Dating Thread 175 - It's not you, it's them. Also: people are weird at Christmas time.

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

I literally cannot interpret that emoji!! Good wow I hope!

Let’s just say I’ve had sex more times in the last few hours than the last few years

@Jane1978xx woo hoo! Now, that's an update that we like to hear!

Awesome!!

Ah fab!

Brilliant @Jane1978xx, glad it went well 😊

Delighted for you jane 🥳😊

Oooh excellent Jane

Thanks all, it’s a shame we aren’t both free until next wed stupid Xmas 😂😂

I'm swiping loads but there's no one nearby. Really want to get on some dates but there doesnt seem to be anyone that nearby 😩

What are you on @TimeTravellingDiamond ? Pof and tinder tend to be the same people but bumble seems to be different people or you can do a free search on match.com

I'm on tinder and bumble @Jane1978xx. I went back on POF but deleted it after seeing you and others have been hacked 😂

I'm struggling again today- god I feel so pathetic! But I've lost a friend who I spoke to literally every day, usually an awful lot, since July. I'm missing him like crazy. I keep remembering things we've done and it hurts.

I'm worse than I thought I'd be. I think it's because I've had such a lot of trauma the past couple of years, I'm more vulnerable than usual. He was the person who brightened things up and now he's gone.

tigerdater I know you now! 😁

@TimeTravellingDiamond I haven't posted about this before but I'm sorry about what happened with your FWB, I completely get how painful it is to lose a friend, especially as you were at that lovely stage where you hadn't discovered his faults and he seemed perfect. I'm not good with advice but I suggest you pop some mistletoe in your handbag and start waving it at any sexy men you meet and then report back to us!

Am I the only one wondering how messy @Jane1978xx 's iron's house was?

Not sure I want to know how messy the house was. Just how messy the sex was!

@Stealth - not the only one - me too!!

Oh timetravelling I am so sorry you are feeling sad. The FWB thing is such a dangerous game. When mine loses interest (which I know he will) it will hurt but I know I will miss the friendship more than the sex. I won’t ever do casual again

jane wooohooo so pleased for you.

hairy I actually split with Nick O’teen in spring. You may remember as I cried for days 😂 should really change my name but “NetflixandGettingGhosted” doesn’t have the same ring!

I need to stop watching Christmas films. I just want a hot prince of an imaginary country to have a slow mo snowball fight with

@Savoretti that's the important bit. After my first time of dtd with Mr R he had a shower and folded and hung his towel. I knew at that point he was a keeper.

It was just like he had a lot of stuff in boxes and bikes and random stuff as if the house was too small. It wasn’t awful or anything 😂.

It was good all of the 4 times 😂😂

@StealthNinjaMum thankyou so much. All of you on here have been so kind to me
I'm a 31 year old woman, should stop behaving like a teenage girl.

I think I was so comfortable with him too. I felt all warm and happy around him. He was just funny without knowing it. Never the kind to try be funny, just the way he said things and the things he would come out with. In that accent. And the things he'd say (fair amount of valleys dialect).

Actually even knowing some of his faults didn't stop me wanting him. It's so hard to lose the friendship but I couldn't carry on being his friend whilst he's with someone else.

I'm not deleting his number- he got back in touch once before so who knows. But I'm not going to text him. I'm not doing it.

@TimeTravellingDiamond I don’t know what else to say apart from the cliches like look after yourself and concentrate on your self and your family over Xmas. In one way it’s harder that it’s Christmas but this time of year has a lot of distractions and nice things going on

@StealthNinjaMum see my fwb would leave his wet towel all over the bed or the floor, and get in my bed soaking wet too. I just didn't care 😂 was just happy to have him there without a towel on 😂

@Jane1978xx thankyou. I'm definitely finding it a million times harder that it's Christmas. I can't listen to fucking Xmas songs they're killing me right now 😭😂

It's also cos I had a really terrible Xmas last year and really hoped this would be so much better. I wish this had happened a month ago. Or in a months time

Do you have kids ?