Would you believe him? *title edited by MN*

[Blueandlilac]

So he's away for work for 3 months in the Netherlands, we werent official before he went but he's been saying we will continue when he's back he really misses me etc.
He's met a few people out there and there have been touristy pictures of him. I went on his page and saw that it was all hidden now which I thought odd but didn't think any more of.
A girl came up on my 'recommended friends' as a mutual friend of mine and his.
I clicked on her page and low and behold it says they are in a relationship. Absolutely flabbergasted, because it says they got into a relationship a week after they met.
However, he's been texting me saying he misses me and cant wait to see me etc..
I screenshotted it and admittedly sent an angry message.
He replied very calmly saying they had 'fraped' him, and claimed he couldnt log in.
I felt so stupid and apologised, and he was kind about it. He wasnt défensive or anything at all.
But it still says on her page theyre together and why is his stuff hidden :/
Do people who are almost 30 really do frapes ? Not sure what to believe, I wanna believe it's true but does it sound like a lie ?

This is your tenth thread or something about this man. You're obsessive and odd and if I were him I'd be blocking you.

You’ve posted about this before.

He’s a cheating liar who strung you on to get sex and to get more sex if he wants when he gets back.

Set your bar higher, block him so he stops viewing you as a naive, weak person he can manipulate or carry on dissecting the situation until it becomes an obsession.

By bit being official, wasn’t that basically the same as being open to meeting people out there?

Did he say you were exclusive after going out there? He’s behaved badly but I think you’ve been a bit optimistic about his strong his commitment to you was.

I know it's stupid to stalk but just trying to find what I can to see if hes lying or not.

He is lying. No question. Just move on.

It's my 2nd, I posted last week, but it ended up sorted. Nobody seems to think hes telling the truth so guess I have my answer :/

How can he have been sending you mushy texts and ghosting you at the same time?

1. Please don’t use the word “frape”
2. Dump him- he’s a bastard.

Well I thought he had ghosted at one point but then he came back citing busy meetings at work and stuff and that he missed me.
I know what to do now.

Can you set up another account and look at his??

Ive tried to view it without being logged in at all but it's still all hidden :/ i'm just gonna text him saying forget it, and move on.

What’s the most likely explanation here

1. She is crazy, his Facebook has been hacked and he didnt meant to have you on limited profile

Or

1. He has been seeing her, he has been keeping you warm as an insurance option and has restricted your viewing to stop you seeing this?

Really?

How on earth did you ever think he was telling the truth fgs!

Through more stalking ive discovered that his other Facebook friends were able to view and 'like' the relationship status on his page, yet I cannot see it at all on his which confirms I have been put on 'restricted viewing' 😂
Just got to face the truth haven't I.

Absolutely end it. It’s all lies and smoke and mirrors.

My ex did this to me... went on a ‘work trip ‘ early on in our relationship and I found out he’d taken another girl. He’d been sending me lovey dovey messages the whole time.

These men are clever, run now while you are not too involved. Unfortunately I did not dump my ex and spent the next 2 years being lied to, deceived and cheated on.

I would ghost him. Don’t confront, don’t argue. Just let any messages or texts go unanswered and let him wonder

Delete him off your Facebook. In fact block him altogether. He’s just some guy you were seeing for a bit. You weren’t in a relationship and sound a bit ott. Move on.

Urgh that's horrid of him :/ sorry you went through that.
My mate has had a guy telling her 'i've never felt so strongly about anyone' and then randomly ghosts her 3 days later :/
Just makes it hard to trust when there are so many people like this.

Yeah fair enough, it's just a bit gross to keep texting me and saying emotional stuff whilst he's apparently got into a relationship with someone there he has just met and then lied /hidden it.

You sound far too invested in this guy for someone you weren’t committed to.

Maybe, I just had strong feelings for him committed or not.

How long have you known him?

Look, I can get people are saying youre too invested you didnt know him long enough etc.. But it's still shitty behaviour and I have a right to be disappointed.

You said you weren’t official so it sounds like he hasn’t taken whatever it is he has with you very seriously, mushy texts or no.
Stop stalking now, you have your answer and it’s just going to make you feel worse.
You need someone who is going to properly commit to you and this man clearly isn’t.
How long have you been seeing each other?

She was in a casual thing with him for four weeks according to the previous post.

It was less than 2 months but it doesnt matter. Hes been wrong to carry on texting me whilst having this secret relationship. I will find someone else