We all know that "all men do it", but someone has just suggested that "all women do it too"....but I don't

[ALittleBitPrude]

Do you look at porn?

Do you masterbate?

Because someone on here has just suggested that most women look at porn - but I don't (apart from checking DPs habits on hte Cached files).

DP assumes I masterbate - but I don't (I amnot saying I have never done so).

Am I alone, am I a freak?

"you don't turn me on"

And believe me I have tried.

I think I will be leaving this convo shortly. Hope you are not offended but 1. I am not comfortable with teh direction it is going in. 2. I am going to bed shortly.

well, in that case, stuff him, dont bother with him and play with yourself!! and on your behalf for his answer!!

Ouch thats brutal. He actually said that?

Can't be arsed to read the whole thread, but yup

Yup he actually said that.

word for word.

I think that's his problem that he needs to sort out. I'm sure there's nothing wrong wit you at all and that he's just made you feel you can't initiate sex because of his attitude. That's no way to treat you at all. Sorry this is making you uncomfortable but this isn't your fault at all, don't let your dp treat you like that.

I'm going to answer your question the way I think you wanted answers.

I've got a v high sex drive and masturbate a lot (every day!)and love it, however, I would NEVER masturbate in front of a partner (urgh, wierd!) (just not for me, no offence to others)

I've discussed this with my girlfriends at length and some of us do, some of us don't, some do it a lot, some only every now and then.

I think it's a personal thing and like you say not a sweeping statement 'all girls do it'

Not all men do it, I am totally convinced my hubby doesn't!

yes and yes.

mostly read porn (mark pritchard....lumme)

He is obviously the one with the problem sweetie not you. He is also very insensitive. Poor libido can be caused by many things from stress to low testosterone levels. Maybe he needs to see his doctor. I would also suggest some counseling.

Poor libido isn't (and certainly wasn;t) a problem when we had THE discussion.

He also made it clear that it wasn't possible for a man to have intercourse if he wasn't aroused (obvious), but strongly implied that "it is different for a woman" i.e. a woman doesn't have to be aroused - not that is actually a problem that has occured.

He is an arsehole isn't he?

Anyway I am off to bed now. Thanks for the release ladies.

Yes he is an asshole

He might be too embarrased to admit that its low libido or that he may be impodent

very much an arsehole and actually a woman DOES have to be aroused to have sex, tell him that.

a woman doesnt have to be aroused to have sex?

well,no,maybe not if his knob is the size of a matchstick

sounds to me like he's having problems getting it up,and would rather blame you than admit there is a problem.if he manages to get an erection ok when going solo,why dont you suggest he shows you how its done?why do you have to be the one to get him aroused?he could have a play then say 'here,sit on this'

MAN ALERT!

My DW does it often, sometimes by herself, sometimes with me 'assisting' - she loves it and so do i. It also becomes part of our foreplay too. There is nothing more sexy (i think) than your woman having orgasms before penetration.

She has quite a high sex drive and it feels perfectly normal for her, but i suppose everyone is different.

You shouldn't feel strange because it doesn't apply to you i guess.

No, you are not a freak. I read only today that only 45% of women masterbate. Funny sort of survey, but apparently that's so.

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Well. a woman doesn't need to be aroused for a man to penetrate her with his penis. Quite often, that's called rape (setting aside the times when one consents to a partner just to get him to stop moaning so you can go to sleep without an argument). I'm not surprised you're not feeling much like having sex, ALBP. But it's your DP's attitude to women in general and you in particular that is the problem here, not anything you may like or not like sexually.
Hope you can either educate him or dump him. Best of luck.

yes and yes . I strongly recommend a website called Literotica (dot com)

Your not alone! I dont do it, have tried but just cant seem to get into it. I too have heard similar references that most women do it but i thought this was just a male fantasy! Apparently it is not just a male fantasy, having read here and heard elsewhere. I do/did feel like i was the only freak who didnt masturbate. So had in the past made an effort to try - maybe i didnt know what i was missing, but nope i wasnt. I felt far too self concsious and didnt enjoy so gave up and went off to do housework - far more interesting!

Each to their own and dont be too concerned about it!
Porn though (carefully selected) can be quite helpful with the sex drive issue. I find it makes me more (how can i put this) KEEN?

Never heard of PinkWorld .... or Literotica for that matter. Are they porn sites for girls ?

But do these websites mess up your PC with virus's & Spyware ????

you're all going to go blind!!!!!! you dirty girls

yes and sometimes. just checked pinkworld - bit heavy on teens and anal for me

The only porn I've ever watched is when I'm waiting for DS4(or any of the others) to wake for his last feed.

Channel Surfing usually means I'll come across some porn on Bravo or something. I'll watch for 10 minutes or so mainly feeling puzzled that people get a thrill from it.

and the other thing. No I've never done it. It's not my job. That's what I use Dh for