He hasn't spoke ...would yo bother texting him?

[sunshineonarsinyday]

Guy I'm seeing it's always on his terms.
When he wants to chat I drop everything and I'm there.
Last week he was really chatty this week it's like I'm constantly chasing him to talk.
Today he didn't say a word so I text him at 4pm and he gave me two word replies so I jokingly said "ha ha man of many words"
He replied ..my battery is really low and work is manic ..
I replied .."oh no hope it flys over "
He read and didn't reply
(Has been on WhatsApp all the time so clearly not that manic )
What was his excuse yesterday and Monday.
Basically it's me most of the time initiating conversation
He finishes work at 7
Would you text again later ?
Or wait for him to text me now?

There has been around 6 threads from this OP, all different user names, all the same theme, writing style etc

I think you just need to dial it down. It is a very new relationship (or possibly the start of one). I dont think people are being unkind here, just giving you a bit of a nudge to rein it in a bit. Keep it far more casual. If it works out, there will be lots of time to be serious. If it doesn't, you will meet someone else. Don't get over invested this early on. Invest in you a bit, build your confidence and your resilience.

Some people really put 2 and 2 together and make 5. Just because he’s not like Tigger on speed in returning your messages, it doesn’t mean he’s not into you.

Inane prattle, would drive me up the wall, especially when I’m at work.

Yup

The problem is not him but you and your extreme anxiety and dependency. The poor sod (assuming he's not a lying cheating scumbag) is even resorting to screen shots and photos of his low battery and him at his desk

If he gets wind of your thought process, he should run, run for the hills

Good rule of thumb:

If they like you, you'll know.
If you're confused by them, they aren't that into you.

I have never had to analyse the behaviour of men that have turned into happy relationships, only those that haven't.

This again.

So many usernames all about the same guy.

Get help.

Holy crap, find something else to do.

A good wwaay to work on it would be to actively find something to fill your days. Why not start now. Go out this afternoon. Have a walk, aa swim. Meet a pal for coffee or takea book and go yourself and leave your phone at home! If you can manage a couple of hours it will help you be proactive in tacking your anxiety.

way

Is this the same chat as the guy drinking the non alcoholic beer definitely not in his kitchen?

my last relationship I wasn't like this,then he ghosted me after 6 months.

Ah, so you're looking for reassurance all the time. It won't work.

Someone who ghosts you is a self-centred jerk.
It wasn't anything you did wrong, and you can't stop it happening again if you unfortunately get another jerk as a boyfriend.

Try to back off and be less clingy with this guy.
See how it goes and I hope he turns out to be a keeper.

Switch your last seen status off on whatsapp. It switches off everyone else's last seen too. Gets you out of bad habits driving yourself crazy second guessing why he hasn't replied when he was on 5 mins earlier.

Maybe he finds you too full on.

I would.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3692922-can-he-not-be-bothered-to-speak-to-me

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3683920-would-you-get-annoyed-by-texts-from-someone-your-dating

@MeggyMeg that's the thing I don't even realise I'm being full on till it's too late.
I don't want to be full on
I don't even realise I'm doing it

Maybe you need to speak with a doctor as it sounds like these might be an underlying issue. We have to be healthy ourselves in order to have healthy relationships. Sounds like you have a lot of anxiety to work through.

You sorta remind me of my best mates wee sis, she has (mild) autism n adhd and has a tendency to fixate on things obsessively. Not that its the same for everyone with those diagnosis of course. But might be worth talking to a doc about just incase.

When he's at work he's at work. Most employers take a very dim view of their staff spending loads of time on their phone when they should be working. Maybe he's just busy. Either way, he may not have time for constant back and forth chit-chat about nothing in particular. Most blokes don't do that anyway.

Leave the man alone and stop all this obsessive worrying.

You've been given good advice. If you are the same poster then I can only imagine he is keen given your stalkerish behaviour. Otherwise he'd have walked by now.

Please find other things to do. If you can't then you do need to get some help/ support.

You really shouldn’t be in a relationship with anyone right now.

You’ll never have a relationship that works until you’re comfortable being you. Until then you’ll just obsess, it’s not healthy and it’s not going to work out with anyone.

Looks like you've got enough to say to post 3 threads. If that's not a sign that you're too full on then I dont know what is.

Just take a step back,stop the lunatic messaging and what will be will be.