He hasn't spoke ...would yo bother texting him?

[sunshineonarsinyday]

Guy I'm seeing it's always on his terms.
When he wants to chat I drop everything and I'm there.
Last week he was really chatty this week it's like I'm constantly chasing him to talk.
Today he didn't say a word so I text him at 4pm and he gave me two word replies so I jokingly said "ha ha man of many words"
He replied ..my battery is really low and work is manic ..
I replied .."oh no hope it flys over "
He read and didn't reply
(Has been on WhatsApp all the time so clearly not that manic )
What was his excuse yesterday and Monday.
Basically it's me most of the time initiating conversation
He finishes work at 7
Would you text again later ?
Or wait for him to text me now?

Find a boxset on netflix and put your phone away. Look at it in the morning

Is this the fourth or fifth thread about this guy 🤔

You say he texted you all Saturday and Sunday, why didn't you see each other instead?

This is a new relationship, supposed to be the best time.... yet he makes you feel crap. Get a grip and move on.

Whoah people
Some days people feel more chatty than others! When I'm dating someone we can have days of lots of chat and days of very little or none at all, depending on moods, what's going on for us, how busy we are. That's really quite normal. Most people can't keep up high levels of text banter on a daily basis! Enjoy the chatty days and when you aren't being chatty get on with your lives and look forward to chatting again when the occasion is right.
Since when did daily multiple texting become an arbiter of interest in a relationship?

Met 8 times and your trying this hard?

Creating threads, watching how long he been on WhatsApp. I think he is RUNNING FOR THE HILLS

You said you're trying to think of funny things to text him. Maybe he's not doing that and just contacting you when he actually has something to say. Maybe you should try that too. I find contact for contacts sake exhausting and claustrophobic at the start of a relationship.

He's clearly not that into you.
Stop flogging this dead horse, you'll feel better honestly.

Has been on WhatsApp all the time so clearly not that manic )

Hey - hold on. I am on WhatsApp all the time at work and for work - I don’t use it for prolonged messaging to partners!

Also to be honest, I couldn’t cope with a high maintenance, high volume texting/ WhatsApp relationship. Particularly as I can be very busy at work - 4am starts, 8pm finishes 😕 - and am utterly pooped at the end of the day to reengage in messaging

Please don't text him asking if you've done something wrong or if everything is ok, you'll look super desperate and needy. And no one finds that attractive.

You're just going to have to learn to keep it in, not keep the text going, don't always be the last to text etc, and keep it light.

Stop texting him and stop being so available.
You’ll just end up feeling crap. It doesn’t sound like he’s that into you.

Why are you bothering with this man?

I also think he's not that into you. He sounds irritated that you've been messaging him while he's busy at work, but I suppose there's nicer ways of him saying it.

So I woke up to a text from him this morning,I'm unsure what to do now tho as most people have said he's not into me..so am I making myself look stupid by replying.

What did he say? I think you're best being straight with him and asking him, and then if you're not happy with the reply or he continues to be off with you just let him go.

I wouldn't rush to reply. Just let it sit there for a while. Busy yourself doing other things, let him know you're not just sitting around hanging on his every word

A pp asked why you didn't see each other at the weekend? Good question!

I really think you are over thinking this OP. Don't play games, but don't do all the running either. He has text-send a reply that does not demand a response. Let him lead the conversation if he wants to back and forth. If you carry on over analysing this early in a relationship you are going to burn yourself out and it comes across as being a little too intense. Just take it at face value at this stage.

He's not that into you. You sound needy. Leave him alone and find other things to keep yourself occupied

We don't see each other every weekend as he has kids .
He asked if I had been for my jog this morning and then I've just replied and he sent me a picture of him at his desk at work

Some people really put 2 and 2 together and make 5. Just because he’s not like Tigger on speed in returning your messages, it doesn’t mean he’s not into you.

Inane prattle, would drive me up the wall, especially when I’m at work. Stop being so available, live your life and only use messaging for arranging the next date. Being asked, how are you?, how’s work? & all that, would drive a lot of people made.
Things were so much easier before the self inflicted layer of extra complexity, that is the mobile phone.

Good luck

He told you he was busy at work. He showed you his battery was low. Maybe he was telling the truth?

Either way why not step back from the texting a bit and see how it goes? Just message/ reply before and after work maybe. And busy yourself with other stuff. You'll be happier however this works out.

Mad not made!

I think what made me think was he finished work last night at 7
Yet didn't send one text yet he was on WhatsApp
It makes you wonder

he sent me a picture of him at his desk at work

Sounds riveting.