Hang on. The not wanting to buy a house together is because of a "family situation". Not because he doesnt want to presumably? If thats right is it really compromising or having to wait for the right time
I don't get the forgetting about bills either. You put them all onto direct debit and set them to come out as close together as possible (1st ofthe month). You (as a collective entity) put aside (in separate easy access savings maybe) enough to cover the bills on pay day. He cant "forget" them your not "wifeworking", it all happens automatically! 30% more salary doesnt necessarily equate to more unallocated funds. It depends on pension, travel costs, what else he's spending on. If hes marrying you, you will benefit from his pension savings (makes sure you know what they are) etc
As someone who was very keen on tradition and had a very very beautiful engagement ring, i can absolutely confirm having an expensive very beautiful engagement ring doesn't guarantee his commitment in any way shape or form.
Giving you money to put into savings presumably in your name however, thats something. Having been divorced, Id take the cz ring, the savings and the trust over a diamond ring any day. Thrifty doesn't necessarily mean tight sometimes it means spending money sensibly to build a better tomorrow.
It doesn't necessarily mean compatibility either. If youre more a bird in the hand is worth 2 in the bush kind of person, then you may well end up rubbing each other the wrong way.
I do think you need a bit of pause for thought. One way or the other its clear you are both not singing from the same hymn sheet on this. Whilst i dont think either of you are necessarily unreasonable, im not sure how compatible your approaches to life are either