Third (and final) thread - C nonsense

[JaysusWept]

Unbelievable that this is the 3rd thread and still nothing has been resolved.
I wasn’t going to start this one but if anything good comes out of this shite it will be a Glasgow/Scotland MN meet up!

I know folk laugh at all the ‘DAILY MAIL MAY NOT USE THIS’ stuff, but here’s me giving the scummy DM permission to use this 👋

Oh, and 'grey rock' is a very good idea.

Start a little gossip of yourself and tell ppl that you saw C and L shagging each other and actually cheating on their respective husbands...their marriage is a facade and they actually have an affair, and because you uncovered this C decided to start this circus to divert the attention from their actions to you...so they'll taste their own venom....you say you saw them together and don't back down, just like she's doing. She'll never ever be able to prove it's not true! grinwink
Then enjoy yourself 🍷

I thought this myself! But then that would just be stooping to their level.

You know I’d put money on one of those women coming running back to you for friendship, because she’s turned on them too, in the future.

Grey rock is the way to go. There is nothing to be gained from further explanation to them. They have decided to believe the fake story. Any indication of your feelings will only stir the pot and may rebound onto DD.
Grieve the end of the friendships, like a break up and then put energy into the other families at school. You seem like a lovely person and I am sure you will find better friends.

You’ve been incredible op. It’s so frustrating when nobody even gives you a chance to clear your name. I suppose it’s a form of stonewalling. I used to wish that what happened to me became a case, just so I could expose what had happened to me - so much had been kept in the dark.

Grey rock is part of your armour forever now and is incredibly powerful.
I hope things stay good for your dd at school

You just sound such a nice person, OP.
They will get their comeuppance. Revenge is a dish best served cold.

Didn't read the full thread but have read the previous threads. I came to say that you should not engage with these kid of crazy people. There is a saying in my culture that who spits on moon gets it on their face. Also that if you put your hand in mud then your hand will get dirty too. So just ignore them. I know it's hard but you do not owe any one any justification, explanation or apology. You know you have done nothing wrong and you can sleep peacefully. No other person matters. Cut them off and move on.

Another song suggestion for your playlist @JaysusWept. The video is funny too.

m.youtube.com/watch?v=5SAlUFIpOWI

this is disgusting and I hope the DM do pick it up, it's a dirty filthy disgrace, what C has done to you.

Goodness Op - they really are a pack of witches. Agree with the others that grey rock is the way to go. Over time I bet you'll find other parents in the playground who are supportive of you and / or who don't like C.

Hope your DD continues to be ok but definitely try to widen her friendship group if you can.

What a nasty bunch of cunts. I cannot believe this has all transpired from absolutely NOTHING.

You poor thing, we all like to think when we are younger that bullying is something people grow out of. It's so disappointing there are bullies at every age.

They deserve each other and I hope they're all watching their backs now that they know how much shit they're willing to watch a so-called friend go through.

Sorry OP, they don't deserve you

My feeling is that C is actually the one having an affair and is just trying to create a diversion.

Just because someone has said on a troll thread they dont believe the op doesnt mean its true

to me softzilla seemed genuine

If anyone asks you directly, I think I'd say,

"I dunno the ins and out but it looks like there's marriage problems... C has been throwing round some pretty wild accusations whilst she sorts it out, so I got myself well out of there. It was all bollocks but I'm glad to be out of the drama, between you and me..." subject change

Chatty, friendly enough, but casting a very different light on events to what she's saying.

From memory, MN commented on several occasions on the Softzilla threads that there was nothing untoward with the op.

Just finished reading all three threads- OP you really do have my sympathy. I think youve outgrown the 'friendship' of these women, because they are behaving like a pack of teenage harpies. Best to just ignore and move on, however tempting it is to set them to rights.

I dont understand the advice about sending a class email, or a class WA- thats just grossly overestimating the amount of people that actually give a shit about this. If they dont know OP or the rest of the alphabet soup, theyre not going to be interested other than thinking 'wtf is going on there? why am I being involved in this, I dont even know these people, let alone care about this he said/she said stuff?' and theyll give the OP a wide berth.

Same goes for the cease and desist letter - IMO, very very bad idea. You'd be backing yourself into a corner and without any course of action if she didnt stop her behaviour itd actually reinforce C's lies 'oh Jaysus sent me this letter but nothing has been done about it, this proves she has something to hide'.

I can't believe how far this has gone! What a pathetic life to live being wee sheep to their queen bee lol! Another one fae ayrshire here offering haunners if needed @gettofuckthrees we can share a lift!

I know it's shit the now, and to be honest if it was me I'd have went off my nut with rage by now and probably ended up at her door! You've more patience than a Buddhist monk in my eyes you'll look back one day and cringe that you used to be mates with them and thank god for their drama forcing the group to combust

Oh op i really feel for you. I think k has been almost worse than c as see is more obviously horrible while k is sly. I hope your Glasgow meet up happens. this happened to me too. September 2017. It all went poisonous between the kids. It's 2 years on and the dust has finally settled. Lots of kids left the school. My C's kids are still there and so are my DC. Hugs xx

Another glaswegian here OP. I think you have been so dignified throughout all this , I dont have any advice, just wanted to wish you and your DD well. You both deserve so much better ❤

Wowsers, is that the time! You have shown a lot more maturity and restraint than I could have done, OP, that’s for sure. Your ‘friends’ are a bunch of fannies. Jaysus wept, indeed. Hope you are okay.

Have you sent the threads to the head teacher and form tutor? I think that would help offer some context.

Are you for real? I mean, really, are you offering this as genuine advice?

So the head teacher is going to sit and read through almost 3,000 posts repeating variations of ‘you sound lovely and they’re all cunts’, and then do what, exactly? Call them all into her office and give them detention? Print edited highlights in the next school newsletter?

What ‘context’ does the headteacher need because some parents have stopped being friends with another parent?

@JaysusWept I've read all three threads and I think you've handled it brilliantly. If I was you just ignore those horrible vile cunts anyone who deliberately excludes a child just to hurt their parent and those who accept that are people who aren't worth a wank. They all sound like Regina George and her plastics

For what it's worth I'd keep a dignified silence, easier said than done I know because you're in a damned if you do damned if you don't situation here. Keep defending yourself its "the lady doth protest too much". Stay silent and its assumed your guilty. Just walk into the school with your head held high all proud because you've done nothing wrong. If anyone approaches you about it simply say "I don't no what's going on, despite the rumours its got nothing to do with me and nor is it my business either" stick to your story and it will become clear that you're telling the truth because an innocent person's version of events never changes C has changed hers how many times now? there's more holes in her story than Swiss fucking cheese!

I know it's hard but be patient I would bet my last penny on their friendship exploding at some point because if C can cause this much fucking drama over a bitchy text slagging you off then she'll do it to one of them, it might not be tomorrow or this month hell it could be next year but her type will end up unravelling because of the tangled web she's spun and when that day comes you can be waiting with a smirk and a savage insult along the lines of "Wow really that happened? oh dear where's Jeremy Kyle when you need him aye oh well gotta dash bye" Hopefully this shit storm of lies will die down in the next week or so.

Purely to help to protect her child in this nasty situation. In case anything escalated at school. It would be the Head’s choice as to whether they bothered reading the detail.

Have you sent the threads to the head teacher and form tutor? I think that would help offer some context.

Oh good grief, please don't take advice like this!!

OP, mentally visualise them all standing in front of you in a doorway. Slam that door shut and walk away.

This is where you are.

JADE - Don't Justify, Argue, Defend or Explain. Keep that door slammed shut and move on with your life.

Ayrshire here. Delurking to say well done on the dignified silence. Fuck them. And I know a fab place for a MN meet up in Glasgow if you arrange one

I'm glad you're going to "grey rock", op, you seem sensible. All these suggestions about dragging the school into it and telling parents' whatsapp group would make you look an absolute loon.

Personally I wouldn't look for new friends amongst the schoolyard parents, beyond civility and promoting your dd's social life. The schoolyard politics stage is short - couple of years and you never need see any of these people again. All you have in common is pushing out a baby at approximately the same time. I'd look to build socially according to your interests, not that.