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We all know that "all men do it", but someone has just suggested that "all women do it too"....but I don't

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ALittleBitPrude · 20/08/2007 21:51

Do you look at porn?

Do you masterbate?

Because someone on here has just suggested that most women look at porn - but I don't (apart from checking DPs habits on hte Cached files).

DP assumes I masterbate - but I don't (I amnot saying I have never done so).

Am I alone, am I a freak?

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MyTwopenceworth · 20/08/2007 21:53

porn - Not any more, well, only if some cruel person on here links to it! (bloody grannyporn the other week!), but used to, to try to get some sign of life from dh!!

and no to the other one. I just can't bring myself to do it, it feels, well, i feel silly.

madamez · 20/08/2007 21:53

It's like most things - up to you whether you do or don't. Particularly when it comes to sex, it doesn't matter what other people do, just do what you are comfortable with (as long as that doesn't involve harming non-consenting parties, of course).

Dabbles · 20/08/2007 21:53

are u a name changer... ashamed of ur self but u expect others to op[enly talk abotu this stuff?

mamazon · 20/08/2007 21:53

you absolutly must.

how can you expect your DP to know what he is doing if your not sure yourself

berolina · 20/08/2007 21:54

no and no... prude and proud

Original poster
ALittleBitPrude · 20/08/2007 21:54

I am a name changer more for the point of DP tracking me.

Feel free to change names if you like.

Dabbles - I like your drunken scribbles BTW

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ELF1981 · 20/08/2007 21:56

yes and yes
with and without my husband
I dont see anything wrong with it!
And I'm not a namechanger (though rather tired and might regret this post in the morning!)

divastrop · 20/08/2007 21:58

i dont look at porn now but i did when i was single.not all men look at porn anyway.

i masturbate occasionally now,but only in extreme circumstances.i used to be at it every night when i was on my own.think the first time was when i was 13.its fun(and sometimes becomes necessary IME).

berolina · 20/08/2007 21:59

Oh, I don't see anything wrong with it, but I just don't see the point.

ELF1981 · 20/08/2007 22:01

I love going for dinner with my husband, but sometimes its nice to eat by myself, and not have to worry about whether he likes his food and make conversation...

GreebosWhiskers · 20/08/2007 22:01

Porn - not any more (although I do have a black lace 'novel' under my side of the bed but that's words rather than pictures - does that count?)

The other - yes, with & without dh.

gingeme · 20/08/2007 22:03

Yes and yes. Dont see anything wrong with it to be honest . Sometimes needs must. As madamez said as long as it doesnt harm anyone else so be it.

littlelapin · 20/08/2007 22:03

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gingeme · 20/08/2007 22:04

Greebowhiskers Black lace books...Ace

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ALittleBitPrude · 20/08/2007 22:06

I have to say on teh whole I don't actually have an issue with it. I don't necessarily disagree with it - I just don't do it.

I guess my biggest 'issue' is when in the throws of sex DP tells me to masterbate liek I do when I am on my own. It is a serious dampener when he makes such an inaccurate assumption.

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kama · 20/08/2007 22:07

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ALittleBitPrude · 20/08/2007 22:08

LL - I can see your need .

Probably my most active period of masterbation was after saying a passionate goodbye on my doorstep to my DP at the time (when I was in my teens) - but now I have a full time DP who I go to bed with every night (not that we have sex every night) I just don't see the need.

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divastrop · 20/08/2007 22:08

ALBP-have you never even tried it(on your own i mean)?

ELF1981 · 20/08/2007 22:09

Good god woman, DH and I say all sorts when in the throwes of it all, doesnt mean we do it all in the cold light of day!! Play along!

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ALittleBitPrude · 20/08/2007 22:09

The closest I have got to porn is "sex fiction" you get in some mags. I am not intersted in pics. I find them vile actually.

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ELF1981 · 20/08/2007 22:12

i guess it depends on what you look at.
If it is real hard core, that can be a bit much, but there is other types, kind of like full fat, reduced fat and sugar free pop.

Some porn you dont really see anything at all, but can still be nice to watch.

divastrop · 20/08/2007 22:13

x posts.

its upto you really.i would much rather have the real thing,but sometimes its not practical at that moment and DIY is instant relief.

doing it in front of your oh is a matter of personal taste and it doesnt amtter what others do,but maybe you should explain to your dh that you wouldnt feel comfy doing it and please dont mention it again?

divastrop · 20/08/2007 22:15

i meant the masturbating,rather than the porn.

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ALittleBitPrude · 20/08/2007 22:18

It wasn't even so much about let me see you do it....it was teh fact that he assumed that I do it in my spare time that upset me.

He knows how I feel about him masterbating, which we have discussed. But the last thing I expected after this is for him to assume that I do it too.

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lisad123 · 20/08/2007 22:24

Im not going to answer that but did discuss this with a friend one day. She told me she has never ever ever had an OOO.

Poor girl, not even been able to do it herself