Third (and final) thread - C nonsense

[JaysusWept]

Unbelievable that this is the 3rd thread and still nothing has been resolved.
I wasn’t going to start this one but if anything good comes out of this shite it will be a Glasgow/Scotland MN meet up!

I know folk laugh at all the ‘DAILY MAIL MAY NOT USE THIS’ stuff, but here’s me giving the scummy DM permission to use this 👋

Bugger!

Will get rid of that

Oh god. What a bunch of cretins they are. I'm not far from Glasgow OP, totally up for a meet

After that last update I'd honestly find it very hard to keep quiet now.

I think you've played it brilliantly so far but fuck this now. Its beyond ridiculous. C's husband hasn't a clue! He was never chucked out.

I'd go full on high school on her now. Time for new queen bee.

I've taken the tack of 'just leave it' the whole way along bu after your last update I'd be strongly temped to point out to them that she's utterly full of shit.

Don’t ramp it up again with messages but your ex deciding to support you is good

Let her stew in her own toxic shite

Don’t ramp it up again with messages

Excellent advice here from Marsha

C is all about divide and conquer, she is banking on people not communicating as a whole. Imagine if everyone sat down together and brought it all out in the open...

OP grey stone/rock is great but if you are approached then do be prepared to back yourself up and show the evidence.

She'll still twist it prob tell her h youre a psycho whose made it all up-just dont be surprised if nothing comes of it

In a way, it's nice amongst all this madness that someone is on your side OP. Well apart from ALL of Mumsnet

She'll still twist it prob tell her h youre a psycho whose made it all up-just dont be surprised if nothing comes of it

She should send a copy of her Whatsapp conversation to C's DH where they tell OP that C has kicked her DH out for Lying....... lets see how she likes it when she really starts messaging him, that's the last thing she would expect the OP to do

AryaStarkWolf, I've been watching these threads mostly gobsmacked and thinking grey rock is the only way to go, but I think your last idea about sending that WhatsApp conversation might be worth doing - though it would be shit-stirring beyond measure!

I think your ex defending you is brilliant. He might have been a fuckwit while you were married, but it's good he's got your back now as the mother of his child. His intervention will hopefully enable C's DH to grow a pair and stand up to his bitchy, vindictive wife.

BirdOffTheWire C is the only one who has been shit stirring, all sending on that conversation would be doing is defending herself and exposing C for the liar that she is

I think at this point I'd message the lot of them,all together, including the husband, and state that you have been very upset by the allegations against you, that are categorically untrue, and very disappointed in all of their behaviour. And that you are sorry if there are issues in C and her H's marriage that led him to he kicked out over the weekend but again, they are nothing to do with you.
And add that whilst you've got no interest in being friends with any of them going forwards, you hope that the situation will in no way translate to the kids who should be able to choose their own friendships-so hopefully the adults can remain civil.

Puts an end to all the he said, she said and will leave C having to defend her actions to her husband who seems to have only half the story. And hopefully he will have some sort of spine and tell C to drop it all out.

Grey rock is all very well to a point but there is also a place for challenging, from a place of consideration, behaviour that is totally unacceptable.

I am so mad on your behalf op. I hope you are Ok.

Basically C is just punishing you for speaking to her DH in a familiar fashion whilst single, isn't she. In her mind she's entirely justified in saying you were messaging him because CLEARLY you would have eventually. I imagine that's the bitch group party line TBH. Nonsense but there it is.

Followed all three threads and can see how she’d get the girls on side.
“Of course they’re both lying! They wouldn’t admit an EA at the school gates would they?!? Woe is me!”
Watch as one of them gets expelled by C with similar drama antics in the future.
This is why I don’t bother making friends with the other mums. I say hello, have a chat but nothing enough to cause problems for DS if one decides to go nuts like this.

On a side note, this thread is close to being full again, I hope it's not really the final one

Normally I would have recommended your ex to keep out of it but now that he's gone and done it, I think its really good that your ex has shown all of them that he has your back, that the issue is stupid and that he can stand up for you.

That will have far more effect than any extra messages. It shows those cows that you are not alone.

Let C stew on that.
She will find out that her DH has denied the messages. You don't have to do anything further.
The less she knows now about you and what you are thinking the better... it will drive her mad as she tries to calculate the effect of ex's statement. This is when she normally sends K in to find out what you are thinking and guage the effect she's having on you.. She's lost that option now!! Good!!
Just stick to Grey Rock and get on with your own stuff ( maybe ask ex not to say anything else for the time being) Best of luck Jaysus x

I would have to message them and say it’s evidently no loss to you that they have decided to believe C’s batshittery and not to bother getting in touch with you when C makes false allegations against them (because it will happen).

Whoops I missed your latest update. I would still message them though!

OP I commented on one of your other threads but cannot believe how this has turned up. I am horrified that adults are behaving like this. You have done nothing wrong and yet are being totally victimised here.

I completely understand your position in terms of not saying anything and going Grey Rock. You are bigger person than me, I would struggle not to call them all out on it, in person or over Whatsapp. I like Boulafontes message. I actually think your ex could help here as others have said. I really hope things do get sorted out but as long as your DD is not affected, as you say, this is the most important thing.

I think you have behaved admirably here. You should be proud of yourself.

Duckbilled yes - fab post

It will annoy her so much esp as one if the reasons why she’s doing it is because op is single and she thinks without support

And the bit about sending K in too true

Thanks all.
I was initially pretty pissed off with the ex, but here is yet another person who has heard evidence from C's husband that there were never any messages! Although hearing it from him never made much difference to M
I just have absolutely no idea what he knows, if anything. Surely he must have gone back to C (both times) and asked what the fuck is going on?? No idea what she has told him.

I'm doing pick up today but plan on doing the same as yesterday, There just before the bell, then away.