Dating thread 174 - where we remind everyone of rule no.13

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@Jane1978xx I am hard work

Sorry I meant @Menora

Yeah he lives far enough away that he'd need to stay after a few drinks but my kids are with me full time so no chance and I can hardly invite myself to his 😂 I'm just going to have to let it develop slowly but I'm an impatient bugger.

Interesting about men not liking women who can't take compliments, I struggle to accept them unless I think they're genuine.

Oh and I've turned my last seen off so that I don't obsessively check other people's.

Yep off is better as they could literally click one second or be speaking to their parents or kids anything. Maybe hint about a night away 🤷🏼‍♀️ Or if you always say good morning you could say I’d love to say that to you in real life 😳

Rural Berkshire here.

I always accept compliments

...with grace and charm, even though I know they’re bullshit. Costs me nothing 🤷‍♀️

So we could actually meet somewhere in the midlands! Who wants to organise that? 🤣

Liverpool isn't far from me either!

Birmingham is pretty easy to get to from most places

Enjoy, @shitwithsugaron - I got buzzed last night and sent a lot of pics to Mr G on Snapchat I suddenly remembered them about midday today lol. He wasn't complaining! Eek

I can do Birmingham, easy by train.

@unambiguousbeard @Menora make that 3 Essex girls on the thread

Currently updating from MrM's sofa...can't sleep so have come downstairs. I'm Northwest and would love to meet people from this thread!

We got merrily pissed on gin last night and had a whale of a time...I've finally met my match in the bedroom and in life actually. I love the very bones of him and the feeling is mutual.

I'm in London, not far from unambiguous I think. Originally from Kent. Posting from bed where I'm drinking the post-sex cup of tea Mr BC made me ... he's so lovely!

@BatshitCrazyWoman, @KermitRulesOK lovely updates 💗

I love this thread

I'm feeling sad. My daughter was giving stbx a cuddle yesterday and i just keep thinking about how sad it is that we're not a fanily any more.

I'm lonely and low. OLD seemed promising but have been let down so much. I just keep wondering what stbx found so lacking in me that he couldn't try and fix our relationship.

I didn't sign up for this life. Sometimes i wish i didn't have the children so i could just go amd start over. Hard enough trying to find soneone who wants me, never mind my children too.

nomore a big Sunday hug from me 💐 it’s such early days for you, I know it will come right in the end.

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking 💐 from me too. I think at moments I feel exactly that way too (except I completely loathe my abusive stbxh, but the rest of it all rings true).

It's really hard to stay positive at times and all you can do is keep putting one foot in front of the other and it will get better, you have to trust in it. I'm hopeful that maybe we've just not found the right people for us.

OLD is hard work sometimes. I've been struggling with the whole FWB thing, he's so right and he's so lovely but the timing is just all wrong. Life feels mean at times

Been on three dates with a guy I thought was decent. Question, do you guys not think it's s huge indicator of bad character if they have nothing good to say about their ex, what I mean is, every single to time she is mentioned, he said she was mental, was a money grabber, and that she was claiming every benefit available. He picked me up on the third date. His driving is aveful. And, he talks really badly of women who have a few extra pounds. 😕 Why? It's like he hates women. BTW, not seeing him again.

@TheTickingTime I think if someone is decent and their ex really is that bad then they keep their mouth shut about a lot of it early on because anyone with any self awareness will realise how it comes across.

He sounds grim! Bullet dodged there.

Another from Midlands here

nomoreweeping I am feeling lonely and low too at the moment. I used to love christmas but now it just brings me down as it reminds me of what I lost. I never wanted my marriage to end and thought it was perfect up to the point he announced he was leaving and I found out about his affair. I'm sure I'll be fine once Christmas out of way again. Stay strong 🤗