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Third (and final) thread - C nonsense

999 replies

JaysusWept · 21/09/2019 21:59

Unbelievable that this is the 3rd thread and still nothing has been resolved.
I wasn’t going to start this one but if anything good comes out of this shite it will be a Glasgow/Scotland MN meet up!

I know folk laugh at all the ‘DAILY MAIL MAY NOT USE THIS’ stuff, but here’s me giving the scummy DM permission to use this 👋

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MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 23/09/2019 21:10

🗻🗻🗻 grey rock it is!

Ginmel · 23/09/2019 21:10

Gosh no. Troll hunting is banned on mn

Here's the thread if anyone is interested

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3697981-TO-CALL-A-TROLL-AMNESTY

It was just funny how many people fell for softzilla

Ginmel · 23/09/2019 21:12

@Euromillsplz I don't know anyone in the spaghetti brigade.

MarshaBradyo · 23/09/2019 21:13

I wasn’t on that softzilla one but it was a troll? People on this one kept on going on about the cease and desist letter she sent. Glad the op didn’t follow that.

hazandduck · 23/09/2019 21:13

Ah I see! Will have a look at that thread @Ginmel :)

forumdonkey · 23/09/2019 21:14

53Longsight2019 why on earth would OP do that? School don't need context of three thread's.

Ginmel · 23/09/2019 21:15

The other one youll hear about for a long time is the sistine Chapel thread @MarshaBradyo.
Legends of mn Flowers

SchadenfreudePersonified · 23/09/2019 21:17

Jaysus - I think you are wise NOT to send them these threads. They may have seen them already, they may not, but either way, rubbing their noses in it will bring you no good.

They will either pretend to think it's hilarious that you have so much support from an online community (and read the odd post out in a silly voice and then go "oooh - I'm scared" and collapse giggling), or they will, as you suggest, feel very angry and aggrieved and it will harden their attitudes even more.

You are doing the right thing in just stepping away from the whole carry on.

Many years ago a neighbour (someone I'd supported and refused to join a witch-hunt against for years) decided to fall out with me, too - and told lies and poisoned people against me. I found out when one of them confronted me about something I'd supposedly said.

My answer was - "It's not true. I can't prove it's not true any more than she can prove it is - but just think about who is telling you these things, and what she's been like for years, and decide for yourself who you want to believe." I left it at that.

The atmosphere was a bit frosty for a short while, then things went back to normal - nobody apologised to me, but nobody treated me like crap anymore, either. They just went back to being pleasant enough neighbours. (She didn't, obviously - she remained an aggressive cowbag)

I won't pretend it was 1/100th of what you are experiencing - but it was another Mad Cow trying to bully and isolate. When you can't prove anything - just remember - nor can she. If they choose to pretend to believe her, there's nothing you can do to change that. If you had signed affidavit witnessed by the Archbishop of Canterbury, three High Court Judges and Mother Theresa's Holy Spirit, they would still pretend they believed her- because it suits them to do so.

You can't do anything about people like that except let them get on with their madness and try to keep out of the fall-out zone.

WonderWomansSpin · 23/09/2019 21:20

You're always better to know what people are like than to think they're your friends when they're not. So although this is annoying, just be glad you now know to avoid them.
I'd consider talking to the school. People like C usually tell the school their bunch of lies first.

PicpouldePinet · 23/09/2019 21:24

Another lurker coming out to say that you've been incredibly dignified, OP. Caroline cuts a really pathetic figure. She must be very insecure in her marriage and her own life to accuse people of things like this without any evidence, and even more immature and childish to not just apologise and behave like an adult. Sad and pathetic, and it does seem like she might have mental health issues because none of her behaviour seems normal for a woman of her age. Who keeps their kid off school for two days because of a bitchy text message accidentally sent to the subject of the bitching? Again, not normal. A few sandwiches short of a picnic, I think.
And I hate to say it, but her daughter might learn these toxic, vicious behaviours too... stay well away.

MuddlingThrough1724 · 23/09/2019 21:28

Who needs enemies with friends like these. Chin up @JaysusWept, you are better off without Cuntoline and band of flying monkeys.

SweetMarmalade · 23/09/2019 21:31

What a bunch of complete arseholes! And C is completely nuts!

This must be so difficult for you right now and all because of one evil witch!

Hold your head up high at the next school run, deep breath, look tall and proud and with purpose! Let the gossip mum come up to you, let her dare and make sure she gets the truth with both barrels! As for the others, well, they’ve shown their true colours haven’t they! They chose the big house with cocktails. Let them choke on their margueritas!

Dotcomma · 23/09/2019 21:33

I would say that there are problems in C & hubby's relationship, something set her off when she started behaving differently towards you - which you spotted straight away. The story about you texting her husband about plumbing is something either C has invented, or her husband has made this up to cover up his communications with someone else, using you as a scapegoat.

C has had something tormenting her for a while, the other friend who was meant to be the recipient of the text that got sent to you, has obviously been party to C's suspicions and no doubt all the others will know. Don't forget, the person concerned is always the last to find out and byvthat time you're guilty as hell in their kangaroo court.

C has dug herself such a big hole along the way that she feels she has no option than to carry on digging. All her fakery & facebook photos are so common these days and those who feel they have to post pictures of everything they do 'for likes' are seriously unhinged. The other hangers on are spineless fuckwits who can't think for themselves and blow like the wind with the rest of the crowd. Rather than stand alone and say what they think to whoever it needs saying to, they enable the main fuckwit to hoodwink them and say nothing just to stay in the 'in crowd'. It will happen over & over in that group, C obviously saw you as a threat & didn't like it when you dared to question her. Toxic, the lot of them and their kids are witnessing it, not much hope for their emotional health xx

As you are no longer around to tell the other side of the story, the rest of them will be carried along with C's version of events, it's easier for them all to go along with the crowd, they're weak.

Cyberworrier · 23/09/2019 21:34

Just wanting to say how sorry I am this totally unwarranted shit has come your way. You have acted with dignity and like a sensible adult throughout this mess and you’re decision to ‘grey rock’ sounds sensible. I think most parents if they caught wind of this would think it all sounded bizarre and question why on earth C actually had chosen to put all this in the public domain, it wouldn’t happen if it were true, just so odd. My ma is from Glasgow and she’d say you should stay up on your moral high ground, you’ve done nothing wrong (and karma will be out for these nasty women, the universe will have its way and even this out, I’m sure.)

Milkstick · 23/09/2019 21:39

I'm a little bit surprised nobody's posted this yet. Wink

iMombie · 23/09/2019 21:42

Bloody fab idea about the play list. Stand there with you head held high, with some great “FUCK YOU ALL” tunes playing in between your ears! I would like to add...
Big Fish - You Don’t Know
(please please download this, I like to sing/shout to it in the car on shitty days!!)
& All American Rejects - Gives You Hell

I’m so sorry they’ve all turned out to be such awful people, this thread has been playing on my mind so much. I really hope you’re ok and find more worthy friends.

Wonkybanana · 23/09/2019 21:47

The fact that M was there when C’s husband denied messages and yet she’s still siding with C is just a pisstake

I suspect I know how the conversation went. C will have told the others 'yes, but they would do that, wouldn't they?'. Implying, if not saying, that you and her DH planned how you were going to play it at pick up, and had rehearsed your script so you looked all innocent but really it was just a con.

Milkstick · 23/09/2019 21:50

Another for the playlist, OP - listened to it just now and it's surprising how many lines apply!

CandyLeBonBon · 23/09/2019 21:52

Ahhh @Ginmel youvhavent linked to #penisbeaker? Shame on you!

iMombie · 23/09/2019 21:52

Reel Big Fish even

youarenotkiddingme · 23/09/2019 21:52

I agree with who said C is a narc. It's actually classic.

Get pulled up on behaviour - play the even bigger victim.

Glad there's no issues with DD in school. I suspect that's because they can't actually risk this getting out of the friendship group. Realistically C won't want people actually possibly believing her DH had an affair. She won't want people to know she was slagging you off behind your back - and worse still sent the text to you.

I actually am beginning to think her dd was genuinely ill last week or she couldn't risk her accidentally blurting out that daddy was - still - Infact - at home!

youarenotkiddingme · 23/09/2019 21:53

And if you need a fab song you MUST add DILIGAF

Literally the best song ever!

sunshiney78 · 23/09/2019 21:54

Just RTFD. It’s a shock when people behave in a way to you, that you would not.
What immediately stood out for me that the moment Caroline was caught out with the lie when her husband denied the messages, she deflected by creating a marriage drama to be victim in. That kind of mind is scarily sociopathic.
And what kind of mother allows her own turmoil to affect her child enough to miss 3 days of school! Some of us have been through cheating & divorces and we all know you keep your shit together and away from the kids.
It will be a bit of a grieving process for you OP, but at the end of the day, you were too good for them. X

youarenotkiddingme · 23/09/2019 21:54
Nimello · 23/09/2019 21:56

I have read all three threads (have been reading all along).

All I can say, OP, is that your priority (your DD) is absolutely right.

As for everything else: I know it's hard, when you said very early in the first thread that these 'friends' were (then) your only real support network. However, the way you have been on this thread just shows everyone that you would have people falling over themselves to be friends with someone as decent, honest and dignified as you. Maybe being friends with C & Co is the thing that has meant you haven't made other friends. You may find that other, nicer, people seek you out once you are no longer associated with a bitchy clique. Wherever you find them, you will surely find real, good, proper friends, and C & Co will be just a bad memory.

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