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Third (and final) thread - C nonsense

999 replies

JaysusWept · 21/09/2019 21:59

Unbelievable that this is the 3rd thread and still nothing has been resolved.
I wasn’t going to start this one but if anything good comes out of this shite it will be a Glasgow/Scotland MN meet up!

I know folk laugh at all the ‘DAILY MAIL MAY NOT USE THIS’ stuff, but here’s me giving the scummy DM permission to use this 👋

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ButtonMoonLoon · 26/09/2019 10:51

What nasty vindictive little girls they have shown themselves to be.
Block them all from every medium possible for them to contact you, it’s time to protect yourself and your daughter from further hurt.

Happyornot · 26/09/2019 10:51

I have been following this the whole way and can't believe how they have all reacted and C is clearly just crazy!
Anyway could you get talking to any other mums at the school and build a new friendship group, even if just one that seems friendly to start off with? Perhaps a mum of one of your daughter's friends. I say this as someone who finds it hard to just go up to people and start a conversation, so understand if you think aaaah no way. Then once you have new people to talk to, in time you'll forget about these previous 'friends' and have moved on.
Keep doing what you're doing, the truth will come out eventually when C turns on one of the others.

SandunesAndRainclouds · 26/09/2019 10:52

They really have a mob mentality don’t they? I can imagine that you were the only one of the group that didn’t fit - too independent and owning your personality for them. Eugh. Reminds me so much of my experience.

Rise above them. Have a mantra in your head to help you get through the moments when they’re invading your mind. The bitchy group of women did exactly the same at the school gates to me as they’ve done to you. Focus your mind and your eyes on your beautiful DD Flowers

SchadenfreudePersonified · 26/09/2019 10:54

Hindsight is always 20/20 Sunshine.

No (normal( person could possibly envision the lengths that some crackers are prepared to go to. You just can't. Normal, healthy minds just don't work like that.

I've looked on FB this morning and K, M and D have all unfriended me.

Well, that's that decision taken out of your hands. I wouldn't "unfriend" them though - I wouldn't respond to their actions at all. It's just a further attempt to provoke a response. If any of them say anything about it, just reply "Have you? I didn't notice."

You are doing so well.

combatbarbie · 26/09/2019 10:54

Has there been anymore comms between DH and your ex?

You are doing amazing!!

BatmanLovesTheCircus · 26/09/2019 11:04

Grey rocking C is 100% the way to go, but if you see any of the others on their own without C present I’d be really tempted to ask them what the hell they are playing at. C clearly fed them a load of lies at her house last week.

MrsA2015 · 26/09/2019 11:06

Let’s all add OP on fB JUST TO MAKE A POINT. You’re better off without them!

TheRobinIsBobbingAlong · 26/09/2019 11:08

OP, make sure your own FB page is locked down to within an inch of its life, as you don't want them reading anything on your page.

Before this thread fills up I'd like to wish you well for the future. You've conducted yourself impeccably and your grey rock approach to the alphabet brigade is the right way to go. Show them their immature playground behaviour is not affecting you. Should anything drastic happen in the weeks to come, please do come back and update us as I'm sure the MN army will all be behind you and offering support.

loobyloo1234 · 26/09/2019 11:08

Unfriending on FB? Hmm They all continue to sound lik e a bunch of immature twats

How can these women all be in their 30's? Im embarrassed for all of them

And as for C's DH. What a wet blanket? Already knows C has been talking shit about him and still there pretending like he doesn't know whats going on? Cringing for him

LenoVentura · 26/09/2019 11:09

They're doubling down again because grey rock is working. They'll keep up the drip of insults and lies until all the oxygen has gone out of it because you're not giving them any new content. It's hard, but that's the way to go. It's a game to them now, the original premise has long faded away and it's now about how much harm they can inflict. Nobody believes C - nobody ever did - they just like the game.

MarshaBradyo · 26/09/2019 11:10

Don’t worry about the FB they don’t have any power you do you have the indifference

If they keep trying to get your attention in playground keep moving your gaze away from them and see if they break into a two step to get your attention

Keep going op doing well

markymarkandthefb · 26/09/2019 11:13

How on earth have you not lost your shit at them?

5LeafClover · 26/09/2019 11:22

I've looked on FB this morning and K, M and D have all unfriended me.

That's no loss to you but it is interesting as a group action. It suggests that whoever is pulling the strings (K or C) has made a test of loyalty.

The bystanders have had to do a public ( albeit minor) bullying action. My money is that one of the less sheeplike members of the group (probably M who has had to deny what she saw with her own eyes but possibly the silent D) is starting to be uncomfortable with this.

Not that it's a problem for you...but imagine finding that you've changed from a normal grown woman to a nasty group bully just because one of your friends decided it's the new rule.

Chin up, keep grey rocking it out.

MintyChops · 26/09/2019 11:23

They are pathetic Jaysus. It’s just so nasty and childish.

AryaStarkWolf · 26/09/2019 11:25

I'm no longer in their WA group.
I've looked on FB this morning and K, M and D have all unfriended me.
So, that's that!

Are they 12 years old? I'm embarrassed for them

ktp100 · 26/09/2019 11:26

Jeeeeezus could they be more pathetic?!

I so wish we could all come on the school run with you, OP Angry

Skyejuly · 26/09/2019 11:29

Absolute bitches. You are well rid even if it stings a bit atm xx

WhoKnewBeefStew · 26/09/2019 11:34

Fucking bitches, all of them! I know it's easy to say but you're better off out of it. When they get bored of bitching about you, they'll start on each other. I give it 6 months and one of them will try and pally back up with you as they are the ones being picked on. Jesus takes me right back to my school years - shudder.

WhoKnewBeefStew · 26/09/2019 11:35

So is C the only one who hasn't unfriended you on fb?

ContessaLovesTheSunshine · 26/09/2019 11:37

Ah, well. Lock down your FB settings and then at least you won't have to worry about them snooping on your page and finding details to snipe at. Did you and they have any friends in common? I'd maybe put them on restricted view for a bit, or else just stay very dull/safe online. Don't give them anything they might enjoy.

thesunwillout · 26/09/2019 11:43

It would be so cool if you suddenly had an extra 1000 friends on Facebook 😆

Coxie2006 · 26/09/2019 11:44

These woman really are a bunch of immature twats. Good for you by keeping head held high in the school ground. And just remember when C turns on one of them,you can tell them to fuck the fuck off!

AryaStarkWolf · 26/09/2019 11:46

So is C the only one who hasn't unfriended you on fb?

and L? Or maybe they had done earlier?

PotatoShape · 26/09/2019 11:46

I don't get it. C must have come up with some way to make it socially acceptable for the rest to 'cast you out', people need to justify their actions, they will need a narrative that sets them as the 'good' ones.

I think there are more lies to come op. Sorry, but the texts have been proven fake, there is another layer to this.

titnomatani · 26/09/2019 11:51

Bloody hell- how low can they go? Ignore, ignore, ignore. One of them is next in C's firing line. Watch how they come back to you with their tail between their legs. Give it time. In the mean time, do not give their bullying behaviour any airtime in your life. I know it's hard (my sisters act like these 5 women) but you will come out the other end stronger. I promise.