Dating thread 174 - where we remind everyone of rule no.13

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Oooh just matched with a really fit guy on bumble, 🤞he replies 😬

He looks a bit like my FWB. 5ft10, Fit body, curly brown hair, full lips.... I really want him to reply!

Hooray @TimeTravellingDiamond maybe we'll both move in...

No he definitely has a beard @BatshitCrazyWoman I had a wee SM stalk and he had a humongous beard til recently. There's also pix with a gf a couple of years ago which is good.

Move ON not in. I'm not doing that. Ever. Again

I've got date FIVE booked tomorrow with Mr E, and still no talk of an overnight date. This is unheard of for me. He seems quite innocent and I think I'm going to have to be the one who initiates. But how?!?!

That’s a good point jane I’m pretty footloose as DC are adults so I can move quickly. Two weeks seems fine, two months not. Also, most of my first dates have been (I realise now) FWB interviews, so I think that’s different too. No hard and fast rules in OLD I guess - except Rules 1-13 of course 😂

@unambiguousbeard I hope we both can! Being hung up on someone is exhausting 😩

I'm no longer hung up just sad. I'm ready to go again which I haven't been. It's been 6 weeks and he was a bit of a prick last time.

I've had 17 first dates this year. 6 made it to a second date. But only 2 got third date. And I'm still single 😂
I've met someone on the same day that we started chatting. But not as quickly as 45mins

My daughter only goes to her dad 3 or 4 days every 2 weeks so it’s hard to find time and I also plan nights out with friends when she’s not here

I think 2 weeks is ok for Meeting people but never 2 months again 🤣😒

Jane I have the same issue, not much child free time so I often have to wait a week or two before meeting.

I haven’t got any dates this weekend so I decided to work instead (money comes in handy and it’s better than being alone all weekend).

I have a few irons but I haven’t been putting much effort in. Mr Skinny is back on POF, felt weird seeing him on there but after reading his headline about how he’s just come out of a 20 year marriage, I realised I did the right thing (all he did was talk about how sad it was that his marriage ended and chances are no woman’s going to want to listen to that).

I have been a bit brutal on POF and have stopped talking to people as soon as they mention something I’m not keep on or as soon as they say they have very young kids (I state on my profile that I don’t want to date someone with young kids as mine are teenagers and I’m starting to get my adult life back).

Tinder seems to be better than POF at the moment and I have 3 irons on there but still no real dates set but this is due to me being busy.

I outright asked Mr Beard if he wanted to go for a walk. He was word

Oops.
He was weird and possibly snappy (hard to tell by text) but i looked at the message and thought "wtf am i doing? " the first few weeks should be easy nit like being back in the middle of my marriage trying to guess what he's thinking. So i took a deep breath and blocked him. Without explanation. I hope he won't notice or have his feelings hurt but i need to put my feelings first.

And i need some real life friends who aren't all coupled up so I can hang out with thrm at weekends.

And I need social activities to do

Non coupled up friends. If only...

I vote for a dating thread meetup.

Ah my iron is chatting to someone else on WhatsApp and didn't read my last messages so clearly she has priority. This is what I hate about it all. The shuffling between people

Imagine all the funny stories we haven't shared here! Wine, cheese, laughs.

@Peanutbuttermouth how far away does he live ? Can you say something about having a few drinks so he could stay 🤷🏼‍♀️

@unambiguousbeard it could be his mum or Mates 👍🏻

I'm on several groups in WhatsApp, I'm always online it seems!

Nomoreweeping you did the right thing, your Mr Beard sounds like my Mr Beard, he has messed me around quite a bit, randomly vanishes for a day or two and is just flaky. I have backed off and not made contact with him today, will concentrate on other irons.

Yeah I know I'm always on WhatsApp. All day long. All night long too. But I don't trust anyone who has their last seen turned off. I think they're hiding something.

I turned off blue ticks because they were driving me crazy.

I have mine turned off so then I don’t see other peoples as I get wound up 😂

Oh I hadn't thought of it that way round!