Been with him 3 years, he can be amazing, romantic, funny and adorable but he has another side where he moans about my children, he is not keen on my friends. He left this time over a t shirt I washed which I thought was my sons but it was my sons dads t shirt, if I’d have know it was my exes I wouldn’t have washed it. I told him the truth but he nagged and left me and told me that his life is running out and he said I’m controlled by my kids. I’m broken again - it’s 13th time he’s quit on me ! I love him so much, I’ve been strong and not contacted him negging him back like I usually do, it’s been a week - should I message him and what do I say. My kids know that he really just wants me as he is a bit on and off with them. I’m constantly obsessing over him and life sucks without him - I’m 55