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Third (and final) thread - C nonsense

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JaysusWept · 21/09/2019 21:59

Unbelievable that this is the 3rd thread and still nothing has been resolved.
I wasn’t going to start this one but if anything good comes out of this shite it will be a Glasgow/Scotland MN meet up!

I know folk laugh at all the ‘DAILY MAIL MAY NOT USE THIS’ stuff, but here’s me giving the scummy DM permission to use this 👋

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Iamdobby63 · 23/09/2019 10:46

Hard to believe these are adult women , if this behaviour was carried out by any of their children they would be up before the Head. Bunch of bullying bitches.

I know many here think you should not do anything, maybe they are right I don’t know, either way could led to more issues.

One thing I would do for sure though is to take Ms nosey Parker into my confidence, but that’s me ... I guess I would want my version of events ‘out there’

I’m sure K removed you in order to gain brownie points from C, clearly having her head inserted in C’s are wasn’t enough.

Much more of this and I reckon you will have an army of Mumnetters doing the school run with you!

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JaysusWept · 23/09/2019 10:51

I've checked FB and they haven't unfriended me, although they'll know that I'm not very active on FB so maybe they've just forgotten that they have me on there Hmm

Honestly completely gutted at how this has escalated. Wankers.

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incognitomum · 23/09/2019 10:52

I agree they're trying to provoke you.

Please don't react. Try to do something away from them. Is there a class you can join? Have you arranged to meet any Mumsnetters?

TheRobinIsBobbingAlong · 23/09/2019 10:54

OP - post this on FB and in your status put "Ditto WhatsApp"

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SmellMySmellbow · 23/09/2019 10:55

Take the initiative and you delete them all now on fb. And block them from WhatsApp and phone/text. The latter is the long game - one day they'll reach out to you again, when the truth comes out (which it will) and C turns on them. And they'll realise they fucked it. It'll give you the headspace that you can't see their petty shit. They'll hate that.

BatmanLovesTheCircus · 23/09/2019 10:55

Out of interest, how do you know it was K who removed you? Does it inform you who removed you from the thread, or did one of the others tell you?

BiMum5 · 23/09/2019 10:55

What a pack of utter bitches!

SpinySue · 23/09/2019 10:55

I think they know fine well she is lying through her teeth - but they'd rather have her in their tent pissong out, than outside it pissing in, She has shown that she is a dangerous enemy to make

This exactly. They've taken the path of least resistance. They just want to stay in a group even if their group is shite and the all hate each other and no one can be trusted!

@JaysusWept It hurts like fuck just now but you will start to feel better to be out of it eventually. We should do a Glasgow meet up, who's a nice C on this thread that can arrange events but isn't dangerous?

MarshaBradyo · 23/09/2019 10:57

They’ve also learnt how vicious she is. So yep she can say the sky is purple at this point.

GilbertMarkham · 23/09/2019 11:02

They know what she is like and have chosen to stick together for fear they will be next.

Don't get me wrong - I also think they're a bunch of self serving c*nts - bug they don't actually know for absolute certain who's lying.

C is maintaining she saw FB messages from op to her husband. If I'm correct, FB messages can be sent without being friends on FB. She's saying they've been deleted since do she can't produce them. What she's saying about any deletion recovery, who knows.

Op says she didn't send them, but they don't know of any (rational!) reasons why C would like about them. They are likely to be swayed by the shitty but nonetheless believed theory that single women are lonely, pathetic, desperate for attention and a man of their own, potentially predatory etc. So that's their reason behind op sending the messages esp if C says she's been flirting with her dh.

They have to choose who they think is lying - and they've chosen op. They'll dismiss the DH episode as him lying for some reason or another to cover it up. Either to not get shit from C for not telling her about the messages, or feeling sorry for op, or not wanting to cause a big schism in the social group, or maybe contemplating some on the side action at a later poibt, who knows.

The fact that who they've chosen to believe also aligns them with the perceived stronger and higher status person and social contact .... Well, very convenient.

7yo7yo · 23/09/2019 11:03

I think you need to address this.
At least put a message in the class what’s app.
Someone upthread had a really good message. Send that.
Delete them of Facebook.
Don’t engage with any of them.
If they approach you, turn around and walk away. Don’t even pretend to be polite.
Widen your social circle and that of your daughter.
I would also “confide” in the village gossip.
Time to start fighting fire with fire I’m afraid or lies with half lies.
Your an adult, you can handle it, it’s you DD you need to protect.

Honeybingbong · 23/09/2019 11:04

They are passive aggressively poking you. Such nasty behaviour. I know it easily said that done but keep ignoring the horrible bitches and fingers crossed the daily mail pick up your threads and give them something to really bitch about.

EnriqueTheRingBearingLizard · 23/09/2019 11:05

What a horrible situation.

I would definitely ignore as you could never trust any of them again.

I would though seek out the school gate gossip and say that following her questioning your ex you have one thing and one thing only in reply. Say you have no idea why, but C has started a wholly unfounded rumour about you and that you will have to seriously consider getting legal advice should anyone perpetuate the defamatory statement.

MarshaBradyo · 23/09/2019 11:06

The op doesn’t have the support to put up a message on the class WA. She has a wall of people ready to pounce if she does.

And that’s before thinking about how odd it would be amongst messages about swimming and clubs

Most will not know or care about this gossip but if she does she’ll look even odder

See what the week brings.

I know it sucks it’s awful

GilbertMarkham · 23/09/2019 11:07

Also I don't think this choice of "ally" has been something recent, due to this episode... I think this has been established from the beginning. You have no idea who else was involved in the behind back bitching and demeaning if op that C and L have clearly been involved in. Seems like op was always a satellite member of the group, perhaps partly included for two faced support/satisfaction at her circumstances and prime gossiping access ... Op just didn't realise it.

I agree ant further attempts to clear your name are pointless, counter productive even. Time to disengage and concentrate fully on alternative social outlets.

Someone else will be next. Just appreciate not being involved with such people any more

ProhibitedRodent · 23/09/2019 11:08

What bitches! You haven't done anything wrong!!!! Shock

Span1elsRock · 23/09/2019 11:09

Don't react OP in any way shape or form.

It just gives the situation your attention - and they don't deserve it.

What a bunch of sad arsed biatches. You're worth better Flowers

CeCeDrake · 23/09/2019 11:13

Just seen the latest update .. this is just insane!!!

DerbyshireGirly · 23/09/2019 11:14

Don't react OP, don't give them the satisfaction.

CoraPirbright · 23/09/2019 11:14

This is one of those few occasions when I DO hope that one of the people in this scenario stumbles across these threads and realises its about them! If you ARE reading this: you are utterly despicable and have treated the OP abominably. She has done absolutely nothing wrong and you are a bunch of lying bullies who should be ashamed of yourselves.

OP I am so so sorry you are going through this. I would just try to muster as much dignity as possible, keep calm and carry on (but I would also approach the local loud-mouth and tell her your side of events. Let her do the dirty work of counteracting some of this crap).

ineedanonmol · 23/09/2019 11:16

They really have all shown their true colours. What horrid women.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 23/09/2019 11:18

Put them all on restricted view of your FB.
Don't defriend them but they don't need to see what you put on your wall.
Hide them so you can't see their shit either.

And tbh, I think K is at least AS dangerous as C, if not more so, because she's far more fucking devious. So twofaced and underhanded - at least C blew the situation open, but K was still pretending to be on your side while not being.

It is no longer relevant who believes what - or if there is even anything TO believe - this is a planned attack on you to get you out of their group.

So now you REALLY have to disengage from them all. They've taken the WhatsApp decision out of your hands, now restrict them on FB for your own safety.

And if you haven't already had a chat with your DD, you really need to.

LorelaiRoryEmily · 23/09/2019 11:18

OP I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. What a pack of utter cunts. Fucking horrible women.

Ilovepotato · 23/09/2019 11:27

Can't actually deal with how some people get through life being AWFUL and yet somehow manage to stay on top. Just know you have a whole 3 threads of people on your side OP. It is most definately not you, its them.

PanamaPattie · 23/09/2019 11:28

As I said earlier K is the shit stirrer. She's seems to be the driver of the drama. Please don't respond as this is exactly what K wants.