I think my partner has joined a gay man's pick up site

[CatsnRabbits]

Just that really - I feel sick... I've just gone on the computer and his email was open, he has received a message from a site called fabguys. I'm at home today and picking our daughter up soon, he will be home at 5.30. I don't know what to do.

I have no advice but just want to say I'm sorry you're having to deal with this xxx

So sorry you are going through this !

This is horrible for you. So sorry OP.

Thank you all so much for your advice.

Sending strength OP. I dont know what I would do. I would be devastated, I'm so sorry.

Oh god,.. there are no words, I cannot imagine how you must be feeling.

Can you message him from your profile and arrange to meet so there's literally no way he can back out and deny it?

Words fail me they really do! I'm so sorry he's put you through this. Stop worrying about what others will think don't dare keep his seedy life secret for him.. oh and be prepared for lots of lies on his part. 💐

My god this is awful. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this OP

OP, I am very sorry that you’ve had this blow. Your partner has been seeking illicit sex for at least a year. He is a liar and cheat who has been with you under false pretenses. He has put your health at risk, and has robbed you of your choice to be with a faithful heterosexual partner.

I would not need any more evidence. His profile says it all.

What a selfish bastard!

I’m so sorry this has happened to you.

I am so sorry you are going through this, what a bloody shock.

You need to get your self tested for everything

I'm so sorry OP, so so sorry

I think it would be good if you could tell someone in real life if there is anyone, this is a very shocking thing to find out please be careful with yourself and take it easy, just give yourself time to process things, maybe a few sessions of therapy when some of the initial shock has gone?

I'm absolutely gutted for you. It's one thing finding out about an infidelity but to find out it is with a man- I couldn't even deal. On the other side of things- don't get
me wrong he has done this in such a disgusting way but it is possible that this has been a struggle for him his entire life. Maybe he thought he could be gay in secret and keep

My friend got HIV from her boyfriend that went on similar sites and she was pregnant at the time

So please book your self a test ? And be honest with them? As if he has put you at risk you need to know

STI check ASAP.
How old is your daughter?

I think you will find a lot of blokes who do this in secret do not identify as gay, bi or trysexual etc. this is referred to as “men who have sex with men.”

They primarily identify as straight, yes they are likely bisexual at least but they see themselves as a straight guy

If you ask this guy if he is gay or bi he may well say no

How are you today OP?

I didn't sleep very well, kept waking up and remembering what's happened. He knows something is wrong, kept asking but I told him to just leave me alone. I am going to confront him later. Our daughter is 9 and she also knows something isn't right. I feel like everything I know has been blown apart and I can't even imagine tonight, tomorrow, Xmas, the future. I haven't told anyone else yet either.