been interested in her in the first place.

I am currently dating a man-child who likes to be the dominant decision maker in a relationship. How screwed up is that?

Incompetent with a fragile ego is never a good combination.

I binned one of those off 8 years ago, best thing I ever did!

Just asked DH this. When he finished laughing he said no, he'd be bored out of his brain with a woman like that.

My longest relationship was 6.5 years with a very obedient man, and I will never forget this wonderful man who let me be the decision maker.
So it's ok if YOU are dominant and get to be decision maker but not ok if men want the same. Relationships should never be unbalanced like this.

I would be deeply suspicious of any man who wanted a submissive, obedient partner, and go nowhere near him. Total red flag.

I'd die of boredom if DW was like that and, frankly, would never have been interested in her in the first place.

Well you'd have to question what a man looking for an "obedient" wife is really looking for in the marriage, it can't be a partner and friend because partners and friends have opinions and work together not for eachother. So must be a servant and handmaiden

I feel that someone needs to back down and that person will probably have to be me as I earn less and I am younger than him

Under that reasoning, my DH has to back down to me because I'm older and earn more....… Can't say I'm not tempted by this line of thinking. I wonder if Dh would feel the same?

Yes I’m old fashioned but that’s why I’m married to a strong man

My Dh is super strong. He totally got the lid off the pickle jar last night without even having to tap it with a knife. He's fucking superman.

Is the best way to sustain a relationship through submissiveness and obedience ?.

No it isn't but being with somebody who likes the sound of their own voice and feels they own the moral high-ground on any subject they care to launch into is a royal pain in the arse and will eventually piss you off. That goes for either sex. I was told ( by great aunt on my wedding day ) that the sign of a good wife was knowing when to keep her mouth open and when to keep it closed, LOL.

He totally got the lid off the pickle jar last night without even having to tap it with a knife

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Unswoon yourself, he's mine!

@HulksPurplePanties

My Dh is super strong. He totally got the lid off the pickle jar last night without even having to tap it with a knife. He's fucking superman.

Tap it with a knife?

@TheSandman don’t question the process, that man is a god

TheSandman you've never tapped round the edges of a jar to help loosen it? Isn't this normal?

you've never tapped round the edges of a jar to help loosen it? Isn't this normal?

Never heard of it before. I just twist the tops off. If it's tight I'll stretch a rubber band round it for extra grippage.