Third (and final) thread - C nonsense

[JaysusWept]

Unbelievable that this is the 3rd thread and still nothing has been resolved.
I wasn’t going to start this one but if anything good comes out of this shite it will be a Glasgow/Scotland MN meet up!

I know folk laugh at all the ‘DAILY MAIL MAY NOT USE THIS’ stuff, but here’s me giving the scummy DM permission to use this 👋

What absolutely horrible people. It sounds like you're well rid of them and despite feeling so hurt by their actions at the moment I think you'll feel relieved further down the line. The group will definitely implode once they need a new target. Some women really thrive from having a "target". It could stem from a jealousy thing but more often than not I've found that it's simply a way to make them feel like the powerful "queen bee" in the group. These sorts of people always surround themselves with minions who more often than not actually do most of the dirty work for them. All the Queen bee does is pull a few strings and the rest fall into line. You do not need people like this in your life.

Anyway, I would not say a word to them, and certainly don't post anything on a class page, or speak to the school about it (unless it starts affecting your dd). Most parents won't care or won't even have heard about the issues. If anyone brings it up with you then you can shut them down there and then by simply saying that someone has been spreading lies about you. Hopefully the message will pass along to anyone who does gossip about it.

I'm so sorry you're in this situation as it's very hurtful to be turned on in such a way, but at least your learnt what was going on now rather than spending any further years thinking they were your friends when really they've been bad-mouthing you behind your back.

I very rarely post on FB anyway, so there isn't much to see anyway.
I don't want to unfriend them purely because it's just feeding into their drama.
I have no idea what the fuck they think they're playing at, and, quite frankly, I don't care anymore.
I'm so pleased I'm not doing pick up today!

At pick up tomorrow, I won't even approach them.
I'm completely done with them.

Forgot to say - in terms of the group (who I suspect have always been closer to C and perhaps involved in the two faced ridicule of op) believing C; she has played a blinder with the "throwing husband out" thing - who throws their husband out over nothing? What couple has a giant fight over nothing? They think something must have happened. C says op sent messages and has no proof, but op has no oroof she didn't either.

OP - I actually dont think you would be feeding the drama if you block on WA and unfriend them on FB. You have done NOTHING wrong. Why would you pretend to be friends with these women? On my first post on your first thread Im pretty sure I called them wankers for not having your back. And here we are, proving my point

Just erase them from your life. Else everything you post or like on FB will be scrutinised by them within their other group chats and so on

Makes you wonder if they've found this thread?

It is horrible, all this drama , from one mis-sent message.
Sadly I think they have stupidly either believed Caroline , or want to pretend to believe her because she is more socially advantageous to them than you are.
Truth will out OP, even if it takes a few years. Caroline will eventually expose herself.
I feel very sorry for you to have been treated so appallingly. Do you have any other friends among other parents ?
I probably would let my child’s teacher know, as this will obviously cause problems for your dd.

What a shower of bitches. Especially K. At this point I’d ignore and walk away from the lot. No confrontation, no drama, no fucks given. I wish I was surprised but I’ve seen playground dramas and women having a go at each in the playground of their kids school. It’s absurd. You sound lovely, like you’ve had a really hard time with your ex but that you’ve picked yourself up. You deserve some decent friends. I’d love to have you as a friend so anyone who does will be lucky.

C never kicked her DH out. Bet he was just away on a trip.

Dear OP, I am really sorry to read your latest update. Those women are vile toxic people. I know it's easy for us to all say you are the bigger person & don't let it get too you. Something very similar happened to me recently & I know how devastating it is. I got to the point I can't even go out to my local corner shop just incase I run into them.
My experience is there is always a ring leader & a bunch of sheep who follow as they don't want to be the next victim. Sending you lots of love x

If any of you are reading, SHAME ON YOU , YOU HORRIBLE BUNCH OF DUPLICITOUS WOMEN. May this come back on you .

OP you are awesome! It never fails to surprise me how vile women (and men for that matter) can be. You have conducted yourself impeccably and you can hold your head up high.

I am learning that bitchyness and bullying really isn't confined to the playground. I am not so poised as you OP and fall foul of my temper but this thread has been inspirational to me in terms of me learning not to stoop to the level of the cliques and be the best that i can be. So thank you xx

I don’t think C ever threw her husband out. He went away on a prearranged trip, it just fit in nicely with C’s narrative of husband flirting with with OP etc.

I think it will be clearer when the H is next at pick up at the same time as OP. If he approaches you OP I’d tell him calmly exactly what has occurred I bet he has no idea.

Just block them on FB and make an effort to stop focusing on it. They’re horrible and I’m sorry this has happened to you, you’re not helping yourself by keeping an eye on them now though. If you’re not into the drama cut off their oxygen by cutting their access to you and hone your “I don’t give any fucks” attitude for drop offs. Lick your wounds in private and once you feel a bit better focus on meeting new people.

I’m not wholly certain that the dh isn’t involved to the extent that he’s going along with it for an easy life (I think I mentioned it on the previous thread)
Only time will tell.
Actually you may never know and tbh who gives a fuck.
Your life is facing in a different direction now and I guarantee it will be much happier

Unfriend them on all social channels. Remove their numbers from your phone (but keep a note of them somewhere written down in case you ever need it). Screen shot all text messages and then Delete completely the WA groups involving them and cut ALL contact. Do not give them any info about yourself to feed their dramas. Smile, be polite but do not engage. What absolute bitches. Good luck at pick up op.

One of them or the husband may approach you tomorrow just been prepared. If you see gossiping bitch then shut her down straight away!

I don't blame you just ignore.

I feel so so bad for you op. You do not deserve this at all. I'd speak privately to teacher regarding keeping an eye on dd. And if anyone says anything put them straight in a calm way. They are truly horrible people.

@JaysusWept I'm so sorry for you, this is such a crazy situation that even if you tried to explain it to another mom on the playground they'd be rather dubious. But you've handled this all fantastically, honestly I'd want to be friends with the mom who's kept her head held high and not got involved in all this crazy he said, she said biz.

I do hope your daughter doesn't suffer because of all this and those ladies should all be ashamed of themselves.

I would block them on Facebook (and I do understand why you don't want to) but unlike WhatsApp at least it doesn't notify them and you're quietly letting them know where you stand in all this.

I seriously think you’re going to look like you’re guilty if you don’t do something!!!

I would limit/unfriend/block them on Facebook before they did it, but I'm childish like that!

Much sympathy OP, it's one thing kids falling out, but when their parents do it's truly pathetic. We have a situation where one family has started to blank us and others are frosty too, there's just no need for it.

I would mention to the school that there seem to have been some issues between you and other parents that you can't fathom, so you'd appreciate it if they kept an eye on the kids to make sure these issues don't overspill into kids friendship/behaviour at school.

Jaysus I am so sorry this has happened to you. These women are awful; nasty, two-faced and vicious. You are doing really well in not responding to them. Treat them like a pane of glass at pickup, look right through them and sail on past. Oh, and let this be your soundtrack.....

m.youtube.com/watch?v=Vqbk9cDX0l0

OP- I repeat what I said before. Thinking of yourself as lucky that they showed themselves for what they are now before you put any more effort into the relationship.

Do Not block them on Facebook. I deactivated my Facebook last year and I have not missed it. Just change the password to something you’ll never remember and quietly let it all go.

I’d delete WhatsApp for a bit as well. You can still text people.

And then start a new hobby. Plan some things for your DD. Start looking to the future.

I would even go so far as to recommend changing schools. Eventually. Not now in the middle of the drama. Give it a year and then find somewhere else for yourself and DD to start again. It sounds like all you have in this area at the moment is an ex, his OW and a group of cunts that used to be your friends.

Spend some time making your life amazing. Quietly get on with it. And then re-activate your Facebook when you are really ready and show them all how well you got on without them.

YOU DON’T NEED THEM.

They need you- as a scapegoat goat to keep their fucked up friendship together. They’ll turn on each other eventually.

How utterly hurtful. What a bunch of nasty childish bitches.

I’m so sorry that this has happened @jaysuswept

What will you do if they approach you? Always have contingency plans incase there's potential that you'll be blindsided :)