Third (and final) thread - C nonsense

[JaysusWept]

Unbelievable that this is the 3rd thread and still nothing has been resolved.
I wasn’t going to start this one but if anything good comes out of this shite it will be a Glasgow/Scotland MN meet up!

I know folk laugh at all the ‘DAILY MAIL MAY NOT USE THIS’ stuff, but here’s me giving the scummy DM permission to use this 👋

Unfortunately I faced a similar situation with a "C" and in addition to trying to isolate me (and me not reacting) she then became very chummy out of school with my child's form teacher (C's child was in another class by the way) and the teacher's attitude and treatment of my DC changed overnight.

I think the highlight of these peoples' sad little lives was being a bully at school and if they get the chance to bully in adult life they take it.

I can't say whether its better to defend yourself with the other parents at school or just ignore C and her cronies.

Grey rock OP! Ignore the lot of them

In all honesty I think the best thing is just to walk away with your head held high. Further contact with any of them is just doing fuel to the fire.

Some people love the drama things like this cause and thrive on it, but for me life is just too short to spend time in the drama.

Op you can't control what the others will do, but you can control your reaction to their drama. Remain (at least publicly) completely indifferent to the drama. If anyone at the school gate asks, just say every story has two sides and leave it at that. Come off the WhatsApp groups and delete them from Facebook. Why allow them access to your page? Let them fester in the negative drama, it's not worth your time.

Christ this is awful.

Grey rock, it's the only way to deal with lies of this magnitude.

OP - please please talk to her DH to find out what is going on

I've een following since the start and cannot believe that she is carrying this on. So sorry for you op.

Tigger I use that phrase with ds all the time. "You can't control others behaviour - just your reaction to it".

Hi @possomblossom, I'd like to add to the "grey rock" advice re the alphabet loops, but if other people ask about it, I'd be strongly tempted to reply something along the lines of "I honestly have no idea what's going on/your guess is at least as good as mine/some people appear have gone around the U - bend/some people seem to have flushed their common sense down the crapper/insert other distancing comment.....

Sorry! meant to address that to the OP.....

I definitely wouldn’t be ending cease and desist letters or public posts or anything like that, it just makes you look like you’re part of the drama creation.

I would do a combination of grey rock and leaving the WhatsApp group with a polite message before saying ‘I’m leaving the group as it seems like the best thing to extricate myself from this mess is to not be involved with it at all’

Fucking hell, what a shower of cunts.

As my name suggests, I'm in Glasgow & will happily provide haunners or just coffee, cake & a chat.

Roun them all hen. Rockets.

Bonkers just bonkers

Haunners haha yasss, I'm in Ayrshire, but il chum your sister up on the train OP!!

What a shite thing to happen to you and I can't give any better advice than what's been given before. Just know that there's folk who believe you and are thinking about you love

Roasters so they are

While doing random guessing here’s one.

Dh was cheating, nothing with op mind. C finds out thinking it is op, obviously finds out it wasn’t. Kicks dh out, agrees to repair relationship and forgive real affair if dh agrees to C’s story about the op, he keeps his marriage, she doesn’t have to say sorry for being wrong and it’s sold as someone trying to steal her husband rather than him dicking someone else.

The messages won’t be recovered as part of moving forward was to not look back as such flirty/trampy messages. C just wants to move on and never hear the op mentioned again. Others however will gossip but that’s nothing to do with her Etc.

If op turns up she’s unhinged and adds to c’s Story. Op posts that message and parents that where not involved wonder why the apparently innocent party is the one actually spreading the news when the poor wife is keeping a dignified silence in the presence of school and only moaning to a couple a close friends who are clearly supporting her as per Friday night photos.

Another Scottish mumsnetter here wanting to show support! Morayshire, so a bit oot the road but would be willing to come down to Glasow to show those fuckers what's what! We're with you OP, just remember the support and love you're getting here. X

Shortest separation ever there then .

Sadly I think C will never let this lie now, unless she is exposed, or has a way out.
I think she will get more vicious, and it will end up having an impact on your daughter.
If there were no children involved I would be inclined to simply ignore, but with children, I think I would confront her in front of her husband, or actually maybe just have it out with her husband. I would have someone with me to witness and as support.

I've just read through the three threads. What an awful situation for you to be put in Jaysus! I suspect that you haven't heard the last of her yet either.

However, I think the chances are very high indeed that someone from your class, or another class in the school, has already read these threads. It's likely that they have been able to identify who you are from the gossip that is inevitiably already circulating.

If they have read these threads, I would imagine that people would be very sympathic towards you, as they have on here. I really hope that they will take the initiative and give you a smile, or a hug, and ask you out for a coffee, or a glass of wine, or a playdate for your DD. Or all three!

I'd be quite tempted to give the gossip woman who approached your ex, a link to these threads, as a pp has already suggested. I believe you'd have people clamouring to express support to you, and it would stop C dead in her tracks from being able to spread any other nasty lies. She'd be shown to be the deranged woman that she is.

Sorry if it’s already been covered,
But did Op meet K and pos others for lunch today as arranged?

op cancelled the lunch

Ah ok, must have missed that update.

I've just caught up with all three threads. I am so sorry you're having to deal with this OP. It is bat shit! Those people don't deserve you.

You definitely need a new social circle and with all on MN behind you, I'm sure you'll do just fine going forward. Best wishes.

This thread makes me angry and feel sick (just caught up on all 3). I wish I could say that I'm in disbelief over the behaviour of grown women... But unfortunately I'm not :(

OP I'm so sorry you've had to deal with all of this. It sounds like you might end up with some decent friends from MN - I'm way down south otherwise I'd love to join in a MN meet up.

I know how hard it is to find friends as an adult. There is an app I know which is basically girl tinder. You set up a profile and swipe left/right based on if you think you'd get on with the woman. If you match then you can message. I'm not sure if I'm allowed to say what it's called. But here's a link: www.heyvina.com/

Chin up OP. You're worth so much more than these fake women!

I’ve been watching your threads since the first one and keep trying to comment something helpful but it’s all so bat shit crazy I don’t really know what to say.

I honestly think you are better off without these so called friends op. Just keep telling yourself that this too shall pass. You’ll move on and make more friends who will know your a kind person and you’ll tell this story and laugh. Mean while C and co will still be liars and drama queen bitches. They will in time turn on each other and you’ll be able to sit back and laugh. They are nobody’s friend, least of all each other’s. Grey rock the shit out the horrible bitches !