Dating thread 176 - where we get through Christmas with team carpark updates

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

I'm on a night out with a friend and it's so fun to not care about male attention! Been sending silly pics to Mr G, he loves it.

I know Jane. Sad.

@shitwithsugaron thinking of you. I'm worried mr b has reeled you back in. If he has please look at the freedom programme. Really hope you are ok

I'm off for a weekend away. I do feel I'm too old for all this but it's fun!

@halfthesun he sounds like a knob. How rude.
@unambiguousbeard wow a real life date. How exciting.
@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking how fortuitous you see Mr Pilates.

@shitwithsugaron hope you are ok. If you are back with Mr B no judgement from me. We are all grown ups who make our own choices. I went back to Mr S after all. And whilst it ended I'm glad I did as I don't have any feelings for him now. Whereas before I was always left with the feeling he was my one.

unambiguous wowzers that never happens! go you

halthesun neggin twat! runnnnnn

shitwith hope you are ok lovely

notcool how are you doing now? has her made contact?

salty how are you? any good irons?

I might just throw in the towel, im fed up of it again

Thanks @Marlboroandmalbec34 no I've blocked him. I literally feel like a veil has been removed from my eyes. He was so cold towards me in his last message it all just fell into place and I never want to hear from him again. Warning you all off short bearded scousers!! 😂 How's mr Big...?

The coldness in a message is often the catalyst for "fuck you, you stupid asshole waste of space!" Notcool

Yeh @Azzizam he displayed no empathy or concern for my emotions. He'd got himself into a self centred pity party and I saw him for the self obsessed twat he actually is. It's literally amazing to me how my feelings switched off as a result.

I'm only on pof now. Occasionally I'll receive a full or weird message. Recently I had one from a 24 year old who's message was like an application for The Apprentice! Entrepreneur indeed 😏.
Still have a few ex irons sniffing around and it makes a change to be the one ignoring and random-ghosting with a smidgeon of breadcrumb-ing. Hehe, they're definitely on the bench!
I suspect Mr B has wheedled his way back but this is how it goes for us, one step at a time and I too hope you're ok shit.

dull message

So 4th ‘date’ tomorrow with mr gray is a Netflix and chill type thing. We’ve been for a drink or 2 but not dinner or anything. Am I putting myself into a fwb thing automatically or does it not really matter ? I cba gojng our tbh as it cold and I’ve got work Monday and it’s been a crazy week.

jane chilling 😉 and not going out dies sound like FWB. Not necessarily, and not necessarily a bad thing of course

Hi Marlbs - not dating at all at the moment. My last experience has put me down off a bit. Fortunately nothing bad happened and we did nothing more than one short snog but decided to stay away from dating for a bit. I know there's lots of good guys on there too and it was inevitable I'd kiss a frog at some point. When I miss dating I'll go back..

@TigerDater as long as it’s fun I guess it doesn’t matter 🤷🏼‍♀️. And it is fun

Good morning
Mr popcorn was great company, we did end up drinking far too much, having a lot of sex & he left about 2 hours ago
I wasn’t expecting that!!

@undecidedsofa sounds great

Sounds awesome, @undecidedsofa!!

(14 days to go for me...)

Mr E, who I had joined the smitten bench for, is still using dating apps
I've deleted his chat and number. Can't be arsed with this! Thought I'd met one of the few good eggs out there!

@peanutbuttermouth how do you know ? Had you discussed not seeing other people

Yes we discussed it last time I stayed at his. I had a gut feeling last night, checked twice and his location changed twice. I always trust my gut feeling!

@peanutbuttermouth how long had u been seeing him?

I still have the apps on my phone so does my iron. I dont use mine, not sure about him but dont wanna look silly by bringing it up. 😫

My date has cancelled for tomorrow 😢 so now I have a day by myself as the dc’s will be at their dads. Not sure I can secure a date with another iron as it’s short notice.

Only about 6 weeks but he specifically said that he wasn't looking/using apps any more and last night I could see that he was (location only updates when app is opened). We'd had a lovely series of dates and 2 overnights. I'm not accepting any less than what I want which is for someone to be so into me that he isn't still looking elsewhere. So I've just sent a pleasant message breaking it off. No reply yet.

He maybe has them on his phone and doesn’t use them . I would ask , if you like him don’t loose it if it’s a misunderstanding.