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Third (and final) thread - C nonsense

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JaysusWept · 21/09/2019 21:59

Unbelievable that this is the 3rd thread and still nothing has been resolved.
I wasn’t going to start this one but if anything good comes out of this shite it will be a Glasgow/Scotland MN meet up!

I know folk laugh at all the ‘DAILY MAIL MAY NOT USE THIS’ stuff, but here’s me giving the scummy DM permission to use this 👋

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combatbarbie · 23/09/2019 20:11

I am so glad to hear DD is unaffected by all this palaver. However do not let your guard down, using the kids will be next because you are not rising to their game. That's what happened to me.

Upanddownandroundagain · 23/09/2019 20:16

To be able to move on, I think you need to try to speak to C. Face to face. Go round there when they’re both likely to be there and explain to her that she’s ruining your life, and that you’ve never done anything. Call her on it. If it doesn’t work, you’ve lost nothing, but you might be able to move on. As it is, you’re seeing these people all the time at the school and it’s going to drive you mad. I know it’s not that easy though, and I wouldn’t want to do it either.

I’d also suggest trying to make other friends, probably outside of school, to get a wider support network.

Hangingwithmygnomies · 23/09/2019 20:19

@JaysusWept I've just sat here and read through all 3 posts and am raging on your behalf! What an absolute bunch of spiteful cunts! I know it's easy for me to say forget about them but I understand the feeling of injustice at it all. If it were me I would be calling each and every one of them out as I don't do spiteful bitches. Flowers for you

MarshaBradyo · 23/09/2019 20:19

She can’t go round. There’s no reason for C to let her in and she’ll spin it that she’s being harassed.

BeautifulWar · 23/09/2019 20:19

OP, what a carry on from supposedly grown women! Unfortunately, it happens as a close friend of mine found out with a group of work 'friends'. These people are vile, likely bored and not very bright women. If there's any consolation to be had, it's in the in knowledge that it's not you, it's most definitely them and they will eventually all turn on each other. You are infinitely better than the lot of them. Chin up, lady x

morrisseysquif · 23/09/2019 20:22

I'm appalled at how you have been treated and the injustice would eat at me too.

I had an incident last year with my own family and I did call them out on their behaviour. In the past I've let stuff wash over me whilst simmering inside. I didn't this time. What was sad was seeing those people in a new harsh light. I'd turned a page and couldn't unread it. At least you know now those people would never have your back and you don't need to waste any more time on them.

I would want my swan song and write facebook post, erudite, succinct, and utterly scathing, tagging them all in it stating my position.

eddielizzard · 23/09/2019 20:31

This is absolutely awful. And backs up my experience of how people react to a Wendy. You have been wendied in my view. She has turned the others against you and instead of her being ostracised, you have been. The reason for this I think is fear that the others have for her. They know you're a straight up person, a good friend but they've seen what she did to you and they don't want that treatment, so they appease her and side with her.

Very weak. So sorry. I hope they get their comeuppance.

Bigblue1970 · 23/09/2019 20:32

I can't understand why you can't do a new group WA with all of them including C and her husband (if you can get hold of his mobile number). That way, there is no she said, he said bollocks.

Just get it all out there. How none of this behaviour is justified and that you are horrified at the treatment by people you thought were your friends. Ask them how they would feel if they were in your position and completely innocent. Would they be happy to be ousted from the friend group based on lies and incorrect assumptions.

Point out the sequence of events in a chronology for them all to read as some miscommunication (lies) have gone on between them somewhere.

Then see what transpires.....

NameWithChange · 23/09/2019 20:32

@JaysusWept You Rock. I just want you to know that.

And they are absolute c*nts.

Also, surely, C caught her husband messaging someone, didn't manage to see clearly who it was but perhaps someone with your first name? She then jumped to all sorts of wrong conclusions and it carried on.

He IS up to something, just not with you. And she knows that hence the extreme kicking out etc.

I'm so sorry you have had to go through this, the only positive way to look at it is that they were shit friends anyway and ultimately you've not lost anything. 🍹 Have one on me.

OhBigHairyBollocks · 23/09/2019 20:35

Cuntoline 😂😂😂

Norfolkenchancemate · 23/09/2019 20:36

@JaysusWept I've literally spent two hours reading all three threads, mate im sorry, I have to say that the same kind of thing happened to me although the women involved were friends of over 20 years, and it was all about a boy I went on a date with that someone else fancied, it was all ok when she said she was going to ask him on a date, that was all fine, but when I took umbrage with the fact I was sort of seeing him already it all kicked off, I was made to be the bad guy, the lies started and then I was ex communicated, best thing that ever happened to me. Bunch of botches deserve each other. Morons.

It will take you a couple of months, in a way it's a type of grief, but move on and make other friends, you will laugh about this one day in the near future I promise you.

Good luck and good riddance!
Also, my inbox is always open.

MarshaBradyo · 23/09/2019 20:38

Bigblue why would they not just leave a WA group like that

Changemynamexchangemyname · 23/09/2019 20:39

Think you’d get away with wearing this to school OP? 😂

Third (and final) thread - C nonsense
CeCeDrake · 23/09/2019 20:42

I’m still seething from this .. I feel like it’s been done on me!
Fannyfarts the lot of them.

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 23/09/2019 20:48

I am so mad on your behalf, Jaysus

There is no good ending to this story, sadly. Bunch of utter witches.

You sound amazing, throughout these threads you have sounded amazing. Keep being you. They can't change that.

I don't actually know that I'd be able to refrain from doing/saying something at this point. Just don't know what! So very sorry this has all happened to you. You do not deserve this, any of it.

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JaysusWept · 23/09/2019 20:49

I’ve already put the facts to K, M and D and they clearly believe C’s version. I’m not wasting my time telling them again. Plus, with what pricks they’re being, I really dont care what they think now. The fact that M was there when C’s husband denied messages and yet she’s still siding with C is just a pisstake.
C has clearly spun some tale and she’s never going to back down on that.

If others ask me or speak to me about it, then I will let them know the facts. But I’m not attempting to defend myself anymore to a group of bitches who have turned on me with not one shred of evidence. I thought they knew me better than that.

I’m not even going to be friendly or polite with them. If I see them, it will be total grey rock.

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goodeyebrows · 23/09/2019 20:50

This is just so unbelievably unfair to you OP. Flowers

MarshaBradyo · 23/09/2019 20:51

Too right op

Longsight2019 · 23/09/2019 20:53

Have you sent the threads to the head teacher and form tutor? I think that would help offer some context.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 23/09/2019 20:56

Some people and just jealous, vindictive, spiteful cunts...... And she is one of them....

I agree with combatbarbie

She's not ill, or unable to control her own behaviour - she can behave appropriately when she chooses otherwise she'd be pissing off EVERYBODY and wouldn't even have a veneer of civilisation.

SHe's choosing to be vindictive she's choosing to lie; she's choosing to bully a vulnerable (because alone) woman; she's choosing to be spiteful to a child FFS!

People who can't help their antisocial behaviour end up in mental facilities and heavily medicated; people who can switch their shitty behaviour on and off at will stay in the world and make other people's lives a misery!

Why?

BECAUSE THEY CAN!

It makes them feel powerful and important - they are just sad little wankers with nothing in their lives except their own sense of inferiority, which has to be hidden and denied at any cost.

Euromillsplz · 23/09/2019 20:58

Ginmel and longsight2019. Members of the alphabetti spaghetti brigade I'd wager.

hazandduck · 23/09/2019 21:03

I didn’t see that thread @Ginmel but I’m confused, are you saying OP is a troll?

MarleyBarley18 · 23/09/2019 21:06

Wow.. I have followed each thread and this is exactly why I have zero friends other than my babies and my mum lol and I’m only 25!. Too many fake fuckery friends! Be strong and hold your head up high, fuck the lot of those hoes :) hope your little girl doesn’t get stick because of the petty mums though. Good luck!! Xx

Flossdancing · 23/09/2019 21:08

Good for you op 💪