He finishes with me all the time

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Been with him 3 years, he can be amazing, romantic, funny and adorable but he has another side where he moans about my children, he is not keen on my friends. He left this time over a t shirt I washed which I thought was my sons but it was my sons dads t shirt, if I’d have know it was my exes I wouldn’t have washed it. I told him the truth but he nagged and left me and told me that his life is running out and he said I’m controlled by my kids. I’m broken again - it’s 13th time he’s quit on me ! I love him so much, I’ve been strong and not contacted him negging him back like I usually do, it’s been a week - should I message him and what do I say. My kids know that he really just wants me as he is a bit on and off with them. I’m constantly obsessing over him and life sucks without him - I’m 55

Wake up op. This is not love in any shape. You are not in a mills and boon. You are addicted to the drama. Please gain some self respect and self esteem. You are worth a man who worships the ground you walk on.

This is not love. He's a twat and you're letting him treat you appalling.

You are 55 and THAT is who you are choosing? Please walk away he's a 12 year old boy in disguise!

He is s pig, why waste time and emotions on someone who treats you like shit. Plenty of decent men around without settling for a man like him. He feel out and didnt see his own child for 9 years, that speaks volumes about the kind of person he is. Do yourself a favour, block his number and move on.

He finishes with you because he knows you'll take him back. It's all about control and an ego boost to him.

You’re 55 and talking about “true love”!!?? Ok.....is this a troll?

He is not your 'true love'! Not unless you are crazy about manipulative sulkers who behave like 6 year olds. Let him stay gone and look for a mutually supportive relationship with an adult. Be on your own for a while & learn to love yourself and get some self respect back. BTW I'm 55 and there is no way I would put up with this type of behaviour.

Yep you message him. 'do not darken my door again' then block and delete.

He's really not your true love if he's left you 13 times in three years.

No do not message him. That will only encourage him. Just delete and block now.

You sound desperate OP. And he's got you exactly where he wants you hasn't he?
Get rid. And get your self respect back.

Block him on everything and move on!

He is not your "true love".

Please get yourself some counselling - honestly I thought most people grew out of accepting such behaviour when they were teenagers.
Why do you value yourself so little that you accept this?
And that is before the enormous red flag that is his attitude to your DC. (Who sound perfectly normal to me.) Maybe there was a very good reason that he had no contact with his son?

He sounds like narcissist! Please read about this! They are people that need to control, isolate and belittle the 'one they love' in order for them to feel wanted/needed.

As painful as it will be at the beginning... stay away! You know that's what you need to do x good luck x

HE IS NOT YOUR TRUE LOVE!!!! Jesus Christ! Have a bit of respect for yourself OP as this man clearly doesn't!

You do sound like your self esteem is very low. I sympathise as mine is too. Do try to stay strong though and don’t take him back again. The ups and downs are addictive but break that cycle as you could be a great deal happier. He does not deserve you, and the more you accept his behaviour, the less respect he will have for you. Good luck.

Your poor DC watching you grovel to a prat like him over and over. They'll lose respect for you the same as this manchild did.

This cycle will carry on for as long as you stay together. You have a choice to make - end it once and for all - take your power back- or continue letting him pick you up and ditch you whenever he feels like it.

My ex did this every other weekend. Essentially it was his way of legitimising going out and shagging other people while we were "on a break". He would therefore pick a fight with me over literally anything, scream and storm off and go awol as often as he fancied a sexual adventure. It may be your 'partner' is doing the same. Is this really how you want the rest of your life to pan out? You cannot change him.

No he's not your true love, he's vile. Dump HIM. Do not message him. Block his number, go no contact, distract yourself. This cycle will only continue otherwise, until it totally breaks you.

Show your children that you won't be treated like a doormat. It's the best gift, as a mother, that you could give them! (Well, one of them).

Absolutely do not message him! He's not your true love, not matter if that's what you think - if he's treating you like that he's a waste of space and acting like a petulant child. You deserve so much better. Let him get on with his silly behaviour and as hard as it will be you'll realise that you deserve more.

Wake up woman !

I’m scared as he is my true love and I’m 55 x What utter bollocks!

Really if you not your partners first option don't be his second choice.. you deserve way better than what he is offering, true live don't do that to you..

I imagine you’d be better off single than with this person. It sounds as if your children distrust him with good reason.

Good grief life is far too short to put up with this crap. Get rid. Sounds like your hesitation is down to fear. But it's ok to fear something and do it. You may feel bad for a time but you will get over it and look back and wonder why on earth you put up with what you did. I was exactly the same after a 5 year relationship ended. I now see that the relationship was toxic and damaging.

You think your one true love is this childish bellend? You deserve better. Being single is better than this.