Am I in the wrong thinking he shouldn't be doing this?

[Pollypocket89]

Tell me if I'm wrong. My husband works with a woman who also runs her own lingerie company. It's a home based low scale bespoke type thing and she models her own stuff.

My husband follows her on social media and she regularly posts stories in her underwear and he views them

Am I wrong to find this really inappropriate, to knowingly look at someone you work with in their underwear? I don't mind him seeing lingerie ads etc but it feels very different that it's a woman he sees every day

Well your husband isn’t a mind reader and communication is important in all relationships...it can save a lot of hassle.

I’d have to ask him, do you fancy her? If so, I can’t be with you and that actions speak louder than words. When he knows exactly where you stand, he can make his decision.

My husband is very thoughtful and considerate in the things he chooses to do. But it’s only because he knows he wouldn’t keep me if he gave me anything less.

Sleazebag! Does he follow Gary the plumber too?? I bet he doesn’t!!

He does follow other people he works with. I did bring it up with him and told him how I felt especially with him being a manager and questioned about her before and he said that changing any behaviour looks more guilty so he's being the same as he isn't doing anything to hide

You told him that you feel uncomfortable with his viewing her in her underwear and he dismissed your feelings?

Oh great reason for him to continue his sleazing over her!!

He could just tell her his wife thinks it's inappropriate.

His response is a load of crap. He could just stop following her, and if she asks why (!!!! Red flag!!! ), say he's not so much on social media now.

Not a good idea to tell her it makes you uncomfortable though, a bit disloyal actually.

His response is a manipulation designed to maintain the status quo and hide in plain sight.

If he valued your feelings, he would cease immediately. Instead, he is prioritizing her and himself. He is determined to look and wants her to know.

I wouldn’t stay with my husband if he disrespected me like this. I would consider it a form of infidelity.