Third (and final) thread - C nonsense

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Unbelievable that this is the 3rd thread and still nothing has been resolved.
I wasn’t going to start this one but if anything good comes out of this shite it will be a Glasgow/Scotland MN meet up!

I know folk laugh at all the ‘DAILY MAIL MAY NOT USE THIS’ stuff, but here’s me giving the scummy DM permission to use this 👋

Dear lord, this is one of the few threads I do half wish got picked up by the daily mail etc.
You are so much better off without them OP. False friends and drama queens.
Count me in for a Glasgow meet up and then we'll go bog roll C's house (just kidding!)

They are such immature bitches and you sound really lovely so I am sad that this has happened to you.

If it were me I would just like to know wtf has gone on but I know it's doubtful you'll ever find out.

I’d put money on the fact C knows perfectly well there were NO messages and NO flirting. This has all come about because C was caught sending the text to you accidentally and because she assumed you are as sick and bitchy as her, she thought it was a ‘her or me’ situation. Instead of backing down she felt she had to take a flame thrower to the group. It’s no loss to you, obviously.
Some people are just arseholes like that. Some like to permanently exclude and others like to hoover back in, so they can have the ‘pleasure’ of doing it all over again at a later date.
While I feel for you OP about your ex wading in. On the plus side i expect it will piss these cows off no end that a man (and an ex at that) has gone out of his way to back you up. This would be C’s wet dream, but you’ve got it without wanting it.
I know in these situations it can feel like they have “gotten away with it” but they walk away as the same twisted, unhappy people they’ve always been. While you are on the road to a better life with better friends. I know it sounds a bit cheesy, but if you’ve had a run in with a narcissist (or 3) you’re already the winner, simply by being the kind of person they can’t be.

OP, I really admire how you've dealt with this so far. If any of them (or anyone) ever try to say anything about you being removed on WA or FB do the biggest surprised face and make it clear you hadn't even realised or even noticed, that's how important they are to you !!!

What a horrible situation. I feel so sad for you, OP. However, you're doing so well rising above it. Just keep doing what you're doing. They aren't worth your time and effort.

They've done you a favour removing you from fb because it's one less stress and anxiety from them. For what it's worth, I wouldn't have removed them because it'd show that they're getting to you. This way you're clearly bothering them and they've done you a favour. Keep strong and grey rock.

In time, seeing them and not speaking to them will feel normal and just like any other parent you don't know or talk to.

There's no need for it to be in the DM.

If ppl don't think the reason OP has been dumped is because they've all found these threads and seen the OP call them names then they're being a little dim. And ppl searching for Caroline on FB, FFS!

I'm just saying that even if I realised my friend had done nothing wrong, if I'd discovered she was blowing it all over MN, then that would be the friendship over, I'm sorry.

@ElspethFlashman are you one of these woman?

She wasn't blowing it all over Facebook. She asked for advice. If they hadn't behaved awfully, she would have never required guidance.

It comes down to what friend you are.

I'm the one who was quietly and consistently there when a friend got cancer, when both parents died within weeks with another, when there was a still born baby, an unfaithful partner, and a horrid sudden redundancy to name a few awful life events. I was there honestly and sincerely.

I was never there as the mean girl in a school mum clique, gossiping and bitching and plotting to survive. Would never want to be. Too shallow, too sad, just too much wasteful shit.

You sound like the former and not the latter.

Good for you.

I didn't say she was. If you've read all the threads you'll have seen that posters here were actively searching for Caroline from Glasgow. One poster actually found her.

Boundaries have been crossed.

I tell it like it is. I have every sympathy for the OP because it began in a baffling way and was very unfair and Lord Knows what crack C is smoking.......

BUT she decided to be pretty identifying and has called them bitches and cunts several times. Why sound they talk to her in the playground if they have read all these threads??

And they have. Mark my words.

I think op can call them what she likes given what she has been falsely accused of and not even given the right to defend herself before it was spread around. She's not exactly going to call them kind, caring, confused friends. She may have given identifying clues but let's be clear they have trodden over her name and reputation n real life. It may even get back to her dd and cause problems for her at school. Sorry if you think we should blame the op for calling them a few names on a chat forum.

@ElspethFlashman Are you on glue?

But they ARE bitches and cunts. 🤷‍♀️

ElspethFlashman Are you K or M?

Also this has blown up so much on here because of the pure unfairness shown to the op. I doubt she had any idea how followed this thread would become.

If c and her sheep are reading this then maybe they just can't take the fact that what they have done and how they have acted is just plain wrong. If they were in anyway decent they would accept that they have acted wrongly not continue with the bully behaviour. Typical though that they would find the threads, read it and fallout with op for calling them names when that's what they have been doing to op all along

@ElspethFlashman is definitely ITK

🙌🏼 to the Mumnsnetter who found C on Facebook! That's some god-level stalking!

@ElspethFlashman imma need some more clues to find you on fb myself, I'm a rookie.

I hope the non friends have read it, every single post because there are none whatsoever in their favour. Life is hard enough without these cretins adding to your stress. I hope they get everything that's coming to them #markmywords

BookwormMe2 I’d say you’re bang on the money!

I'd hazard a guess it's exquisite torture for the non-friends trying not to post. They will have read all this, they will be desperate to give their so called side of the story but must be supremely aware they're on a hiding to nothing with it. Effectively gagged themselves by their own hideous behaviour. Ah karma.

Actually ElspethFlashman was the one who gave the best advice from the start of thread one.

*Don't respond at all. Cos mean girls like to gaslight. "OMG I TOLD YOU IT WAS ABOUT A GIRL IN WORK, PARANOID MUCH??!!"

You'd be set up to look crazy and unstable.

You literally cannot accuse them of bitching about you, you have no proof and it'll be weaponised against you. Cos newsflash, C doesn't like you anyway, for doing nothing, so this would give her actual ammunition.

If she'd bitching about you behind your back now, imagine the bitchery after you make her feel bad about herself???

My advice is to plan a campaign of very targeted indifference. How do you do that?*

Jesus. I tried to help the OP in thread 1, she knows. But seeing everyone wondering wh the fuck they've blocked her is exasperating. It's obvious.

But hey, fuck me for pointing out the obvious, right? 🙄

'Mark my words'  I didn't know people still said that @ElspethFlashman

And I notice you didn't deny me asking if you were one of them.

#markmywords

Cringing for you, rn. Cringing.

Still no denial though @ElspethFlashman