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[sashadik]

NC...you never know who's watching

Been with DP for about a year, not long I know but things have been good and we've moved it along. I'm well aware of his habits when it comes to relieving himself and to be honest I've always been fine about it, it's his private time and what he does with that time is his business within reason of course. Sometimes he's been know to take a viagra for a bit of fun when we have sex plus our sex life is pretty good and very regular. My thing is recently I've noticed he has some viagra and they kind of went missing, I believe he has just moved them so I don't see that they are being used when I'm not around. But today, after he had spent the day at home and I at work, I got in, see to my DC and then went upstairs to get cups etc. I noticed some white chalky stuff on the bedside drawers, didn't think too much of it but then moved his trousers and well, half a viagra dropped out of his work trousers. So clearly the white chalk was in fact where he'd cut the tablet in half. I'm usually pretty easygoing when it comes to wanking and watching porn but today, after finding that and knowing it's not the first time I'm struggling with something and I can't quite place what it is that isn't sitting right with me. Not to mention I just have this image of him whacking off all day and really preparing for the moment whilst doing fuck all else around the house which is in fact quite a mess. Of course, I did't mention anything to him but I certainly made him know that I was upset about something. I don't really know what I want from this post so any views will be well received.

Hi Op, i think some of the replies on here are a bit over dramatic. If it bothers you, you need to tell him and actually talk to him about it. Dont just leave! Have a conversation. Explain your concerns. See what happens.

Haven’t read the full thread but how old is he? He sounds like a teenager.

Sorry WTF is the viagra for? He has problems getting hard or is he just chasing orgasms one after the other?

Definitely sounds like porn/wank addiction if it’s the latter.

Juells, viagra is just for the mechanics of bloodflow - it doesn't cause randiness. So he is feeling horny, desires a wank, but physically needs the chemical boost to get the job done.

OP, he is a porn addict.
My bet is that you get rejected whenever you initiate sex. My bet is that he lives in a fantasy world. I also bet that if you dig deep enough, it’s not just web camera girls, there are also visits to escorts.

Do me a big big favour. Get yourself tested.

I too have never heard of Viagra being used for masturbation. In that instance, it's usually not required.
It is sometimes required if performing for someone else though, which brings the cam girls to mind.
Sorry OP

Regarding the white powder - does he ever use cocaine (that you know of)? Coke does reduce desire/performance, while the viagra would produce the 'effect', IYSWIM. So even if he couldn't get a hard-on, he could with viagra after coke.

Would coke use be a deal breaker for you?

My middle aged DP routinely enjoys an occasional Saturday morning wank when he is alone and has time. He definitely makes it a better experience for himself with a little nibble of Viagra. Just makes it last longer and feels better as he's getting on a bit and erection not what it was. Yes it leaves some powder. He also routinely falls asleep immediately after ejaculation. Tissues completely forgotten in the post orgasm nap. Our sex life is fine, the two things are separate. Give the guy a break and respect his privacy, no way should he be obliged to discuss it or explain himself. Messy house is a separate issues.

It sounds like he's on a slippery slope to finding more thrills. What will they be? Something illegal? No one should be taking viagra to wank with.

Wantsmorenow

Thank you.

@JenniferM1989

'No one should be taking viagra to wank with.'

People can use whatever they want (in terms of accoutrements) to wank with, surely? As long as they clean up :)

Cam girls is a different matter and a bit grim, though.

Sashadik. You're welcome. Was at least a year before he let me know this about him. It's quite a private thing and an acknowledgement of getting older I guess. Mine uses porn or likes to visualise something we have done together. He rarely orgasms with me, finds it tricky and prefers to focus on my pleasure. Trying to find his own orgasm frustrates him and puts him under pressure when we are together. He has apparently always been this way and has reassured me that it's not down to me. I accept that and just accept that we all have our quirks around arousal and orgasms. I love someone's earlier comment about . 😆sexy talking. Lol. That's my quirk

Wasn't he meant to be looking after your DC?

Where were they when he was busy slicing pills and on his computer?

we'd become a little family unit

You and you kids are a little family unit, this guy's your boyfriend who sleeps in your house, gets free cooking, laundry, cleaning services and sex on tap. He isn't their "family" ffs, he's a bloke their mum moved them in with. At graduation, he'll be a distant memory.

This bloke lies about wanking all day whilst in charge of your kids. It's grim, seedy and, frankly, a bit of a red flag re: the kids.

Give yourself a good shake and get this guy out of your house.