I think my partner has joined a gay man's pick up site

[CatsnRabbits]

Just that really - I feel sick... I've just gone on the computer and his email was open, he has received a message from a site called fabguys. I'm at home today and picking our daughter up soon, he will be home at 5.30. I don't know what to do.

I'm so sorry OP

What a horrible shock, but at least you know now. From the sound of it he was prepared to live like that for good.

Be prepared for the usual denial, tears, threats of suicide, blame etc when he doesn't get his way.

Don’t worry about how you tell anyone yet. Worry about yourself and the situation at hand nobody needs to know details unless you want them to. I hope you confront him

Defiantly confront him as soon as you can.

I think the sooner you confront him about this the better, might also be worth getting some sort of sleeping tablets / herbal or from the GP. It's a terrible shock and no doubt will you mind is all over the place. No need to tell anyone anything until your ready if at all. But do find the strength to have this conversation with him, it's no going to go away. Hugs x

Do you think he’s actually met anyone?

If you have access to his emails, I'd change his password and log onto the site. It's the only way you will know the truth, sorry.

What an awful shock for you

You really need to get yourself checked out for STI's as soon as possible. If you have been having regular unprotected sex with him whilst he's been having sex with men then you could have contracted anything.

When you confront him with all of this you need to ask him if he's been having unprotected sex. Of course hell say no and i wouldn't believe a word he says.

You need to get things sorted. Passports, bank books, birth and marriage certificates etc. Get them all together and make copies.

Pack a bag for him so he has no chance to dither when you tell him to leave.

You really need to get yourself checked out for STI's as soon as possible. If you have been having regular unprotected sex with him whilst he's been having sex with men then you could have contracted anything.

She could also have contracted anything if he was sleeping with females too.

I’m really sorry you are going through this. I remember when I found out my (ex) long term partner was on a dating website and it just crushed me and what you are having to deal with is a hundred times worse.

Good luck when you confront him

This is awful. I think if this is what you think you need to decide what you will do regarding the relationship before you confront him. What is your financial situation?

You dont have tell you're dd anything yet get yourself sorted see if she can go to your dads whilst you speak to you're partner

@CatsnRabbits that is bloody awful. It’s not just the cheating it’s the whole false pretense of being a straight married man. I will be thinking of you later and I hope he is honest when you confront him!

@MrsFoxPlus4Again that's a woke comment but also not true as men are less likely to get hiv from a woman than they are from sex with a man.

OP sending my love and thoughts once again.

I'm so sorry, no one deserves this x

Aw my goodness. This is horrific.

Has he ever shown any tendencies. Regardless of whether he confesses or not you know something has happened.

Please go to the doctors first thing Monday and get yourself checked

I'm so sorry :(

I'm so sorry OP

Omg, you poor thing.
You have to confront him about this and to also book in for a STI test asap.

How are things op? You said you’d confront him tonight, did you do that?
I really hope you’re okay whatever you decided.

Thinking of you 💐

How are you op? Sending you soooo many hugs

Thinking of you OP