Third (and final) thread - C nonsense

[JaysusWept]

Unbelievable that this is the 3rd thread and still nothing has been resolved.
I wasn’t going to start this one but if anything good comes out of this shite it will be a Glasgow/Scotland MN meet up!

I know folk laugh at all the ‘DAILY MAIL MAY NOT USE THIS’ stuff, but here’s me giving the scummy DM permission to use this 👋

Thanks @SchadenfreudePersonified. I don't want to merail, but the insight on this and the other threads about the minds of narcs has been really helpful in trying to process what has happened to me. I'm finding it tough going though.

Just RTFTs. So sorry OP. Was really hoping for a better outcome for you. Sounds like C is a classic narc and after living with one for 23 years I agree ‘grey rock’ is definitely the best way to go. I totally understand the feeling of injustice at what C and the rest have done to you but you can not win with a narc. They twist everything so they become the victim. Hope you & DD are ok and you get a Glasgow meet up with some of the lovely mums on here. 💐

Morning all. Have just scanned the latest replies as don't have a lot of time at the moment, but will come back and read them all properly later.
Just to say that DD's dad has contacted me - despite me telling him not to get involved and to say nothing, he as ever thinks he knows best and does whatever the fuck he wants, and he approached C's husband at drop off this morning and asked him what the hell was going on.
C's husband still denying all knowledge of messages!! Says he doesn't have a clue about what's been said and that there have never been any messages from me and that he will "sort it"!

I'm so sorry for all those who are going through similar. I honestly didn't think there was anything that could make me feel like a 14 year old girl again, but this pack mentality and the grown up bullying makes me feel like I should be back in the school yard.

C might have been keeping her husband and this issue in separate corners. She might have brushed off what you told him and kept him in the dark. Maybe this will help. It certainly can't get any worse!

No bad thing OP. Nothing to lose now.

There's no gong back to the friendship anyway.

But would love to see the smirk wiped off her face if indeed the DH does 'sort it' whatever that means.

@JaysusWept He probably shouldn't have done that but still that's very intriguing. What I would like to know is did he say anything to your ex about mentioning it the last time to C, when you asked him about it? Because that lead to all the others dropping you. C truly is a nutcase, she clearly totally made up kicking him out/him leaving, and clearly the others know is BS but don't care

I know you want to do grey rock but I'd be scorched earth in my response you are doing much better than I would.

Your ex has maybe done the best thing she's clearly made up all that shit about throwing him out. Shame he couldn't take to task the total cow bag ex friends on your behalf too

Well you may never hear about it but hopefully it will atleast cause a massive argument with her and her DH, I mean he's surely going to be mad as hell as being painted as a liar/possible cheat and having people come up to him asking him about stuff that are lies and he knows nothing about. I'd be raging if that happened to me in his shoes

Not necessarily a bad thing.. would ex have listed how you are being treated or just the message part?

If only your ex had told C's H he was sorry to hear that C had kicked him out over this evil

I just wouldn't be able to let this go.

I'd post in the group chat.

"Hi All. Can someone tell me what the hell is going on. As confirmed in front of M, C's husband has confirmed that I have never messaged him. Today my ex spoke to him, and again C's husband confirmed that I have never messaged him. If it is alleged that the messages have been deleted, I have advised how these can be retrieved. Once again, I have CATEGORICALLY NEVER MESSAGED C'S HUSBAND. If allegations like this are being made against me I will happily provide access to my phone records, and yet nobody is giving me the opportunity to defend myself."

Good grief. So she didn't kick him out? I can't believe the others stood by her. They'll all be crawling around her right now, each one nervous about which one will go next.

Oh course she didn’t kick him out knew he’d be clueless

She sounds like she needs some sort of professional help. She is not right in the head. I think it might be a good thing your ex has let the husband know what is going on.

@Bouffalant they probably will love that drama......but it is tempting eventhough K kicked her out, she should add them all in including C and L, the cunts, maybe add C's DH aswell haha

It’s just someone who’ll say whatever to win in a fight once you do that anything goes

Let her stew in her own toxic shite

Actually, I think that the fact that your ex is stepping in to defend you and find out what the he’ll is going on, is a really good thing, OP. C’s nasty little sycophants know what you went through with him and how you feel about him, so it actually takes someone that doesn’t have a vested interest, to step in. Unfortunately it’s unlikely to get back to them, unless C’s husband actually pulls her in front of them. I hope he unleashes verbal he’ll on her. I don’t care how cruel this sounds, but if it wasn’t for the fact that she has kids, I’d also hope that he dumps the scheming fucker.

Let’s out it this way, OP, I doubt if anything can get any worse.

Wow, I was still expecting him to be a part of it.
It will be interesting to see where it goes now. I’m not sure what messaging the group will achieve though - although it may make the op feel slightly better for a bit. It’s unlikely they’re about to turn round and offer apologies, they’ve made it clear where they stand, and even in the face of evidence have stood by c.
I’d still grey rock - and watch it unravel from the sidelines.

@MrGsFancyNewVagina Yeah in a way I agree with you about the ex stepping in. I bet C was banking on Jaysus having no support or anyone standing up for her, so she would be isolated, typical bully behaviour

Your ex needs to claim that C has been text flirting with him now. Fight fire with fire.

Sunlight is the best disinfectant.

You are being far too passive in this and playing totally into C's hands. This all "be the better person, keep your dignity" is rubbish
I think your ex did the right thing and it might go away to getting this sorted.
If they believe you came onto her husband it will affect your dd , no question. You have to get your side out there. Its insanity not to

Probably a good thing OP. The more this is out in the open the better. Her husband wasn’t ever thrown out was he ? C really has problems, this is not a normal way to behave.

Well I actually think your ex has done you a favour OP..... Let's see who is giggling in the playground this afternoon

Did your ex mention to him about apparently being kicked out?