Dating thread 173 - Winter is coming - 'cuffing' is optional

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item. 😘

unambiguousbeard that is very true about 'the things that aren't right now....'
Something happened when we were out last night and Mr Dog reacted badly to it. It wasn't his fault but it seemed to wind him up.
He went from being a very happy, jokey person to a very angry, sweary person. And was clearly finding it hard to calm down. So he excused himself and went home.
He's apologised profusely since. Explained why he reacted so badly. And I think he did the right thing by leaving.
But, I barely know him, so as much as I like him, I think I have to walk away.

Oh god tonight's date mr Poetry thought we were meeting at 8.30 am. AM! He's waiting for me in town. Who has a date at that time. I feel slightly bad but also what an idiot! I'm slightly (ok hugely) amused by it though. Looks like I'll be home alone after all. But that's fine.

At you or someone else or to himself ? If it was that bad he had to go home then you maybe a meeting right to move on

Oh angry and sweary is bad @EchoElephant. Although I do both myself frequently . But then depends on context and he didn't calm down or laugh about it.

8.30am!! Hardly anywhere is open then. What did he want to do at that time?

Jane1978xx the anger wasn't directed at anyone particular. Just a reaction to something that happened.
But I think it was a result of frustration from other things going on in his life.
I understand why but I don't think I can get involved. He needs to sort out some things first before he should be dating.

Sad because we got on really well.

unambiguousbeard a date at 8.30am!! That's keen. Hope you can rearrange.

No it just seems too much x

@unambiguousbeard really 😂😂 has not joking is he ? What an idiot

@unambiguousbeard I'm sorry but 😂🤣😂
8.30 am on a Saturday for a first date!

Is he embarrassed?!

I am lying in Mr Ad's bed bored. He isn't great and waking up in the morning and I am an early bird so am getting a little frustrated now. He house shares so don't feel I can go and make myself a cuppa either.

I'm meeting his parents and some of his family today...eek.

Is it an 8.30am poetry date? That sounds like something you'd be very glad to miss.

Even brunch would be 10am 😂

Echo that would have rung alarm bells for me too. I have dated a few people with short fuses and it’s never ended well. At least he did eventually walk away I guess.

I could do a 8.30am date, I’m a early riser 🤣🤣🤣, poor bloke must have got very confused if he thought 8.30am is a good time for a date.

I think I will spending the weekend alone which isn’t the end of the world as I’m painting the hallway and bathroom. I’m not chasing Mr Beard as he has stood me up twice already, we are still chatting but will leave it to him to arrange meeting. Can’t seem to find any other irons on Tinder and still don’t want to go on POF as I don’t want to bump into Mr skinny.

Two hours after I woke up he's finally gone to make me a cuppa and some toast as I'm starving now!

@Lovemusic33 definitely don't chase if he's stiff you up twice. If someone wants to meet you they will find a way.

Good luck on the meets today sunshine

Not having much luck on apps at moment. Not really swiping on anyone and the few I do are instant matches but then dont respond and time out - why bother apart from the ego boost 😡

I am out with friends tonight in town so here's hoping theres some men out there in real life 😁

@Sunshineandflipflops Wake him up next time, I’ve been awake since about 5:30, I thought I was being generous waking MrNN up at 7:30, he went to bed at 10!

8:30 to meet for a date, what were you going to do?!

I think I'm too embarrassed for him to meet him now. No one normal would think I meant am! Maybe he thinks it's an English thing. It's sort of taken the edge off it really. That plus the poetry

unambiguous go meet him, he may be lovely. Poetry is gooood, I only match with chemists and engineers whose idea of culture is a box set 😱. And meeting up with oddballs is what OLD is all about after all

You’ll have to use 24 hour clock in future 😂

Aw I love poetry. I have part of my favourite poem tattooed on my foot! I've discussed poetry on dates, it was nice.

I like poetry. I've got bloody qualifications in poetry. What's your fave poem @MoreNiceCereal ? If that's not too outing. I have loads now I think of it.

I've seen his WhatsApp though and it's not very flattering. I'll spend all day dithering. But I do owe him a meet I guess.

The poetry would put me off. I get enough of that kind of thing from fellow academics (a disturbing number of whom think that culture is only worthwhile if practically nobody likes it - in my field at least).

I went for a professional computer nerd. He denies the nerdiness but sometimes he makes extremely nerdy computer-based jokes. And never suggests Heidegger's being and time as a guide to parenting (looking at you arsehole of an ex with that one).

@unambiguousbeard I only use this username on the relationships board so I don't mind sharing. It's "Still I Rise" by Maya Angelou.

@WooMaWang my ex is a computer nerd so them lot put me off. Good thing we're all different!

Mr G is also nerdy, but in a different way; he's an engineer and designs robots. He listens to me feeling out over Gothic fiction and feminist theory and I listen to him trying to explain what the heck it is he actually does all day. It's very math-y and techy and I don't really understand it. 😂

I think he's an academic @WooMaWang working over here.

feeling?! *geeking