Exh’s dp doesn’t want me to text about anything other than DD

[Lollypalooza]

Background- ExH and I were together 10 years (married 4). We have a 5yo DD who we share care of. We separated just over 3 years ago, and although there were obviously difficult times and ups and downs, the split was amicable and was largely due to us having drifted apart as a couple, being more like friends who lived together (separate bedrooms).

We both now have new partners. ExH lives with his new partner. We are both much happier in our new relationships.

As I said, we are still friendly and will be in touch over arrangements for care of DD as well as other bits and pieces such as have you heard about X mutual friend who had a baby or have you heard the new song by X. I have absolutely no romantic feelings/attraction to him.

This week I sent him a link to a news story about Huntington’s disease, as he used to work with people with Huntington’s. He replied “Oh yes I saw this in the news. X is a bit uncomfortable with us texting about anything other than DD so might have to keep it businesslike from now on. Hope you understand”.

What do you think? I just replied “Ok”.

Only time I've not been overly keen on my husband doing something for his ex was when she asked him to drive her and her dd (not his) to a concert 60 miles away. As she has a car, and is capable of driving that car I had no idea why she was incapable.

Anything to do with their child he should absolutely 100% have everything to do with.

It's all very well saying she's an idiot or, as a pp said, that they wouldn't allow someone from 'outside' to walk in and start laying down boundaries, but you've go to remember that you are outside of their relationship. She kind of does have the right to set the boundaries for her relationship. For OPs ex, his dp comes first and that's as it should be. Any man who isn't happy to do what his dp wants will say so to her - if he's happy to end this friendship then it clearly didn't mean that much to him. No point in blaming her because it's ultimately his choice.