Hello, I'm thinking of ending things with my partner of two years.
He is sometimes a lovely guy, or seems to be. He is kind, generous and usually fun to be with. However, he has never trusted me and this crops up from time to time, it has right from the beginning but I persevered in the hope we could overcome this.
He gets upset if I don't answer the phone quickly or miss his calls. He has taken to video calling me lots. He does work away so it's nice sometimes but I've a feeling he's checking up as sometimes he has asked who is with me in the house, when there has been no one. Also, if I move his stuff to tidy up he suggests I'm hiding it because I have another man round. He turns up late at night sometimes too and I think he is checking. I recently had a skin complaint on my leg and he said it was an STD...When we have arguments he calls me a slag and other things. Then goes back to his normal self but I have been keeping track of these things. There have been other issues as well but I wondered if this is enough.
I have never given him cause for concern. I am the least likely person to cheat. I'm quite private and not very social, I spend a lot of time alone. He however, sometimes goes on drinking binges and I don't hear from him on days when this happens. He gave me his Facebook password because I was concerned about a girl contacting him late at night. Since then he has added others, sent messages to exes and even joined a dating site. He said this was all simply to make me jealous, as he knew I would be looking. Whether that's the case or not, of course it did make me jealous and upset and I have acted a bit crazy on occasion due to this. I have decided I can't do this anymore as recently he accused me again, so I left him to his own devices. He hasn't made much contact and I blocked him after abusive texts.
I suppose I just feel a bit sad that we did share good times and I feel like it's been dirtied by all this negativity. I care about him but feel he has issues and I worry for myself.
What are your thoughts? I have tried to speak to him about my feelings throughout our relationship but he always dismisses it says he will change but never has.