Supposed to be on a date tonight and this has happened. should i be annoyed?!

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we text at 6 to finalise arrangements. he says pick me up at 7. i ask him to text when he's leaving. its about half an hour to get to mine from his.

it gets to 5 to seven at he texts saying just leaving now will be half an hour because he had to eat, he was hungry. (we are eating later anyway...)

i feel annoyed! especially as he didnt text to tell me. what do you think?!

*didnt text to tell me he'd be late

But he did say “just leaving” so he did think to tell you? Use the time to have a drink and relax

But he did. It's an extra 25-30 mins, it's not like he's stood you up.

yes but he'd said see you at 7. i feel like he should have text and said by the way i will be late because ive decided to eat.

I'd be a bit annoyed too tbh. How long have you been dating? He should be trying to make a good impression. Try not to let it spoil the date though, as its not that bad. Give him the benefit of the doubt but next time maybe make it clear to him about timings and tell him if he's going to be late to give you some notice. Some men just need to be told!

ok maybe being too critical then. i feel it is quite rude to text at the time you are supposed to be there to say youll be half an hour late. but im quite funny about timekeeping.

I’d be annoyed; he knew at 6.30 that he was going to be late because he hadn’t left/wasn’t just about to leave.
I’d leave it though and not make a big deal of it.

It wouldn't change the fact he was still going to be arriving late. This isn't a big deal.
Extra time for you to do any last minute getting ready or a drink.

Rude I’d be well pissed off like you aren’t important enough to have told before he ate

would you still go on the date?

i really cant be arsed with wasting my time and the last man i "gave the benefit of the doubt" to turned out to be an abusive wanker.

Lateness is one of my massive bug bears so I’d be furious about this. I hope he makes it up to you

It does matter as this is a first date supposed to be about good impressions

(disclaimer that I haven't dated since 2006)

I would have told him not to bother and dump. Hate lateness and he's going to eat twice now, what?

sagrada im not sure i want to have extra time to get ready for someone who is so late! haha.

sorry should have said it's date 5

I think it is rude and thoughtless. Maybe not a ditching offence but only if you let him know its annoying I guess or he may make a habit of it.

YANBU, I would have told him not to bother. If he can’t even be arsed to stick to arrangements and be in time for a first date, what’s the point? Don’t settle OP!

Thoughtless, as you could have taken your time getting ready if you knew he'd be later.

rain im just not sure i can be bothered with any man who cant police his own behaviour. feel he should already know this.

when i said that's quite a bit later than we said, he just said sorry and that hed just grabbed something small and hed see me soon. hmm.

His true colours are already showing usually takes a few months then You see the real them think yourself lucky it’s this early

It's a first date? Not a good start.
It's up to you if you think he's worth giving another chance to.

no it is date 5

If it really bugs you at this stage, but you really like him, then just be honest and tell him how you felt about it. If he's bothered about you, he'll make an effort next time. If he's not prepared to give a little ground, it's probably a good time to call it a day. I say this as someone who found something mildly irksome when I first met DH. He still does it now (but a million times worse) and I'd happily leave him over it were it not for the fact that general life/mortgage/kids has made that super hard.

Has he arrived ? Almost an hour late ? I would not be happy,

im not annoyed hes late just that he didnt say!!